88cookie Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 hello so ive been with my girl for about 2 months now and we see eachother all the time and are really close. we have been fooling around for a few weeks now, i fingered her a couple times, she gave me a few handjobs, and this last weekend i gave her an oral orgasm and i think she loved it lol.. we are both virgins, but what i am concerned with is that when i was with her the other night i spent the night and we kissed and fooled around all night, and i was turned on for like 10+ hours im sure, but rarely did she just go and grab my penis or anything, we dry hump alot and she grinds on it alot when we are in bed, but it wasnt until that next morning when she finally reached down my boxers and started playing with it then all of a suddent i busted my load way too quickly, like prolly 45 seconds into sadly, but i know thats just cuz ive been turned on for like 10 hours cuz i spent the night there, but idk, it kind of sucked to be honest, cuz i wanted her to go down on me that night also, so i was just like umm i gotta go to the bathroom then i went back to my dorm room, which is close, then changed my boxers and came back like as if i didnt cum at all lol, but im pretty sure she realized it. and it was like already noon at this point and we had to begin to get on with our days so i wasnt gonna try to get another attempt at it so my question is... how do i fix this problem?? realistically the best way would to ask her to blow me right before we get into foreplay and whatnot lol, but come on thats not like me to be soo selfish. like eventually we will be having sex and im just sort of affraid our foreplay will be hours and hours long like it is these days, but as soon as i go to put my penis in her i will bust my load soo quickly, which im sure will happen the first time anyways cuz we are virgins but oh well... what are your techniques for holding off ur load, even if u have been turned on for numerous hours before getting direct stimulation?? thanks a ton! Link to comment
88cookie Posted February 11, 2008 Author Share Posted February 11, 2008 ooh and please dont say.. try thinking about baseball lol that doesnt work well with me Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 Well, from what I know, you just have to practice by masturbating. Try getting up to that point and then pulling back. Then again, that's just what I've heard so you might want to get a second opinion. Link to comment
holyohio Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 1.Google Pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. 2. Learn about what they are. 3. Exercise them. Done. Link to comment
88cookie Posted February 11, 2008 Author Share Posted February 11, 2008 yeah thanks.. ive read about the PC muscle stuff. one question i have about that is, when ur having sex and about to cum.. u just flex the muscle and you will be able to hold off ur orgasm?? Link to comment
holyohio Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 yeah thanks.. ive read about the PC muscle stuff. one question i have about that is, when ur having sex and about to cum.. u just flex the muscle and you will be able to hold off ur orgasm?? sorta, if you exercise it it becomes stronger (in the long run, so that when you flex it, you can hold off your orgasm) and simultaneously tires it (in the short run, making it harder to cum). When you're making out/fooling around/going down on your girl, start flexing it in 10 counts or so and you'll notice a difference. Even more if you do it other times....waiting at a red light, sitting in class, whenever... Link to comment
greenmonster Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 I take my thumb on either hand and jam the thumbnail into the side of my knuckle on my ring finger of that hand...HARD. the pain will distract your body's nerves works for me...that and that scene from that movie "about schmidt" where kathy bates got nekkid....dear god thats horrifying Link to comment
valiantv Posted February 11, 2008 Share Posted February 11, 2008 I have found sometimes while practising once while jerking off, that I can hold it in if I flex hard enough, but I still feel like I am orgasming. Unfortunately, it's just like I blew my load anyway but stopped it from coming out... So I still get soft soon afterwards and take a while to be able to get hard again... Link to comment
Bkoguy07 Posted February 12, 2008 Share Posted February 12, 2008 Not sure what you mean by "flexing" but if you are actually bending your penis while it's erect you can cause damage to it. thats not what he means he's talkin bout flexing a certain muscle in a certain exercise. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 12, 2008 Share Posted February 12, 2008 the muscle just hold the pressure back. usually doesn't last long. you just have to practice going longer. Link to comment
tmp0620 Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 You said it yourself. You fooled around for 10 hours before she touched you. Next time tell her to get her hand in there, and then after maybe an hour of fooling around have her finish the job. 10 hours is way too long, and since you are at that stage now with her, sexually, you can do these other things. Your schedule is all messed up. Going with that general theory... why not lose it 5 times in those ten hours? By the time you really get to what you're trying to get to you'll be so tired and dehydrated it won't be a problem. Link to comment
luckyyy Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 I'm 20 now but when I was a lot younger I used to love doing the stop and go method whilst masturbating. Ever since it takes me a lot longer to cum. I last anywhere between 10-60 minutes during sex- I am in total control. I also take about 10-15 minutes to cum during masturbation. If you practice the stop and go method when masturbating it makes the Pubococcygeus muscles a lot stronger and takes a lot longer to cum! Link to comment
schylla Posted February 14, 2008 Share Posted February 14, 2008 damn. my bf lasts like 10 -minutes-, which makes me want to smack him >. Link to comment
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