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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    I think you handled it well. The guy sounds like a jerk.

    Where do you live where you are not allowed to speak on a bus?
    Thank you!
    I am from Taiwan, but and my country is quite the same as US. There is not such rule regarding speaking in bus or any other public places.
    She was just talking a little too loud. That's it.

    It's the driver's personal problem, also it's a bit late so the other passenger needed to rest. No matter what
    You should ask politely not scolded her and make her felt shocked, so I had to jump in and defend her.

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    I have been to your country. I am surprised that that happened. You did have the right to talk. Good for you!

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    Ok see if she wants to go out again. She may have been embarrassed by the scene and drama created rather than simply lowering your voice. Unfortunately it's possible she was impressed by what you did but not as some hero but as creating drama and trouble and chaos.

    She may not want to date someone who is a loose canon. Sadly this may have come off not as a white knight defending his lady, but as a pissing contest, being incredibly rude to a service worker and to other passengers. When a new date observes someone being rude to service personnel it's a red flag. Were you drunk?
    Originally Posted by dio9366
    That's when I said I wanna get off, "I gave him a disdainful look and told him

    "Do you think I wanna be in your bus? You disgust me" and I took her off the bus and take taxi. That's when I started to felt that she is a bit distance and wanna be left alone while we were in the taxi.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Ok see if she wants to go out again. She may have been embarrassed by the scene and drama created rather than simply lowering your voice. Unfortunately it's possible she was impressed by what you did but not as some hero but as creating drama and trouble and chaos.

    She may not want to date someone who is a loose canon. Sadly this may have come off not as a white knight defending his lady, but as a pissing contest, being incredibly rude to a service worker and to other passengers. When a new date observes someone being rude to service personnel it's a red flag. Were you drunk?
    I wasn't drunk either, we both knew that it was the driver and a passenger who was rude to us first, all I said was we wanna get off, You think we wanna be your bus? I don't care about you at all" That's it.

    I think perhaps I was too aggressive making too much advance on kissing her、touching her、put my hand on her thigh during the date, I might come off too strong, she reciprocate only a little, since I no longer lived in America and she is just 21 years old.

    Anyway, what do u think? I am going to find out tonight.

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    She may have just felt embarrassed she was the reason a scene between you and the driver started. You did the right thing by sticking up for her. Its not you.

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    Sorry but wouldn't have been easier to simply speak quieter and tone things down? Being obnoxious to people on the bus and the driver is rude. It doesn't matter who said what first. Blowing up at a bus employee that way and making a scene probably ruined the date, if not your chances with her. Slow your roll, tone things down.
    Originally Posted by dio9366
    I said was we wanna get off, You think we wanna be your bus? I don't care about you at all" . I no longer lived in America and she is just 21 years old.

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    I asked her to scheduled 4th date last night, and she agreed to it. It's gonna be on Sunday. seems like she still had interest in me, she just don't like text is all.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Sorry but wouldn't have been easier to simply speak quieter and tone things down? Being obnoxious to people on the bus and the driver is rude. It doesn't matter who said what first. Blowing up at a bus employee that way and making a scene probably ruined the date, if not your chances with her. Slow your roll, tone things down.
    I tried to be quieter, but...

    The driver said something like" Can't you stop talking already?" She was shocked. I jump in and said" Who said we can't not talk on the bus?"

    He said"it's written on the announcement" at this point I don't wanna keep arguing with driver so I told her let's lower our voice down, and told the driver OK fine drive your bus we will keep our voice down.




    That's when the driver threaten me and said to me shut up I am the driver so don't push me or I am not responsible for your own safety. That's when I said I wanna get off, "I gave him a disdainful look and told him

    "Do you think I wanna be in your bus? You disgust me" and I took her off the bus and take taxi. That's when I started to felt that she is a bit distance and wanna be left alone while we were in the taxi.

    When we get home she still text me and told me she got home, the next day I text her asked her did you support my action last night? she only reply with yes one word, and I said thank you for taking photo of me yesterday, she said you are welcome then that's it. Very brief.

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    Being rude and combative frightened her. You were in the wrong.

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    If I was in that position being her. I would honestly be happy you stuck up for me but worried about the conflict you started. I think she is turned off by your behavior in all honesty. You not only embarrassed her but you caused a scene with the driver. Im agreeing with Wiseman here. I re read and there were other ways you could have handled the situation.

    Shes probably now worried you have an aggressive streak.

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