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Some people like this interview style banter. There are people who are actually flattered and think it's a sign of interest to be nosy. They seem like survey questions since you're not even interested in dating him. Perhaps he's collecting general data for his own experience when he meets some who wants to date him? But why bother answering personal questions when you're not even interested?

Good call. Have fun. It does seem to resemble the typical meet-cute formula in romcoms where it's starts off antagonistically and they end up having spats and eventually fall for each other. Maybe that won't be the same here but it's going to be interesting at least to see him under different circumstances

He seems to have a lot of class and self confidence. It seems he tried to impress you but with who he is and what he's about rather than neatly ironed outfits. No one would judge you for having another look because he does seem to have some decent qualities that were overlooked.

She's not a psychotic witch as I mentioned. It's just that you two don't get along and the biggest issue is camping at her place as "an escape", when you really should go home and brood or withdraw if you're in a bad or pensive mood. No one is suggesting you choose between your mental health and a GF, but you need to consider how compatible you are as far as personalities as well as start taking action and responsibility for your role as far as tuning out and creating competition and discord. You can switch out GFs as much as you like, but until you fix your home situation and moods after therapy the problem will follow you around.

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Please check with your local zoning board. Depending on your area and how restricted it is some things may be in violation of certain zoning ordinances. You probably can't do much about rude nasty neighbors but you can research laws in your jurisdiction. Alternatively you could consult an attorney as far as harassment. Please install a video home security system since things are escalating to verbal violence. If this neighbor becomes increasingly aggressive, just call the police to settle disputes about disturbing the peace.

That's ok. You can see a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health, get some tests done and ask for a referral to a licensed qualified therapist. Your parents don't go have to know anything because everything you discuss with any healthcare provider is strictly private and confidential. Just the tell them you're going for a checkup for the ASD and your doc is better for recommending a therapist than your parents would be. Please hold off on trying to date or look for a GF until you have your obsessions and anxiety under control. It's not fair or even feasible to indulge this right now.

Sorry this is happening. Please take care of yourself and the other stressors and voids In your life including your and your mother's physical and mental health. While it's understandable you're disappointed and unhappy you can't keep blaming a neighbor for living where he lives and causing all your unhappiness . Please stop staring out the window and monitoring him. He's not trying to get a glimpse of you. He served as a distraction and band-aid for all your other losses and problems but now you're angry that's no longer there. And that's not helping you feel better.

Perhaps the silver lining is that he defended himself and that provided food for thought, even though you're not a match.. "'When You Look Good, You Feel Good" might be a nice slogan for your business but it's not an appropriate first date lecture. There's some cliches like "you can't judge a book by it's cover" and "you don't have a second chance to make a first impression". So perhaps the date wasn't a total failure if you gleaned something from it?

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately he seems happy with the nebulous coasting along status quo. He keeps sidestepping the issue because it's convenient and you haven't walked away from this indifference. Please reflect if waiting around for someone who doesn't care is worth your while. Perhaps it's time to set yourself free to find someone who wants what you want and is enthusiastic about it?

It seems like you could ease a lot of things up for yourself by improving your home situation and making that a better place to retreat to. This would be a great topic for your therapist. Your GF seems immature and threatened, but camping at her place in a bad withdrawn mood after therapy isn't making this any smoother. Perhaps she's not a psychotic witch who wants to sever you from healthcare, but there is definitely control and relationship issues. Maybe she hates your moods and shutting her off more than she hates your therapist. That's something you can do something about. The best thing you can do is date nights. Go home after therapy and reflect. But when you're taking up space at her place interact, eat together and talk.

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That's ok. He can disagree that he doesn't need to look good to feel good. Many people are comfortable in their own skin. However your thread is specifically about his appearance and presentation so trying to clarify how bad it really was is on topic. At least he extended an olive branch for an attempted reset/restart. Even though you're not attracted or interested it was a polite move on his part. Especially after you walked off the date because of how he presented himself.

What are the issues with your place? Do you live with friends family an ex? It's great that you understand hanging out at her place as an escape it contributing to the problem. Definitely focus on improving your own home environment so you can retreat to somewhere where you can process, reflect and get some peace. As far as marriage it may be an overall general long term goal, but this situation doesn't seem to be stable enough for that. Your GF seems a bit too controlling so reclaiming your own turf is a practical first step rather being a guest in her place and just tuning her out. This seems to contribute to the overall issue of being shut out. While your sessions are private, she seems to want to be able to have conversations with you and perhaps thinks she's not privvy to any of your thoughts and feelings but your therapist is. Unfortunately you're creating a sort of competition for your attention, energy and feelings. But you can change that by not hanging out as an escape. Please try to explain that you're just processing things and try to communicate better rather than showing up after therapy and just withdrawing.