He has a small penis, and I feel like a jerk.

Dude, you're full of yourself!

Dude, you're full of yourself!

are you serious or joking? clearly you are joking. Its obviously an issue else she would not be creating a thread about it. This is like saying I will settle for 2nd best. I might be full of myself, but you have tunnel vision. Beating around the truth, feeding her some BS is almost as bad as saying "yea your boyfriend is addicted to porn, but thats a good thing, keep him, and you will be happy"

Think about this, some of my EX's usually come back to me after they have dated around, because Im not so small. Size does kind of matter in the long run. Maybe I was gifted, but if you think about it, would you really want to spend the rest of your life, with a guy who has a small penis?

 

The girl I was about to marry, up and left me for some guy, but he just happened to have a small one. I was her dirty little secret. Personally I would say drop him, because that is embarresing

I think he's referring to this post^^

Nothing wrong with high self esteem, confidence and some arrogance and superiority - its all good for happiness and power. The irony is jadedstar said that maybe my personality is the problem, not my size. Yet, your inner arrogance hasn't effected ur success in the dating field -)

btw jaded, i know it was only a suggestion. Yet my personality seems more than adequate. I'm very popular and many women still show an interest in me, even if i am somewhat arrogant at times. Btw, this is an old topic and this guy isn't even part of n83's life anymore, its like a year old. My problem now is my zero confidence and esteem sexually which is linked into my personality and these things don't grow on trees, you get them from the environment. Just as Bigskye has done with having a good technique, being constantly told 'bigger is better' and he's obviously acquired some hubris and uber confidence, which i do envy. Its all good..... without question, he believes he's way more desirable than smaller men, he's in demand and he's probably right.

Heres the deal, larger guys mostly think their size means, there is no skill involved. Because their big, they automatically think their pleasing the woman. Smaller guys have more work to do, and sometimes this results in more pleasure, because the smaller guy is switching it up, and aiming more to please.

However if you have a large sized guy, that knows how to please a woman, Im almost 100% sure that is going to be better than a smaller guy. Its common sense.

Who's to say that it has no depth?? Sorry, but I totally disagree. It's not like it's an issue of his hair color, like, Damn, he's blond, I'd never talk to him. That's not the issue at all.

Sure it is. Penis size is dictated by the same genetic roll of the dice that determines hair colour etc. Dumping someone based on penis size and having a dislike for small penis men is no better than being racist.

You're saying that preferences are okay to have, but on the other hand I'd be wrong for dumping someone because of my preferences?? That makes no sense.

Of course there's nothing wrong with having preferences. I think we all have them. And picking and choosing your partners based on your preferences is only natural. If you bothered to read my posts properly, you would have realised I was saying that people's feelings are the dividing point where preferences become problematic.

Choose men with larger penises if you are happier with one. Just make sure you tread lightly and spare the feelings of the smaller penis men you will exclude along the way. That was my whole point.

As for why I was using words like shallow and depth, that is merely putting preferences in their proper perspective. Wanting a partner who wants kids and marriage is clearly deeper and more meaningful than, say, simply wanting a partner with a slim build, blonde hair and a big ... you get the idea. By the way, I'm not saying that's you, just my example.

Choosing partners based on appearance and build is no better. It's only easier because you can do it from a distance and don't have to get to know them first. If you have a physical preference for men with larger equipment, that's fine. More than that. it's nothing anyone should feel bad about. But selecting someone based on an attribute that is usually hidden is a problem, eh??

It makes it harder to choose a partner that way. You get all hot and excited when you meet this washboard six-pack hunk who looks phenomenal in his tanktop and sweatpants. But you suddenly find yourself wanting out when his pants hit the floor and his penis looks like an acorn.

In such cases, you should dump your suddenly unwanted partner for another reason. Tell them you already have a boyfriend and thought you wanted an affair but have had second thoughts. If they know you socially and know that isn't true, come up with something else. But don't hurt someone because they are too fat, thin, too small downstairs or the wrong colour. That was my point. Have your preferences, but don't let people get hurt because of them. That's when a person goes from merely having a superficial preference to being superficial.

Since you haven't actually hurt anyone in your case, I never had a problem with your post. We only seemed to disagree on what is skin-deep and what isn't.

Sure it is. Penis size is dictated by the same genetic roll of the dice that determines hair colour etc. Dumping someone based on penis size and having a dislike for small penis men is no better than being racist.

Actually, I did read your post thoroughly. I quoted you verbatim. But hair color has nothing to do with sexual satisfaction. There's a fundamental difference here. You're comparing apples and oranges. If I did choose a blonde over a brunette, I wouldn't be giving up my sex life because of it. And comparing dumping someone based on their penis size to racism is completely nonsensical, and I won't even humor you by addressing that comment.

As for why I was using words like shallow and depth, that is merely putting preferences in their proper perspective. Wanting a partner who wants kids and marriage is clearly deeper and more meaningful than, say, simply wanting a partner with a slim build, blonde hair and a big ... you get the idea.

Maybe some people aren't concerned with marriage or children. I'm not sure how you can call them "clearly shallow" because of it.

Actually, I did read your post thoroughly. I quoted you verbatim.

Yes, you quoted me. But you obviously didn't read my post "thoroughly" or address my main point, not even once. Last time I even underlined it for you. You seem more obsessed in proving that physical traits like penis size, hair colour, and so on, are deep and meaningful considerations in a relationship. Anyone who keeps insisting that sounds like one of those argumentative trolls that can never be reasoned with. If I suddenly agree I love your favourite TV show, you'll always find fault, lift something I've said out of context and say I was "comparing apples to oranges."

If I did choose a blonde over a brunette, I wouldn't be giving up my sex life because of it.

Well, you'd be giving up the chance of a sex life with that person due to your physical preference, which which was my point and proves it.

And comparing dumping someone based on their penis size to racism is completely nonsensical, and I won't even humor you by addressing that comment.

There's nothing nonsensical about it. Racism is a hugely offensive issue and penis size is regarded far less seriously. That is the only difference. My point there was that they're both issues that are skin-deep and have no bearing on a person's worth, which is absolutely true. It's probably best that you don't address it, because no amount of argument will turn a carrot into a turnip. It simply is what it is.

Maybe some people aren't concerned with marriage or children. I'm not sure how you can call them "clearly shallow" because of it.

I didn't. If you re-read, you'll find I never said anything of a kind.

Again, you don't read things thoroughly, even though you insisted you do. I never once said anyone was "clearly shallow," certainly not people who are not ready for deeper aspects of a relationship like love and marriage. I was saying they were more serious issues in a partner than physical attributes like their hair colour, penis size. Do read things properly before responding and don't claim things were said which weren't. It's offensive and you make yourself look foolish.

Bionic -

Several times, you called me shallow:

Originally Posted by n83 View Post

I don't think it's that superficial to judge a guy because he has a small penis..

Your reply:

Well, you're not exactly judging him with any sort of depth, so what would you call it? You're judging someone on a strictly physical issue that in the greater scheme has no bearing on their worth as a human being. Consequently, it's superficial whether you're prepared to call it that or not.

Apparently, you ARE creating arbitrary rules about what is shallow or superficial in relationships. You keep saying something, then turning around and saying, No, I didn't say that, you're missing the point...

Yet I'm quoting you, and addressing what you're saying, but you keep turning it around and saying you didn't mean it the way you wrote it.

Then you go on to say that racism and having a small penis are both issues that are "skin deep," which is exactly what I'm objecting to. Someone having a small penis isn't an issue of aesthetics. Obviously, this doesn't mean that a man with a small penis is worth any less than another, but it's not a "skin-deep" issue. Not being able to have a normal sex life with someone is a pretty serious issue, and to say otherwise is just being, shall I say, stupid?

im gonna sum it up for everybody. Ill use my Ex for an example. Key positive features about her;

-Body amost built in a factory (probably half was)

-Had a personality of a thousand girls combined, there was no dull moment with her.

-instantly has an aura which made you laugh, comfortable, relaxed and feel positive, almost impossible to find now days.

-more money than god

-sucsessful, famous, popular and alot of the times loyal as can be.

-the sex was unreal, beyond words.

-the most beautiful/sexy girl anybody I know has seen to date.

-had a ferrari at age 23

The bads;

-Had fake breasts, and possibly butt.

-Attracted too much attention

-Morals were 0, slept with guys who were on a homeless level.

-low self esteem/concept, Had a father, but he beat her.

-was a stripper, and went into the adult business from ages 18-23

-Drinked a bit too much

-had an abortion with my child.

-when she wasnt loyal, she WASNT LOYAL, you didnt want to make her angry

-Her best friend had sex with over 1000 guys in her lifetime.

Now there are goods, and bads. Her goods seemed to WAY out weigh the bads, but the bads were there. The fact is, I couldnt be 100% happy with some of the bads. Her having fake breasts did affect our relationship, even though it wasnt a bad thing. It attracted negative attention.

The point is, even though she was perfect, and way out of my league, there was that ONE bad thing that I couldnt live with.

So the guy with a small penis, is going to have to find a girl who will accept that. And its not wrong to want to break up with somebody because they have a problem that they cant control. Im sure that guy will find another woman, but maybe the OP just is looking for something else. Its a feature she doesnt like, and you couldnt blame any woman for not liking that, its a huge brick wall in a relationship, just like not having legs, how are you supposed to go out to the club?

This is going no where but downhill. Thread closed now.