Why do I always date questionably gay men?

[MP Meridien]

Is there any reason why an extremely feminine girl would consistantly date men who others think might be gay? Just wondering what your thoughts are on this one.

[agent1607307371]

What are the qualities the men possess that make others question their heterosexuality?

[MP Meridien]

Okay, significant things, like not being able to perform....

[CarnelianButterfly]

Why does it matter what other people think about his sexuality?

 

The only person's opinion that should matter on his sexuality is his. If you need to defend your boyfriend to your friends maybe you need to get new friends.

[Dako]

Maybe she dates them because they are attractive to her, and she's not into peer pressure.

[Altruist]

OP, are you saying all the men that you have dated have failed to perform?

 

It could just be performance anxiety and nothing more. Some man can experience that if the woman is 'too beautiful' (which I suppose you are ).

[agent1607307371]

Okay, significant things, like not being able to perform...

 

That is not an indicator of homosexuality. Low sex drive, problems with his pipes, or just not being attracted to their partner come to mind much earlier on.

 

Maybe she just likes men who are not as "macho" as society dictates they should be. If I were a particularly feminine girl, I could see how that might be an attractant.

 

More importantly, if these men may be gay, why are they dating a girl?

 

Besides, who cares what others think? They're not the ones in the relationship.

[Ash]

Perhaps the extremely feminine girl is really looking more for a great companion and isn't quite sure about the sexual side of a relationship so wishes to defer that part. A gay male friend would fit that bill nicely.

[ghost69]

it's probably just your taste. they probably fall into a stereotype of genre of a comman gay man's look.

 

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[caro33]

I don't know about the failing to perform part - as has already been said I would question that that is a sign of homosexuality.

 

I dated a guy once who was really into "manscaping" - he had FULL body waxing, he had regular facials, manicures, the lot. He talked about it all the time, and he spent ages staring lovingly into the shop windows of the trendiest men's stores. He dressed in extremely tight and open shirts, with big crucifixes and sequins. His look screamed "gay", as did his work/life history. He loved the Scissor Sisters and Kylie Minogue. There was lots more too....

 

He never admitted he was gay, he just said lots of people thought he was. (I thought he was too!)

 

I can imagine that if his look turned me on I could have gone to certain nightclubs and found many more like him. I'm with ghost69 - any chance you're choosing the extreme metrosexuals?

[ghost69]

i also think you are finding lost puppies that don't know who they are yet. are most of these guys under 25? it just seems that they don't want to admit that they are in fact gay, but are pretty much half way there based on their 'look' and the things they do.

 

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