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    Originally Posted by OptomisticGirl
    My mother actually believes this (that women who dress provacativly are asking for it). It disgusts me to say that but she does. We've actually almost come to verbal blows in the past over it.
    Ugh, really? I know a few of my friends who feel the same way and it makes me so angry I can't speak to them about it. That attitude and the "Men can't be victims of rape" attitude are the two that get me going the most!

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    Originally Posted by PhilliesFan001
    Ugh, really? I know a few of my friends who feel the same way and it makes me so angry I can't speak to them about it. That attitude and the "Men can't be victims of rape" attitude are the two that get me going the most!
    yep. What makes it funny? I was molested by my mother's husband from the ages of 9-12. I've always wanted to ask her was I 'asking' for it at 9 years old...

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    Originally Posted by OptomisticGirl
    yep. What makes it funny? I was molested by my mother's husband from the ages of 9-12. I've always wanted to ask her was I 'asking' for it at 9 years old...
    with all due respect, your mom is messed up. she has her priorities completely out of whack - i cannot imagine ever thinking like that, or allowing a man to touch my child and walk away alive. is that man out of the picture now?

    i'm sorry, rant over!

    when someone goes in to report a burglary or mugging, they don't ask what he or she was wearing, nor is it relevant! the fact is that a crime was committed against you, and it does not mean that you were asking for it nor is it justified.

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    Originally Posted by OptomisticGirl
    yep. What makes it funny? I was molested by my mother's husband from the ages of 9-12. I've always wanted to ask her was I 'asking' for it at 9 years old...
    Good lord that's horrible. I was molested by a family member around that age and I remember him saying "I can't help it, you're just hot." Err......

    Not to take over the thread but what has your mother said about your specific situation? Does she blame you? You don't have to answer of course if that's too personal.

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    Originally Posted by annie24
    with all due respect, your mom is messed up. she has her priorities completely out of whack - i cannot imagine ever thinking like that, or allowing a man to touch my child and walk away alive. is that man out of the picture now?

    i'm sorry, rant over!

    when someone goes in to report a burglary or mugging, they don't ask what he or she was wearing, nor is it relevant! the fact is that a crime was committed against you, and it does not mean that you were asking for it nor is it justified.
    No, he's very much still in the picture. She actually married him a few years after I came forward with the information. Thankfully with his job I don't have to interact with him at all.

    That's a wonderful example Annie with the mugging.

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    Originally Posted by PhilliesFan001
    Good lord that's horrible. I was molested by a family member around that age and I remember him saying "I can't help it, you're just hot." Err......
    That is * * * * ed up. So * * * * ed up.

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    Originally Posted by PhilliesFan001
    Not to take over the thread but what has your mother said about your specific situation? Does she blame you? You don't have to answer of course if that's too personal.
    No problem answering. it's like the unspoken, buried family secret. She'll watch those chat shows like Muarry and there will be a woman's boyfriend on doing a lie dectator test for molesting her child and my mom's like 'he should hang' and I just kind of stare at her. If I ever say 'you know why I don't like him' she'll just kind of change the subject or say 'B....' I don't think she blames me. I think she's stuck her head in the sand and she knows it happened (I told details you could only know from being in that position) and just forgets it.

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    Originally Posted by duke nukem
    That is * * * * ed up. So * * * * ed up.
    Yeah, thinking about it now still makes me a little nauseous. He was a very, very sick person.

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    Did you ever go to the police about this?

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    Originally Posted by OptomisticGirl
    No problem answering. it's like the unspoken, buried family secret. She'll watch those chat shows like Muarry and there will be a woman's boyfriend on doing a lie dectator test for molesting her child and my mom's like 'he should hang' and I just kind of stare at her. If I ever say 'you know why I don't like him' she'll just kind of change the subject or say 'B....' I don't think she blames me. I think she's stuck her head in the sand and she knows it happened (I told details you could only know from being in that position) and just forgets it.
    That must be really difficult. I think one of the most important things a survivor can get is validation and that seems to be lacking a little in your case. I'm really sorry that happened to you and I hope one day she pulls her head out the sand.

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