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thanks for your help. I agree with you entirely, and yes she is having a lot of trouble dealing with it. She cant sleep and she refuses to eat. I know shell pull through this though, shes a very strong person. Your words are ones to live by; Ill be sure to pass the message on to Sally.

There is this girl. We will call her Sally. Sally went over to Jack's house. Jack wanted to have sex, but Sally didn't. Sally resisted, but finally tired of it and let Jack enter her. She knew she didn't want to do this, and felt violated when he began to have sex with her. She wasn't excited so it hurt her very much. Sally scratched Jack's back with pain, whimpering and crying out that it hurt very much, but he did not stop, nor acknowledge what she was saying for a while. Ten minutes later he asked her if it hurt, and she said yes very much, and his reply was, I'm going to do it again ( the penetration that caused her so much pain). He kept going until he saw her crying, and then only asked what was wrong, not if she wanted to stop. She had to push him off before he would stop. Sally did not consent to this sexual intercourse. Is this considered rape?

I can understand your intense need to have her know your feelings, but dont rush into it like you are trying to do. If a guy were to step to me and tell me that he loved me when I barely knew him, my first reaction would be to walk away slowly and make no fast movements. You can, if you so desire, tell her that you like her, and you would love to spend more time with her. Just get up your guts and call her.

It is obvious that your brother is jealous of you, and that you are able to get the girls that you do. Either that or he does not have enough self-esteem to leave the girls you like alone, and get his own. In either case, the best thing I can suggest is that you confront him about it. If you tell him you understand that he does not have much self-esteem and feels he needs to steal your females, but you would appreciate if he would back off, it might just scare him enough to make him do it. I can practically guarantee that he will deny it and get pissed at you for even thinking that he might feel like that. However, I have never seen a case of this where the person had high self-esteem and was not jealous. And if he does not back off? It might not help in the short run, but in the long run you can comfort yourself that he will most likely be a very lonely person for most of his life if the only reason he goes out with the girls he does is because you did first.

Think about what it is you see in her. When you are thinking about her, is it the great conversations you have with her, or how awesome her butt looked in those pants today? If you enjoy her for her conversations and her mind, then chances are you have real feelings. If you are only thinking of her body, then it is just lust.

Ok, lets get some backround information.... A guy that goes to my school, Farhad, and I have been making eye contact for a couple of months now. It has been pretty obvious that we find eachother attractive. Yesterday he got onto my bus, and asked to sit next to me. I know that he did want to sit by me because there were plenty of other seats available. So we were quiet for a while, and then he asked me what grade I am in. I answered, and from there we did not stop talking until I reached my stop. We had a great conversation about the most basic things- you know, school, work, family. Today I rode the bus again, and again he sat next to me, except this time he did not start a conversation with me. I kept getting the feeling like it was my turn to say something so that he would know I was interested. Sadly I was attacked by an extreme form of shyness that is not common to me. Now every time I see him, my tongue gets completely tied and I have no idea what to say. Does anyone have any advice to help me start a conversation with him?