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[JustYourAverageGirl]

i just wanted to ask you guys a question.

 

if something was really bothering you and you were stressed..would you want to talk to your sweetheart? or would you rather be alone and figure it out yourself?

[Cloud802]

It depends on the situation, if it's something minor I just try not to worry too much, but if it is extremely stressful then yes, I would like to talk to my SO about it, or maybe even a good friend. It's always good to have someone to listen to your whining. ^_^

[melrich]

I have to admit I would try figuring it out myself. I am much better at talking about her problems than I am my own.

[laboheme]

If something was bothering me, I would always talk to my ex about it. He was really good at calming me down and reassuring me that everything would be okay in the end...I must say that it upset me that he wasn't as open about his problems as I was, because I really would have liked to help him with anything and everything.

 

Don't know how things will pan out in future relationships though.

 

Why do you ask though? Are you wondering if it's okay to talk to your significant other about a problem that you're having? Or are you wondering if he's keeping his problems from you?

[JustYourAverageGirl]

well my SO has something thats stressing him and he hasent talked about it and i havent pushed the subject, i just backed off. but yeah theres some stuff i'd like to tell him but it has to do with things that he doesnt believe in.

[healinginnyc81]

When I'm stressed out, I usually prefer to be alone.

 

I think the best thing is to give him space and time and just let him know you care. He probably doesn't want to talk, but rather to just know that you're there for him.

[Juliana]

It would depend on how busy he was, whether or not I needed to handle it on my own, whether he might have something constructive to add to it. He's pretty good about being supportive, but the benefit of that wears off pretty quickly if I take advantage of it too much.

[blindfold]

i'd talk to him, just to let him know what's going on, or just so he wouldn't be unaware of any possible "strange" or sad behaviour on my part... but if i wanted to be the one to fix it or to figure it out by myself, i'd still share it, but saying precisely that: that i needed to work it out on my own... just because you tell your troubles to someone doesn't mean they have to fix it - sometimes you just need to be heard.