Hi, I'm so confused about what to do, I've been in a three year relationship with a wonderful woman, who even followed me to a different country (with work, we work for the same company), well a few weeks ago, she gave me the old lines about loving me, but not "in love", and she needs some time. I was distraught and asked her if someone else was involved, to which she answered no. Well, we broke up (me thinking that a bit of time would heal things), only to find that she started seeing the guy who's my boss! the day after I left the apt, and was a supposedly a good friend! (I'd confided in him a lot during the break-up period).
When I look back now, I realise they'd started to become quite flirty with each other the last couple of months, but played it cool, as i didnt want to be the jelous type. To be honest it was round this period when I went through a bit of a bad patch wondering if id done the right thing making her come all this way for me, and felt a bit trapped to be honest, so i didnt really give her a lot of attention at a time when she really needed it (new country, no friends etc).
Well the reason I'm here is of course I'd like to be back together with her, I never stopped loving her although this recent hurt she's put me through is testing me, but the problem I'm facing is this guy has it all, he's really nice (or at least to all aprt from me), rich, good looking, funny, intelligent, I suppose the only downfall he has is a reputation as not being too faithful. I'm not sure how to compete? Plus the fact that my two best friends have gone from my life is leaving me a little down to say the least.
Any advice? and also I was wondering, could it be that she is in a type of rebound relationship with him, as he is giving her the love and affection i didnt give her for a while back there?