Relationship at a loss.

[banksy800]

Heya,

Ive been with my girlfriend for about 14 months and ive never met someone so wonderful in my life. I love her but for the last few months shes closed of and been really distant with me. She hardly tels me she loves me and isnt sweet anymore. She just treats me like a friend. Its really getting to me becuase i wana be with her and i want to make it work but im starting to fall out of love with her. Theres other things like she lies alot about really important things, and she tells other lads she loves them and i sit here and take it. She also makes me feel really bad cuz she tells me i dont love her and i fancy people and it makes me feel so down about everything. Shes a brilliant amazing girl and shes so wonderful, i fall asleep wishing she was by my side and everythings perfect when were together, but my minds telling me not to love her and i need to no how to bring everything back like it used to be.

rich x

[HyruleGuardian]

Theres other things like she lies alot about really important things, and she tells other lads she loves them and i sit here and take it.

 

You take that? Well there's a big problem right there. If my girlfriend ever lied or said she loved another guy, I'd get really pissed off and make sure she knew.

 

It sounds like you hold a lot in from what I read. You need to let your emotions go and tell her how you really feel. Otherwise, this relationship won't last.

 

Trust me. I was the same way in a past relationship. My biggest regret is not telling her how I felt about certain things.

[banksy800]

Yup cuz im daft lol I need to talk to her but its hard to get her to talk about things without her going off in a mood or accusing me of things. She walks away from all her problems all the time and i need to talk to her about this but she just accuses me of not loving her.

[Meow18]

Yup cuz im daft lol I need to talk to her but its hard to get her to talk about things without her going off in a mood or accusing me of things. She walks away from all her problems all the time and i need to talk to her about this but she just accuses me of not loving her.

 

The problem is that she is not very mature. To walk away and get upset if there's an issue.. that's an issue. Relationships go through problems all the time and they will never get resolved if you can't even talk about it.

 

You need to work on your communication. Let her know how you are feeling. If she walks away or just gets all defensive, let her know that the relationship won't work if you both can't talk about it like a mature couple.

 

Seriously though, your problems will only get worse. You need to talk to her about this and not let her treat it like it doesn't matter.

[Ixtapa]

Just wondering how you can say that your girlfriend is so wonderful...if she makes you feel bad by being distant and lying to you ??

[banksy800]

Ye i suppose she accuses me of things that i dont do and makes up stuff like being attacked which shes done about 3 times and their pretty much all lies. I want it to work but she wont let it with all the lies and accusations and things i spose its my own fault but i feel guilty becuasei said id never stop loving her and i havent deep down i do but i cant feel it as much as i used to

[banksy800]

Becuase shes so lovely at times so much fun to be around and she just lights up the room but lately shes been to be honest a total cow shes been horrible to me and really inconsiderate to how i feel and really un loving I really want her to be how she used to be but shes changed and i dont know what to do to get her how she used to be. I miss my lozzy

[Meow18]

Becuase shes so lovely at times so much fun to be around and she just lights up the room but lately shes been to be honest a total cow shes been horrible to me and really inconsiderate to how i feel and really un loving I really want her to be how she used to be but shes changed and i dont know what to do to get her how she used to be. I miss my lozzy

 

It's unfortunate.

 

People change all throughout their lives. Change can be a good thing for couples, but sometimes as you have learned it can be a bad thing.

 

This is not the relationship you deserve. She used to be wonderful, but now she's not someone you need in your life.