xLDx Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 There's a difference between the "best break-up songs" which has been covered on this site already, and songs that actually mean something really deep to you. Songs that reminds you of the relationship, and songs will very similar situations to your own. Personally, music is some of the best therapy. It might not fix problems or make you feel better about what has happened, but it numbs pain. It's calming, or satsfying. I think a lot of people can relate their personal situations to many songs. May it be the actual relationship, or the after-effects of the break-up itself. I'm writing this because the only time I've broken down since my break-up was when I listened to a song that captured the essense of what I was feeling almost exactly. I'm just curious if anyone else has gone through that as well. So this is what I propose, and hopefully people will participate: Name a song and the artist that wrote that song that really captured what you went through, and explain why. Explain the real significance of the lyrical aspect of the song, and to help others who are reading this thread, I recommend that you paste the lyrics as well! ---------------------------------------------------- With that said, I guess I'll go first. The song I chose was Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt. Somewhat cliche perhaps, but this song crushed me when I heard it. It was so real to me. Why? Because this song is not about trying to get a girl back that you love. It's about letting that girl go. My ex and I love each other very dearly even still, but circumstance tore us apart. If we thought our being together was realistic at all, without a doubt we'd be in each others arms right now. We were best friends and very intimate as well. I saw everything I wanted in her. If circumstance did not get between us, I'd easily say I'd fight to be with her for as long as I could. I'd want to have children with her, and grow old with her. But we both know it's time to move on, and that we can't look back. We know each other inside and out. We know our likes and dislikes, and what makes us laugh, and what it takes to make us cry. What I thought I could have in the future with her were dreams. Unrealistic dreams that are now gone, and broken. The song focuses a good amount on that... In the end there are so many other aspects of this song that remind me of her and this would be an even huger post if I was to analyze it all, so quite simply, this is my ultimate break-up song. Here it is. Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt Did I disappoint you or let you down? Should I be feeling guilty or let the judges frown? 'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun, Yes I saw you were blind and I knew I had won. So I took what's mine by eternal right. Took your soul out into the night. It may be over but it won't stop there, I am here for you if you'd only care. You touched my heart you touched my soul. You changed my life and all my goals. And love is blind but then I knew it, My heart was blinded by you. I've kissed your lips and held your head. Shared your dreams and shared your bed. I know you well, I know your smell. I've been addicted to you. Goodbye my lover. Goodbye my friend. You have been the one. You have been the one for me.(2x) I am a dreamer and when I wake, You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams you take. And as you move on, remember me, Remember us and all we used to be I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile. I've watched you sleeping for a while. I'd be the father of your child. I'd spend a lifetime with you. I know your fears and you know mine. We've had our doubts but now we're fine, And I love you, I swear that's true. I cannot live without you. Goodbye my lover. Goodbye my friend. You have been the one. You have been the one for me.(2x) And I still hold your hand in mine. In mine when I'm asleep. And I will bear my soul in time, When I'm kneeling at your feet. Goodbye my lover. Goodbye my friend. You have been the one. You have been the one for me.(2x) I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow. I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.(X2) Link to comment
dogheadma Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 Guess I Was a Fool by Another Level is a great break-up song for me. The lyrics are kind of basic and a little pedantic on paper so I won't put them here but when you couple it with the music it's a really cool song. Check it out if you get a chance. Link to comment
ScreenagerX Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 I chose Hate Me Today by Blue October as this was released here at about the same time as my wife & decided to go our own separate ways. Basically the point is pretty obvious, a low self worth & feeling that your not good enough for your partner who seemingly sacrificed alot for the relationship via support & care. You want that person to be happy & the only way that you can see for that to happen is if that person is no longer with you and that perhaps it would be easier if that person no longer loved you, in fact hated you. The kicker for me (apart from the timing that is was playing on the radio) was a couple of the lines that I could directly relate to : And like a baby boy I never was a man Until I saw your blue eyes cry and I held your face in my hand And then I fell down yelling "Make it go away!" Just make her smile come back and shine just like it used to be And then she whispered "How can you do this to me?" This song literally brought tears to my eyes nearly everytime I heard it. I think alot of that is to do with the fact that for a long time I felt directly responsible for the breakdown of our marriage. In a lot of ways I still do. I wasn't a drinker but I had other issues. HATE ME TODAY – BLUE OCTOBER I have to block out thoughts of you, so I don't lose my head They crawl in like a cockroach leaving babies in my bed Dropping little reels of tape to remind me that I'm alone Playing movies in my head that make a porno feel like home There's a burning in my pride, a nervous bleeding in my brain An ounce of peace is all I want for you, Will you never call again? And will you never say that you love me just to put it in my face And will you never try to reach me, it is I that wanted space Hate me today. Hate me tomorrow. Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you. I'm sober now for 3 whole months, it's one accomplishment that you helped me with. The one thing that always tore us apart is the one thing that I won't touch again. In my sick way I want to thank you for holding my head up late at night While I was busy waging wars on myself, you were trying to stop the fight You never doubted my warped opinions on things like suicidal hate You made me compliment myself when it was way too hard to take So I'll drive so ****ing far away that I'll never cross your mind And do whatever it takes in your heart to leave me behind Hate me today. Hate me tomorrow. Hate me for all the things I didn't do for you. Hate me in ways, yeah ways hard to swallow. Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you. And with a sad heart I say bye to you and wave Kicking shadows on the street for every mistake that I have made And like a baby boy I never was a man Until I saw your blue eyes cry and I held your face in my hand And then I fell down yelling "Make it go away!" Just make her smile come back and shine just like it used to be And then she whispered "How can you do this to me?" Hate me today Hate me tomorrow Hate me for all the things I didn't do for you Hate me in ways, yeah ways hard to swallow Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you ...for you...for you...for you Link to comment
Baby Carrot Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 Sometimes I feel I've got to Run away I've got to Get away From the pain that you drive into the heart of me The love we share Seems to go nowhere And I've lost my light For I toss and turn I can't sleep at night Once I ran to you (I ran) Now I'll run from you This tainted love you've given I give you all a boy could give you Take my tears and that's not nearly all Oh...tainted love Tainted love Now I know I've got to Run away I've got to Get away You don't really want IT any more from me To make things right You need someone to hold you tight And you'LL think love is to pray But I'm sorry I don't pray that way Don't touch me please I cannot stand the way you tease I love you though you hurt me so Now I'm going to pack my things and go Tainted love, tainted love Touch me baby, tainted love Tainted love Link to comment
BornToResist Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 Well I'm currently in a messy-breakup situation...but the song that has helped me the most is "How to Save a Life" by The Fray. My ex has a drug addiction and this song explains EXACTLY how I've felt time and time again. I've waited for him to change...I've tried to talk to him about it...and I'm the one who always wonders why I keep trying. Step one you say we need to talk He walks you say sit down it's just a talk He smiles politely back at you You stare politely right on through Some sort of window to your right As he goes left and you stay right Between the lines of fear and blame And you begin to wonder why you came Chorus: Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Let him know that you know best Cause after all you do know best Try to slip past his defense Without granting innocence Lay down a list of what is wrong The things you've told him all along And pray to God he hears you And pray to God he hears you (chorus) As he begins to raise his voice You lower yours and grant him one last choice Drive until you lose the road Or break with the ones you've followed He will do one of two things He will admit to everything Or he'll say he's just not the same And you'll begin to wonder why you came Link to comment
chigal28 Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 "The Scientist" by Coldplay came on the car radio as my ex and I were realizing, finally, that we just couldn't make it work anymore after four years together and one year of trying to make it work when it wasn't. We were particularly struck by the lyrics "Nobody said it was easy, It's such a shame for us to part, Nobody said it was easy, No one ever said it would be this hard. I wished so much that we could go back to the start, when it was so great, and realized we couldn't. I still can't hear that song without it reminding me of that time in my life, and that moment. Although I have to say that this is the first time I ever knew that the actual lyrics were "oh take me back to the start," not "take me back to the stars." Then again, I also thought the lyrics to "Just west of Eden" were "Just twist, Evita." So what do I know? THE SCIENTIST BY COLDPLAY Come up to meet you, Tell you I'm sorry, You don't know how lovely you are I had to find you, Tell you I need you, Tell you I set you apart Tell me your secrets, And ask me your questions, Aww let's go back to the start Runnin' in circles, [sounds like] Comin' our tails, Heads on the science apart Nobody said it was easy It's such a shame for us to part Nobody said it was easy No one ever said it would be this hard Aww take me back to the start I was just guessin', At numbers and figures, Pullin' the puzzles apart Questions of science, Science and progress, Do not speak as loud as my heart Tell me you love me, Come back to haunt me, Oh when I rush to the start Runnin' in circles, [sounds like] Chasin' our tails, Comin' back as we are Nobody said it was easy Aww It's such a shame for us to part Nobody said it was easy No one ever said it would be so hard I'm goin' back to the start Link to comment
D1886 Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 The whole Nick Lachey CD, What's left of me Link to comment
PrincessJOA Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 Theres a song for me that literally kills when I listen to it. It is the theme soundtrack of my past relationship with this guy I was in love with for so long. I waited patiently for the day when he would finally see Im not going anywhere, and when he did, it was at the wrong place at the wrong time, and I knew it would never last long. Its a song by Yellowcard called 'ONLY ONE' This song means a lot..a LOOTTT to me. Omg Im crying now as I am listening to it right this very moment. Anyways, this is a song about a guy/girl who is obsessively in love with the significant other but he/she knows that things are never gonna work out between the both of them. Even though he/she never wants to leave her/him, but he/she knows thats the only thing to do. To set them free. Although it hurts knowing that you want them so bad, because they're the only person you want to be with, and no body else can ever make you feel the way they do, but you know you're not good enough to make them happy. You are the cause of their pain. You are the reason for their misery. So you made a decision out of love and consideration, to let them go, because you know there's someone out there who can give him/her all they want and all they need. You gave them a chance to look for someone better, and settle for a relationship with potential. I love this guy so much I've seen the worst and the best in him and he's really amazing. But I know things would never work out between us, as much as I love him, I dont want to be a burden in his life. Because I know he and will never ever work, I had to let him go. I dedicated this song to him, and he cried, saying my message is loud and clear. That I gave up not because I dont care anymore, its because I do.... I can go on and on and on about this. But I think its too long of a post. Heres the lyrics. Broken this fragile thing now And I can't, I can't pick up the pieces And I've thrown my words all around But I can't, I can't give you a reason I feel so broken up (so broken up) And I give up (I give up) I just want to tell you so you know Here I go, scream my lungs out and try to get to you You are my only one I let go, but there's just no one that gets me like you You are my only, my only one Made my mistakes, let you down And I can't, I can't hold on for too long Ran my whole life in the ground And I can't, I can't get up when you're gone And something's breaking up (breaking up) I feel like giving up (like giving up) I won't walk out until you know Here I go, scream my lungs out and try to get to you You are my only one I let go, but there's just no one that gets me like you You are my only my only one Here I go so dishonestly Leave a note for you my only one And I know you can see right through me So let me go and you will find someone Here I go, scream my lungs out and try to get to you You are my only one I let go, but there's just no one, no one like you You are my only, my only one My only one My only one My only one You are my only, my only one Link to comment
iamteddybearfeelmecuddle Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 The songs that probably get to me the most, for various reasons, are: Careless Whisper, George Michael Broken Wings, Mister Mister Still Lovin' You, Scorpions One Thing, Finger Eleven Link to comment
Caterina Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 I think Elton John's "Someone Saved My Life Tonight" describes the elation I had after one of my break ups. There were nights he kept me up until five am and it was madness. I was trapped, and I pulled myself out of it. He had his hooks in me and I was the one who saved my own life. The particular lyrics that I'm drawn to are And someone saved my life tonight sugar bear You almost had your hooks in me didn't you dear You nearly had me roped and tied Altar-bound, hypnotized Sweet freedom whispered in my ear I never realised the passing hours of evening showers A slip noose hanging in my darkest dreams It's four o'clock in the morning Damn it listen to me good I'm sleeping with myself tonight [/b] Here is the whole song: When I think of those East End lights, muggy nights The curtains drawn in the little room downstairs Prima Donna lord you really should have been there Sitting like a princess perched in her electric chair And it's one more beer and I don't hear you anymore We've all gone crazy lately My friends out there rolling round the basement floor And someone saved my life tonight sugar bear You almost had your hooks in me didn't you dear You nearly had me roped and tied Altar-bound, hypnotized Sweet freedom whispered in my ear You're a butterfly And butterflies are free to fly Fly away, high away, bye bye I never realised the passing hours of evening showers A slip noose hanging in my darkest dreams I'm strangled by your haunted social scene Just a pawn out-played by a dominating queen It's four o'clock in the morning Damn it listen to me good I'm sleeping with myself tonight Saved in time, thank God my music's still alive And I would have walked head on into the deep end of the river Clinging to your stocks and bonds Paying your H.P. demands forever They're coming in the morning with a truck to take me home Someone saved my life tonight, someone saved my life tonight Someone saved my life tonight, someone saved my life tonight Someone saved my life tonight So save your strength and run the field you play alone Link to comment
sandyv Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 Yeah this song is from way back.... but I heard it the week after I lost Jack: .... so much meaning there for me: When I come home you telephone To say you're waiting for me I ask you why - I hear you cry, But you're still waiting for me Someday you'll be shedding your tears To cry over me Someday I'll be losing this fear Now I'm alone, you telephone To tell me you don't need me I ask you why, you tell me lies And say the truth would hurt me Someday you'll be shedding your tears To cry over me Someday I'll be losing this fear Oh, Oh . . . someday Down in the street where lovers meet That's where I'm waiting for you In the streets where lovers meet I'm still waiting for you Someday you'll be shedding your tears And then you'll cry over me [cry over me] Someday I'll be losing this fear Someday you'll be shedding your tears And then you'll cry over me [cry over me] Someday I'll be losing this fear Link to comment
NoComply Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 Konstantine - something corporate I can't imagine all the people that you know and the places that you go When the lights are turned down low and I don't understand all the things you've seen but I'm slipping in between You and your big dreams It's always you In my big dreams And you tell me that its over wake up lying in a patch of four leaf clovers and your restless and im naked you gotta get out you cant stand to see me shakin no could u let me go? i didnt think so and youi dont wanna be here in the future so you say the presants just a pleasant interruption to the past and you dont wanna look much closer cause ur afriad to find out all this hope you had sent into the sky by now had crashed and it did because of me and then you bring me home afraid to find out that your alone oh and im sleeping in your living room but we dont have much room to live and i had these dreams in them i learned to play guitar maybe cross the country become a rock star and there was hope in me that I could take you there but damnit you're so young well i dont think i care and if i hurt you then im sorry please dont think that this was easy and then you bring me home cause we both know what its like to be alone oh and im dreaming in your living room but we dont have much room to live and konstantine is walking down the stairs doesnt she look good standing in her underware and i was thinking what i was thinkin we've been drinkin and it doesnt get me anywhere my konstantine came walking down the stairs and all that i could do was touch her long blond hair and ive been thinkin but it hurts me thinking that these nights when we were drinking no they never got us anywhere no this is because i can spell confusion with a 'K' and i can like it its to dying in anothers arms and why i had to try it its to jimmy eat world and those nights in my car when the first star you see may not be a star im not your star isnt that what you said what you thought this song meant and if this is what it takes just to lye with my mistakes and live with what i did to you all the hell i put you through i always catch the clock its 11:11 now you wanna talk its not hard to dream you'll always be my konstantine my konstantine they'll never hurt you like i do no they'll never hurt you like i do no,no,no, no, no, no, no, no this is to a girl who got into my head with all the pretty things she did hey ya know you keep me up in bed this is to a girl who got into my head with all these * * * *ed up things i did hey maybe baby you could keep me up in bed my konstanine you spin around me like a dream we played out on this movie screen and i said did u know i missed you(x7) i miss you and then you bring me home and we go to sleep but this time not alone and i know and you'll kiss me in your living room i know i know you miss me in your living room cuz these nights i think maybe that i miss you in my licing room but we dont have much room i said does anybody need that room because we all need a little more room to live my konstantine... Link to comment
cecerose Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 My Break Up Song: "So Long Frank Lloyd Wright," - Simon & Garfunkel So long, Frank Lloyd Wright. I can't believe your song is gone so soon. I barely learned the tune So soon So soon. I'll remember Frank Lloyd Wright. All of the nights we'd harmonize till dawn. I never laughed so long So long So long. CHORUS Architects may come and Architects may go and Never change your point of view. When I run dry I stop awhile and think of you So long, Frank Lloyd Wright All of the nights we'd harmonize till dawn. I never laughed so long So long So long. Link to comment
sandyv Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 Yeah this one also says it all BTW It is by the Rolling Stones, a hidden gem on one of their older albums.. I can almost hear you sigh I can almost hear you cry On every crowded street All the places we would meet What will I do without you They say that life goes on I'm feeling sorry for myself I can't believe you're gone You acted much too calm You turned on all the charm You had a cold look in your eyes I can feel your tongue on mine Silky smooth like wine I'm living with those memories That's all that's left of you and me I can almost hear you sigh Almost hear you cry When you made sweet love to me And you turned on all the charm Acted much too calm You had a cold look in your eyes Did it mean nothng Was it all in vain Was I just your fool Or was the pleasure pain Have you set me free Or will I wake up In the morning And find out it's been a bad dream Come on, I beg you I want to be your main man I can almost hear you sigh Almost hear you cry When you make sweet love to me Almost see your smile It stretched half a mile You had a stone cold look in your eyes Link to comment
comfyshoes Posted November 24, 2006 Share Posted November 24, 2006 Who let in the rain? by cyndi lauper. I used to call her rain. song used to make me sad, now i just wonder why i let the rain in, in the first place. Her new girlfriend will bill calling her that now, as did the girl before me and the one before her. shoes Link to comment
ConfusedBigTime Posted November 24, 2006 Share Posted November 24, 2006 It is a country song. Goodbye Time by Blake Shelton. Lyrics below and how true it is.... It's your life - you say you need a change Don't all the dreams we've seen come true mean anything You say it's different now and you keep staring at the door How can you walk away don't I matter anymore If being free's worth what you leave behind And if it's too late for love to change your mind Then it's goodbye time If we had known our love would come to this We could have saved our hearts the hurt of wasted years Well it's been fun - what else can I say If the feeling's gone words won't stop you anyway If being free's worth what you leave behind And if it's too late for love to change your mind Then it's goodbye time Goodbye Baby Link to comment
Juliana Posted November 24, 2006 Share Posted November 24, 2006 "I just wanted to see you smile again, see you smile, see your eyes again..." - from Didn't Mean, by Tom Cochrane Just since the summer. Link to comment
miss888s Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 You Were Meant For Me by Jewel...i love that song..and cry everytime i hear it. i feel like i am going through every single word in that song Link to comment
iamteddybearfeelmecuddle Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 You Were Meant For Me by Jewel...i love that song..and cry everytime i hear it. i feel like i am going through every single word in that song Yes I can relate that song is a bit of a tear jerker. Link to comment
gtd Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 Time by Ne-yo I can't even get to the chorus without crying Torn by Letoya Luckett Applies to my current situation and when I really get mad... and frustrated and just wanna give up, i listen to F*** It, by Eamon Link to comment
Survictor Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 I hate break up songs! I don't think I have any either. Do they not make you feel sad and heighten your emotional state with sad lyrics etc.? I wouldn't want to do that to myself! I have songs that invoke memories as everyone has..mmm thinking now.... nope... no break up songs. Thank goodness. Link to comment
iamteddybearfeelmecuddle Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 Acceptence is the first step for you! Link to comment
xLDx Posted November 26, 2006 Author Share Posted November 26, 2006 Personally I listen to break-ups songs for the same reason I come to these forums: To let me know that I'm not alone. It makes me feel better to know that other people in this world have been or are going through the same situations I am. Also, since music is such a beautiful thing is this world, it's also soothing. Listening to it might seem very emotional, but my mind on its own isn't much better. Often I think of the situations I'm in, and often I think of my ex. I find music to be much better therapy than the counsel of my own thoughts. Link to comment
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