How do you know??

[Yvette84]

How do you know when you are ready to marry someone?? I thought I'd marry all of my ex's. and I thank God I didn't. I want to marry my current bf, but how do I know when I REALLY should???

[kate111]

Apparently you have to have:

 

Mental connection

Physical attraction

Similar belief system

[quietgrl]

Yvette84,

 

Wow!, That is a BIG decision to make in a woman's life, should you get married to a currant boyfriend or wait.Well do you feel you've achieve almost everything in your life,if yes. Iwould get married if no.I wouldn't get married

[brando]

I dont think anyone really does know. I think it is a crcok when people say they knew.

 

I think it is a journey two people are willing to take together. No gurantees though. The better you now yourself the better a mate you can choose to SHARE your life with.

 

And i don't think being in love is a basis for being married. Just my opinion.

[Portage]

I truly haven't the foggiest notion. after one failed marriage i deem it safe to never go down that path again...maybe i'll have a roomie with benefits down the road??

 

Maybe not romantic BUT practical. Besides a piece of paper means nothing if the connection fades.

[eliza]

Is this current partner special to you in anyways that the others weren't? You have to have been with him long enough (personally I think at least a year) and know that the relationship isn't deteriotating. And you MUST MUST know that he feels that way.

 

I can actually ask my boyfriend to say "will you marry me?" just so I can melt and be all gooey and happy *sigh* a sign that he is comfortable with the possibility.

[laboheme]

Try to imagine you and him in very difficult scenarios (sickness, death of family members, having a child) and think whether you would be willing to stick by each other's side no matter what. Also, I think everyone should have at least one good argument before marriage...just to see how the other person handles conflict.

 

Also, I realize that every situation is unique and some people get married very soon...but in general, I think it takes quite a bit of time to decide whether or not you could happily spend the rest of your life with that person. And if I recall, it's only been a few months since you started dating...Are you at the point where you are comfortable doing everyday things together, or is it still in the lovey-dovey we-need-to-impress-each-other stage?