Waiting time - how long?

[gift from the gods]

Ok so I met this guy on firday night (its tuesday now) and i we really "connect" and both really like each other (we are doing the whole are we arnt we together thing) since friday we have been like rolling around kissing for hours and stuff, but i really like this guy and we have both talked about how we feel like this could be something really good

 

I have just come out of a almost 2 year relationship (arguing since march, split up in october!) and he was the only guy ive ever slept with (im 17). the guy i met on friday is quite a bit more experianced than me (hes 18).

I really want to show him how much i like him and although i feel comfortable and respected, i feel bad for thinking about it so soon, esp after i have just come out of a relationship. I dont want to be like "someones number" so im a little confuzed as what to do!

 

I know its soon but it feels 'right' now, i was just wondering how long we should wait before we have full sex? (even thought obvously he isnt pressuring me or anything

Thank you for helping!

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[sophie274]

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I really want to show him how much i like him

 

Well, you can do whatever you want. For technical safety reasons, you really should wait until both of you have been tested for STIs.

 

What worries me is the line I quoted above - if you do decide to have sex, don't do it because you want to show him you like him! There are plenty of other ways to show appreciation/affection. Basically, have sex because you want to for yourself, not for him.

 

If I were you, I would wait, because I would want to be emotionally connected to the person I was sleeping with, be in love, and know more about them (things you can only find out with time). However, it is up to each individual to decide what their standards for having sex are. Just make sure YOU feel comfortable with the decision, and don't make it to prove anything to him or keep him around.

[Lost in fairytales]

Sophie is smart, tested for STI is really important!

 

As to when to have sex, it's when you feel that you are ready. Don't push yourself to sleep with him, only your subconscious will tell you when the time comes.

[gift from the gods]

hehe i didnt read what i said very well. I ment i just like to feel connected physicaly as well as emotionaly... i think im just going to see him for about a month, kiss and have fun! then serously talk about it, eg. tests, protection ect.

[Day_Walker]

No one can really tell you how to wait. I like to put it this way, if you slept with him now and it was to end, would you feel bad about it? If the answer is yes then it is too soon, if no then it is time.

[gift from the gods]

it is time.

 

hehehe i like the way you put that,...and yeah thats a good piece of advice! Im make him wait a while! xx