daviepants Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 My ex, whom broke up with me about 3 months ago got a new b/f. He just broke up with her today. She is telling me she's sorry for being such a and that "karma bit her in the ".. she's being friendly, and she obviously needs my compassion. I still want her back, and I'm fairly open about that. She only talks about her ex, stuff like "why did he say he loved me", etc, etc.. whilst I try to bring up OUR old relationship. Overall, it's a huge . How should I proceed? She obviously realizes it was a mistake, but I don't know exactly how she feels about me. Edit: I've been on NC for the past month or so (with mess-ups here and there). We've been together for 2 years, she's been together with the new guy for 3 months. Link to comment
in_love Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 She only talks about her ex, stuff like "why did he say he loved me" She has been hurt!!! I think you should be very careful dude! She is, so it seems, looking for a shoulder to cry on. But hey, who am I to judge? sometimes it take a bit of pain to make ya realise what you need to realise. Link to comment
rasberigirl Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 Especially considering she's contacting you the same day another guy dumps her...she's clearly trying to use you as an emotional crutch to nurse her bruised ego. Unless you thrive on drama, being used, and continuously disrespected, I say spare yourself from further torture and not get re-involved. Let her issues be her own. Good luck. Link to comment
papalazarou Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 I would say NC until she is completely over the other guy. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 Davie, You are what women call Plan B.... I hate to say it..but its true... She couldn't have what she wanted..so she came back....I would leave this one alone... As soon as someone else comes along..or he comes back.. You are toast! BE safe!!!! Your Friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
arrrrffff Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 And if she really really really really really x 1000000000000 made a mistake and really really really really really loves you then she WILL respect your space and will still come back to you weeks/ months down the road. You will know about it because she will have to SHOW you that she has changed and she will have to work for it. All of this has to happen without your interference/input. Anything else, is "Plan B." You've come a long way in your healing, keep those wounds closed. Link to comment
rsxguy520 Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 yeah seriously, for right now continue NC. don't get yourself involved with that drama its total b.s.. i understand that you love her and all, but right now, you are her plan B and you don't want that. you want respect man. she needs to understand and feel what she put you through...but hey thats just my 2 cents. Keep your head up! Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 12, 2006 Author Share Posted December 12, 2006 Yep, well they "got back together", today, and it totally destroyed me. I've had enough of this crap already, and I just want it to be over. I'm the one that was hurt.. and she was the one threatening to hang up (I wasn't yelling or anything at all)... lol. Some people are just idiots. Considering that I moved accross the country for this girl, I lost my full scholarship, and all of my college buddies, yeah.. she pretty much ruined my life. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 Place your bets..... Place your bets... I have 50 bucks that says when his ex and her rebound break up again... GUESS WHO WILL TRY TO COME RUNNING BACK TO DAVIE!! PLACE YOUR BETS .....PLACE YOUR BETS.... Your Friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 13, 2006 Author Share Posted December 13, 2006 Yeah, I'm confused.. she's sending mixed signals.. she tells me we'll NEVER be together.. but for one day, I know she was considering it at least slightly. Now, she's back to her previous self. Link to comment
Luke17 Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 Davie, I understand how you feel and am sad too. My ex-gf has a new boyfriend and I despise him. As much as I want to think that they'll break up and she'll come back to me, I realize that there are 3 billion other women on this planet and lots of them are capable of showing me more love than my ex ever did. Let her go knowing that one of these days, a new girl will come along who will have all the qualities you loved about your ex and none of the things you hated. Remember that most of us on here are sad, but it is that sadness that will allow us to appreciate all the happiness in our lives to come. Link to comment
melee18 Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 keep your confidence up davie - i know it's hard right now and she's all you think about, but spend some time on you. here's a little phrase for you: "live right now yeah, just be yourself. it doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else." Link to comment
MountainDrew Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 I think I'm in the beginning stages of your situation Davie. My gf of 3 and half years ended it about 2 weeks ago. Now there is a different guy in the picture already. Just letting you know that you're not the only one, I feel your pain. Quite vividly actually. I'm not looking forward to when/if she comes running back to me. I mean, as much as I would love to have her back, I don't think I could stand to be used. Chin up Davie. I'm sure trying... Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 16, 2006 Author Share Posted December 16, 2006 Yeah well I don't know.. I talked to her again on the phone today.. she keeps blaming us breaking up on me.. well whatever I've had enough of it. I'm just sick of thinking of her.. and she is living in a fantasy world. I'm sad, but she doesn't care. So why should I? Link to comment
Juha Posted December 16, 2006 Share Posted December 16, 2006 Been thru it also.... Delete everything and put anything that reminds you of her out of site in a box and store it away or throw them away, whatever it takes to help you not think or remind you of her.... Sorry that you had to learn this hard lesson but you will be a better and stronger person for it... Things will only get better for you now that you will concentrate on what is right for you... THere are millions of people out there like her, they will try and suck the life and soul out of you, don't let them.... Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 18, 2006 Author Share Posted December 18, 2006 Been thru it also.... Delete everything and put anything that reminds you of her out of site in a box and store it away or throw them away, whatever it takes to help you not think or remind you of her.... Sorry that you had to learn this hard lesson but you will be a better and stronger person for it... Things will only get better for you now that you will concentrate on what is right for you... THere are millions of people out there like her, they will try and suck the life and soul out of you, don't let them.... Thanks for the encouragement. Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 THere are millions of people out there like her, they will try and suck the life and soul out of you, don't let them.... I certainly won't Link to comment
whenamansloveisreal Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 this is what i am going to do about my situation - i want her back - no more nonsense. i am going to ask her directly, face to face, if she is with another - i will be a gentleman and bow out and not be a factor again. this woman knows me and what we could be - so, i am now able to walk away - and start elsewhere - i will not change later. jebus, love is not supposed to be like this - but if she is with another then i respect that. i will not play this game with love and hearts when something special is in the balance - i messed up once - i will never again. Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 20, 2006 Author Share Posted December 20, 2006 Thanks for all the people that are helping me out.. I feel that I'm really stepping away from the situation, and I'm happy about it. I'm still sad, and I still miss her at times, but this just needs to be done. Link to comment
whenamansloveisreal Posted December 20, 2006 Share Posted December 20, 2006 gawd i hate reading my old posts! that was me being all hardcore - lol but that is true if the woman i love is already dating i would not be someone that interferes with her life that way Link to comment
papalazarou Posted December 20, 2006 Share Posted December 20, 2006 Yep if I knew mine was dating Id give her a wide berth!! Link to comment
daviepants Posted December 22, 2006 Author Share Posted December 22, 2006 LMAO.. they just broke up again.. and she texts me yesterday with this: "By the way, you were right. He turned around and dumped me again." I don't really know what to do/say/whatever. Maybe I'll call her for x-mas, and just wish her holiday's greetings.. and see if SHE wants to talk about it.. I received no calls, no nothing, just that text message yesterday.. why would she care what I know. I just don't understand her at all. =[ Link to comment
papalazarou Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 Up to you mate...but as Superdave would say...bear in mind she may just be using you as a security blanket..... Link to comment
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