MissCanuck

You made a thread about this before. It seems little has changed. You're still trying to force yourself to accept being very hurt by him. Honestly, I would not have kept dating him after those horrible comments. You don't need therapy for this. You needed to find a better boyfriend who doesn't say such mean things to begin with. Some things can't be undone.

I don't understand how you manage to even get through the day at work when all you do is look for problems and reasons to feel superior to everyone around you.

Uh, no. She is being ridiculous. Does your friend always treat you like crap? Why would you need to "geta job for her" to begin with?

Becauase again, it more than likely wasn't the "poof" you're imagining. Long-term couples rarely experience that kind of break-up (excluding those with some sort of sudden event that changes everything). What is more likely is that things shifted over time and they weren't as close anymore by the time they actually split. There could have been any number of contributing factors, but it was probably an accumulation of problems over time. Be careful not to project your own fears and invent a narrative in your head about what their relationship (and break-up) was like. You're fretting over hypotheticals you haven't actually seen evidence of.

You weren't hired to feel things. You were hired to do the tasks she assigns you. If you can't handle it and don't like the way she runs things, move along. Or hey, here's an idea, start your own business. You can run that however you want. Just be careful about hiring employees who seek to undermine you.

What makes you think it was a sudden cut-off? A lot of long-term couples drift slowly apart over time and feelings change. There are milllions of couples out there who were together a lot longer than these two, and manage to successfully move on to other relationships. I would stop asking him questions about their relationship. It sounds like you got the pertinent details and the rest isn't really your business anyway. And for heaven's sake, stop stalking her social media. You're letting fear steer the ship here, and that will run this relationship into the ground faster than you think.

It's rather childish that you're here stomping your feet and losing your mind with posters for calling you out when you gave zero context for your poor behaviour. We don't know your life story. Get over yourself, is my advice.

You're the place-holder until she meets the guy she wants to actually date.

You need to establish some boundaries with this man. It is already strange enough that he's sharing his mental health problems with you when you don't really know him and he's a colleague. That's a red flag in and of itself. Now he's trying to hit you up privately. I would keep your distance and not get into FB chats with him. It is going to get a lot more awkward if you let this continue and it heads in a direction that's a lot harder to reverse.

This is plain rude and unprofessional. Yes, I would inform the boss about this one. You are leaving soon, true, but this sort of behaviour is unacceptable. It needs to be addressed, and even if they don't do much about it, it will be on record. That way if it happens again with someone else (or you, in your remaining weeks), it will be noted that it's not a one-off but a more concerning pattern of behaviour.

So, he has threatened to leave you. That's what I'm getting here, and you are scrambling to hang on to him and being defensive about it. A lawyer and judge would make sure he sees his kids again anyway, so that's a silly and desperate argument. Get real, OP. Nobody here is going to offer advice on how to continuing mistreating this man.

You realize this is more than likely a load of equine manure, right? He got caught that way, so he's now pretending he did it on purpose? Sure, buddy. The more you tell us about this guy, OP, the worse he comes across. Sorry, but I'd still be moving on. I would be too turned off by his dishonesty and immaturity.. No wonder women his age don't want to date him. They see through his BS in a way that a younger and less experienced woman might not.

So, this is a verbally abusive relationship? And emotionally abusive? You can't. Your partner has free agency to leave you if they can't take it anymore. That will be the price you pay for mistreating them.

What makes you think she’ll actually have made up her mind after the weekend? There’s every chance she still won’t have really have decided anything. You’re being too rigid about your expectations of this specific weekend. The biggest decision of all has already been made. She isn’t struggling with her choice to break up, because that’s already happened. You’re grasping desperately at straws, man.

Son, it's you who doesn't understand how games works. You asked her out and she rejected you. Don't let you ego steer the ship and make a fool of yourself to a woman who is interested in someone else. You're a bit too deep in the PUA nonsense.