My dad blames every one else

My little brother (12 years old) visited some porn sites today while every one else was gone. We found out because it was on the history of sites visited. A little background: my brother is bad with hygiene, really bad, & he eats a lot, even if he's not hungry, he just doesn't know when to stop, he also eats a lot of treats. What happened?? I have an older brother & a 16 year old sister & none of us are like that at all. Now my dad is blaming it all on every one else. He's really upset about it & he's saying that we should send him to prep school (the porn thing has been an issue of the past). Hes arguing with my mom right now & blaming it all on her, saying she doesn't care about him & he can't believe that porn was viewed in our home. Hes saying that we should cancel our internet, even though the internet is a big thing for us. We need it for school research, its the only way i can communicate with my bf who lives an hour away, & email & things like that. He's like punishing every one else because of what happened. Its so upsetting to me right now. Being my brothers father, it only seems right that he talk to my brother. Every time I tell him that he needs to have a father son talk with my brother, he tells me I should do it. It seems to me that my little brother is curious about sex, like I'm sure he hears about it in school & stuff, & he hasn't had a serious talk about that yet... I'm sorry for complaining, I don't do it much, but does any one have any advice about this??

Hey Lady enadevoli,

So hmmm the main problem here is your Dad then, on how he's passing the blame on everyone else in the family, sounds so much like my old man it's disturbing.... Anyway from past experiences with my Dad I found nothing really works. He was never to blame and always laid it all on someone else. One thing I noticed though, they often say stuff in the heat of the moment(like cutting off your internet, sending your bro to a prep school etc etc...) but don't stick to it. For example when I was twelve years old my Dad went off his nut when I made "smartass comments" then he new my favourite video game at the time was Mortal Kombat 2. He said I can't play it til I'm 18 because it's too violent(he just wanted to punish me)! Then 2 months later I was allowed to play it again..

You see I have found that you can't really change these sorta people like our Dads. They're stubborn and I don't think they really can change. If he is really serious though and does want to cut off your internet connection try to explain to him about how you need for school. Get your family to back you up on it as well for added effect. With the porn thing... Yeah he's 12, he's curious. It's not "unnatural". I'm sure your dad knows this. Really being the Man of the house he should be the one to talk about sex with your younger bro. My Dad never did though, he made my Mom do it. He can get some sort of Net Nanny program though, that allows you to block objectionable material being viewed on the net. The best thing is to always work with your family to persuade people like our Dads, it helps.. well sometimes... Good luck. Don't stress too much, Mmmkay? 8)

He's right. Dad's never change. My dad's a complete tight ass. Got caught not paying enough child maitanence and he blamed my sister for it when she rang to say "hi!" without even knowing what was happening.

I think that if you wanna end this, you'll have to do it yourself... Maybe asking your bro what questions he has, or maybe giving him some links to sites where he can learn. Besides that, I think porn is a healthy thing for guys - even though I'm not too big on it, but it is stimulating sometimes...