Break-up songs vs. Personal experiences~ Participate if you can!

[xLDx]

There's a difference between the "best break-up songs" which has been covered on this site already, and songs that actually mean something really deep to you. Songs that reminds you of the relationship, and songs will very similar situations to your own.

 

Personally, music is some of the best therapy. It might not fix problems or make you feel better about what has happened, but it numbs pain. It's calming, or satsfying.

 

I think a lot of people can relate their personal situations to many songs. May it be the actual relationship, or the after-effects of the break-up itself.

 

I'm writing this because the only time I've broken down since my break-up was when I listened to a song that captured the essense of what I was feeling almost exactly. I'm just curious if anyone else has gone through that as well.

 

So this is what I propose, and hopefully people will participate:

 

Name a song and the artist that wrote that song that really captured what you went through, and explain why. Explain the real significance of the lyrical aspect of the song, and to help others who are reading this thread, I recommend that you paste the lyrics as well!

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With that said, I guess I'll go first.

 

The song I chose was Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt. Somewhat cliche perhaps, but this song crushed me when I heard it. It was so real to me.

 

Why? Because this song is not about trying to get a girl back that you love. It's about letting that girl go. My ex and I love each other very dearly even still, but circumstance tore us apart. If we thought our being together was realistic at all, without a doubt we'd be in each others arms right now. We were best friends and very intimate as well. I saw everything I wanted in her. If circumstance did not get between us, I'd easily say I'd fight to be with her for as long as I could. I'd want to have children with her, and grow old with her. But we both know it's time to move on, and that we can't look back.

 

We know each other inside and out. We know our likes and dislikes, and what makes us laugh, and what it takes to make us cry.

 

What I thought I could have in the future with her were dreams. Unrealistic dreams that are now gone, and broken. The song focuses a good amount on that...

 

In the end there are so many other aspects of this song that remind me of her and this would be an even huger post if I was to analyze it all, so quite simply, this is my ultimate break-up song.

 

Here it is.

 

Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt

 

Did I disappoint you or let you down?

Should I be feeling guilty or let the judges frown?

'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun,

Yes I saw you were blind and I knew I had won.

 

So I took what's mine by eternal right.

Took your soul out into the night.

It may be over but it won't stop there,

I am here for you if you'd only care.

 

You touched my heart you touched my soul.

You changed my life and all my goals.

And love is blind but then I knew it,

My heart was blinded by you.

 

I've kissed your lips and held your head.

Shared your dreams and shared your bed.

I know you well, I know your smell.

I've been addicted to you.

 

Goodbye my lover.

Goodbye my friend.

You have been the one.

You have been the one for me.(2x)

 

I am a dreamer and when I wake,

You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams you take.

And as you move on, remember me,

Remember us and all we used to be

 

I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile.

I've watched you sleeping for a while.

I'd be the father of your child.

I'd spend a lifetime with you.

 

I know your fears and you know mine.

We've had our doubts but now we're fine,

And I love you, I swear that's true.

I cannot live without you.

 

Goodbye my lover.

Goodbye my friend.

You have been the one.

You have been the one for me.(2x)

 

And I still hold your hand in mine.

In mine when I'm asleep.

And I will bear my soul in time,

When I'm kneeling at your feet.

 

Goodbye my lover.

Goodbye my friend.

You have been the one.

You have been the one for me.(2x)

 

I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow.

I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.(X2)

[dogheadma]

Guess I Was a Fool by Another Level is a great break-up song for me. The lyrics are kind of basic and a little pedantic on paper so I won't put them here but when you couple it with the music it's a really cool song. Check it out if you get a chance.

[ScreenagerX]

I chose Hate Me Today by Blue October as this was released here at about the same time as my wife & decided to go our own separate ways.

 

Basically the point is pretty obvious, a low self worth & feeling that your not good enough for your partner who seemingly sacrificed alot for the relationship via support & care. You want that person to be happy & the only way that you can see for that to happen is if that person is no longer with you and that perhaps it would be easier if that person no longer loved you, in fact hated you.

 

The kicker for me (apart from the timing that is was playing on the radio) was a couple of the lines that I could directly relate to :

 

And like a baby boy I never was a man

Until I saw your blue eyes cry and I held your face in my hand

And then I fell down yelling "Make it go away!"

Just make her smile come back and shine just like it used to be

And then she whispered "How can you do this to me?"

 

This song literally brought tears to my eyes nearly everytime I heard it. I think alot of that is to do with the fact that for a long time I felt directly responsible for the breakdown of our marriage. In a lot of ways I still do. I wasn't a drinker but I had other issues.

 

HATE ME TODAY – BLUE OCTOBER

 

I have to block out thoughts of you, so I don't lose my head

They crawl in like a cockroach leaving babies in my bed

Dropping little reels of tape to remind me that I'm alone

Playing movies in my head that make a porno feel like home

There's a burning in my pride, a nervous bleeding in my brain

An ounce of peace is all I want for you, Will you never call again?

And will you never say that you love me just to put it in my face

And will you never try to reach me, it is I that wanted space

 

Hate me today.

Hate me tomorrow.

Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you.

 

I'm sober now for 3 whole months, it's one accomplishment that you helped me with.

The one thing that always tore us apart is the one thing that I won't touch again.

In my sick way I want to thank you for holding my head up late at night

While I was busy waging wars on myself, you were trying to stop the fight

You never doubted my warped opinions on things like suicidal hate

You made me compliment myself when it was way too hard to take

So I'll drive so ****ing far away that I'll never cross your mind

And do whatever it takes in your heart to leave me behind

 

Hate me today.

Hate me tomorrow.

Hate me for all the things I didn't do for you.

Hate me in ways, yeah ways hard to swallow.

Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you.

 

And with a sad heart I say bye to you and wave

Kicking shadows on the street for every mistake that I have made

And like a baby boy I never was a man

Until I saw your blue eyes cry and I held your face in my hand

And then I fell down yelling "Make it go away!"

Just make her smile come back and shine just like it used to be

And then she whispered "How can you do this to me?"

 

Hate me today

Hate me tomorrow

Hate me for all the things I didn't do for you

Hate me in ways, yeah ways hard to swallow

Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you

...for you...for you...for you

[Baby Carrot]

Sometimes I feel I've got to

Run away I've got to

Get away

From the pain that you drive into the heart of me

The love we share

Seems to go nowhere

And I've lost my light

For I toss and turn I can't sleep at night

 

Once I ran to you (I ran)

Now I'll run from you

This tainted love you've given

I give you all a boy could give you

Take my tears and that's not nearly all

Oh...tainted love

Tainted love

 

Now I know I've got to

Run away I've got to

Get away

You don't really want IT any more from me

To make things right

You need someone to hold you tight

And you'LL think love is to pray

But I'm sorry I don't pray that way

 

Don't touch me please

I cannot stand the way you tease

I love you though you hurt me so

Now I'm going to pack my things and go

Tainted love, tainted love

Touch me baby, tainted love

Tainted love

[BornToResist]

Well I'm currently in a messy-breakup situation...but the song that has helped me the most is "How to Save a Life" by The Fray.

 

My ex has a drug addiction and this song explains EXACTLY how I've felt time and time again. I've waited for him to change...I've tried to talk to him about it...and I'm the one who always wonders why I keep trying.

 

Step one you say we need to talk

He walks you say sit down it's just a talk

He smiles politely back at you

You stare politely right on through

Some sort of window to your right

As he goes left and you stay right

Between the lines of fear and blame

And you begin to wonder why you came

 

Chorus:

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

 

Let him know that you know best

Cause after all you do know best

Try to slip past his defense

Without granting innocence

Lay down a list of what is wrong

The things you've told him all along

And pray to God he hears you

And pray to God he hears you

 

(chorus)

 

As he begins to raise his voice

You lower yours and grant him one last choice

Drive until you lose the road

Or break with the ones you've followed

He will do one of two things

He will admit to everything

Or he'll say he's just not the same

And you'll begin to wonder why you came

[chigal28]

"The Scientist" by Coldplay came on the car radio as my ex and I were realizing, finally, that we just couldn't make it work anymore after four years together and one year of trying to make it work when it wasn't.

 

We were particularly struck by the lyrics "Nobody said it was easy, It's such a shame for us to part, Nobody said it was easy, No one ever said it would be this hard. I wished so much that we could go back to the start, when it was so great, and realized we couldn't.

 

I still can't hear that song without it reminding me of that time in my life, and that moment. Although I have to say that this is the first time I ever knew that the actual lyrics were "oh take me back to the start," not "take me back to the stars."

 

Then again, I also thought the lyrics to "Just west of Eden" were "Just twist, Evita." So what do I know?

 

 

 

THE SCIENTIST

BY COLDPLAY

 

Come up to meet you, Tell you I'm sorry, You don't know how lovely you are

 

I had to find you, Tell you I need you, Tell you I set you apart

 

Tell me your secrets, And ask me your questions, Aww let's go back to the start

 

Runnin' in circles, [sounds like] Comin' our tails, Heads on the science apart

 

Nobody said it was easy

It's such a shame for us to part

Nobody said it was easy

No one ever said it would be this hard

Aww take me back to the start

 

I was just guessin', At numbers and figures, Pullin' the puzzles apart

 

Questions of science, Science and progress, Do not speak as loud as my heart

 

Tell me you love me, Come back to haunt me, Oh when I rush to the start

 

Runnin' in circles, [sounds like] Chasin' our tails, Comin' back as we are

 

Nobody said it was easy

Aww It's such a shame for us to part

Nobody said it was easy

No one ever said it would be so hard

I'm goin' back to the start

[D1886]

The whole Nick Lachey CD, What's left of me

[PrincessJOA]

Theres a song for me that literally kills when I listen to it. It is the theme soundtrack of my past relationship with this guy I was in love with for so long. I waited patiently for the day when he would finally see Im not going anywhere, and when he did, it was at the wrong place at the wrong time, and I knew it would never last long.

 

Its a song by Yellowcard called 'ONLY ONE'

 

This song means a lot..a LOOTTT to me. Omg Im crying now as I am listening to it right this very moment.

Anyways, this is a song about a guy/girl who is obsessively in love with the significant other but he/she knows that things are never gonna work out between the both of them. Even though he/she never wants to leave her/him, but he/she knows thats the only thing to do. To set them free. Although it hurts knowing that you want them so bad, because they're the only person you want to be with, and no body else can ever make you feel the way they do, but you know you're not good enough to make them happy. You are the cause of their pain. You are the reason for their misery. So you made a decision out of love and consideration, to let them go, because you know there's someone out there who can give him/her all they want and all they need. You gave them a chance to look for someone better, and settle for a relationship with potential.

 

I love this guy so much I've seen the worst and the best in him and he's really amazing. But I know things would never work out between us, as much as I love him, I dont want to be a burden in his life. Because I know he and will never ever work, I had to let him go. I dedicated this song to him, and he cried, saying my message is loud and clear. That I gave up not because I dont care anymore, its because I do.... I can go on and on and on about this. But I think its too long of a post.

 

Heres the lyrics.

Broken this fragile thing now

And I can't, I can't pick up the pieces

And I've thrown my words all around

But I can't, I can't give you a reason

 

I feel so broken up (so broken up)

And I give up (I give up)

I just want to tell you so you know

 

Here I go, scream my lungs out and try to get to you

You are my only one

I let go, but there's just no one that gets me like you

You are my only, my only one

 

Made my mistakes, let you down

And I can't, I can't hold on for too long

Ran my whole life in the ground

And I can't, I can't get up when you're gone

 

And something's breaking up (breaking up)

I feel like giving up (like giving up)

I won't walk out until you know

 

Here I go, scream my lungs out and try to get to you

You are my only one

I let go, but there's just no one that gets me like you

You are my only my only one

 

Here I go so dishonestly

Leave a note for you my only one

And I know you can see right through me

So let me go and you will find someone

 

Here I go, scream my lungs out and try to get to you

You are my only one

I let go, but there's just no one, no one like you

You are my only, my only one

My only one

My only one

My only one

You are my only, my only one

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

The songs that probably get to me the most, for various reasons, are:

 

Careless Whisper, George Michael

 

Broken Wings, Mister Mister

 

Still Lovin' You, Scorpions

 

One Thing, Finger Eleven

[Caterina]

I think Elton John's "Someone Saved My Life Tonight" describes the elation I had after one of my break ups. There were nights he kept me up until five am and it was madness. I was trapped, and I pulled myself out of it. He had his hooks in me and I was the one who saved my own life. The particular lyrics that I'm drawn to are

 

And someone saved my life tonight sugar bear

You almost had your hooks in me didn't you dear

You nearly had me roped and tied

Altar-bound, hypnotized

Sweet freedom whispered in my ear

 

 

I never realised the passing hours of evening showers

A slip noose hanging in my darkest dreams

It's four o'clock in the morning

Damn it listen to me good

I'm sleeping with myself tonight

 

 

 

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Here is the whole song:

 

When I think of those East End lights, muggy nights

The curtains drawn in the little room downstairs

Prima Donna lord you really should have been there

Sitting like a princess perched in her electric chair

And it's one more beer and I don't hear you anymore

We've all gone crazy lately

My friends out there rolling round the basement floor

 

And someone saved my life tonight sugar bear

You almost had your hooks in me didn't you dear

You nearly had me roped and tied

Altar-bound, hypnotized

Sweet freedom whispered in my ear

You're a butterfly

And butterflies are free to fly

Fly away, high away, bye bye

 

I never realised the passing hours of evening showers

A slip noose hanging in my darkest dreams

I'm strangled by your haunted social scene

Just a pawn out-played by a dominating queen

It's four o'clock in the morning

Damn it listen to me good

I'm sleeping with myself tonight

Saved in time, thank God my music's still alive

 

And I would have walked head on into the deep end of the river

Clinging to your stocks and bonds

Paying your H.P. demands forever

They're coming in the morning with a truck to take me home

Someone saved my life tonight, someone saved my life tonight

Someone saved my life tonight, someone saved my life tonight

Someone saved my life tonight

So save your strength and run the field you play alone

 

[sandyv]

Yeah this song is from way back.... but I heard it the week after I lost Jack: .... so much meaning there for me:

 

 

When I come home you telephone

To say you're waiting for me

I ask you why - I hear you cry,

But you're still waiting for me

 

Someday you'll be shedding your tears

To cry over me

Someday I'll be losing this fear

 

Now I'm alone, you telephone

To tell me you don't need me

I ask you why, you tell me lies

And say the truth would hurt me

 

Someday you'll be shedding your tears

To cry over me

Someday I'll be losing this fear

 

Oh, Oh . . . someday

 

Down in the street where lovers meet

That's where I'm waiting for you

In the streets where lovers meet

I'm still waiting for you

 

Someday you'll be shedding your tears

And then you'll cry over me [cry over me]

Someday I'll be losing this fear

 

Someday you'll be shedding your tears

And then you'll cry over me [cry over me]

Someday I'll be losing this fear

[NoComply]

Konstantine - something corporate

 

I can't imagine all the people that you know

and the places that you go

When the lights are turned down low

and I don't understand all the things you've seen

but I'm slipping in between

You and your big dreams

It's always you

In my big dreams

And you tell me that its over

wake up lying in a patch of four leaf clovers

and your restless

and im naked

you gotta get out

you cant stand to see me shakin

no

could u let me go?

i didnt think so

and youi dont wanna be here in the future

so you say the presants just a pleasant interruption to the past

and you dont wanna look much closer

cause ur afriad to find out all this hope

you had sent into the sky by now had

crashed

and it did

because of me

 

and then you bring me home

afraid to find out that your alone oh

and im sleeping in your living room

but we dont have much room to live

 

and i had these dreams in them i learned to play guitar

maybe cross the country

become a rock star

and there was hope in me that I could take you there

but damnit you're so young

well i dont think i care

and if i hurt you

then im sorry

please dont think that this was easy

 

and then you bring me home

cause we both know what its like to be alone oh

and im dreaming in your living room

but we dont have much room to live

 

and konstantine is walking down the stairs

doesnt she look good

standing in her underware

and i was thinking

what i was thinkin

we've been drinkin and it doesnt get me anywhere

my konstantine came walking down the stairs

and all that i could do was touch her long blond hair

and ive been thinkin

but it hurts me thinking

that these nights when we were drinking

no they never got us anywhere

no

 

this is because i can spell confusion with a 'K'

and i can like it

its to dying in anothers arms

and why i had to try it

its to jimmy eat world

and those nights in my car

when the first star you see

may not be a star

im not your star

isnt that what you said

what you thought this song meant

 

and if this is what it takes

just to lye with my mistakes

and live with what i did to you

all the hell i put you through

i always catch the clock

its 11:11

now you wanna talk

its not hard to dream

you'll always be my konstantine

my konstantine

they'll never hurt you like i do

no they'll never hurt you like i do

no,no,no, no, no, no, no, no

 

this is to a girl

who got into my head

with all the pretty things she did

hey

ya know

you keep me up in bed

this is to a girl

who got into my head

with all these * * * *ed up things i did

hey

maybe

baby you could keep me up in bed

my konstanine

 

you spin around me like a dream

we played out on this movie screen

and i said

did u know i missed you(x7)

i miss you

 

and then you bring me home

and we go to sleep

but this time not alone

and i know

and you'll kiss me in your living room

i know

i know you miss me in your living room

cuz these nights i think

maybe that i miss you in my licing room

but we dont have much room

i said does anybody need that room

because we all need a little more room

to live

 

my konstantine...

[cecerose]

My Break Up Song:

 

"So Long Frank Lloyd Wright," - Simon & Garfunkel

 

So long, Frank Lloyd Wright.

I can't believe your song is gone so soon.

I barely learned the tune

So soon

So soon.

 

I'll remember Frank Lloyd Wright.

All of the nights we'd harmonize till dawn.

I never laughed so long

So long

So long.

 

CHORUS

Architects may come and

Architects may go and

Never change your point of view.

When I run dry

I stop awhile and think of you

 

So long, Frank Lloyd Wright

All of the nights we'd harmonize till dawn.

I never laughed so long

So long

So long.

[sandyv]

Yeah this one also says it all

 

BTW It is by the Rolling Stones, a hidden gem on one of their older albums..

 

 

I can almost hear you sigh

I can almost hear you cry

On every crowded street

All the places we would meet

What will I do without you

They say that life goes on

I'm feeling sorry for myself

I can't believe you're gone

You acted much too calm

You turned on all the charm

You had a cold look in your eyes

I can feel your tongue on mine

Silky smooth like wine

I'm living with those memories

That's all that's left of you and me

I can almost hear you sigh

Almost hear you cry

When you made sweet love to me

And you turned on all the charm

Acted much too calm

You had a cold look in your eyes

Did it mean nothng

Was it all in vain

Was I just your fool

Or was the pleasure pain

Have you set me free

Or will I wake up

In the morning

And find out it's been a bad dream

Come on, I beg you

I want to be your main man

I can almost hear you sigh

Almost hear you cry

When you make sweet love to me

Almost see your smile

It stretched half a mile

You had a stone cold look in your eyes

[comfyshoes]

Who let in the rain? by cyndi lauper.

 

I used to call her rain.

song used to make me sad, now i just wonder why i let the rain in, in the first place.

 

Her new girlfriend will bill calling her that now, as did the girl before me and the one before her.

 

 

shoes

[ConfusedBigTime]

It is a country song. Goodbye Time by Blake Shelton. Lyrics below and how true it is....

 

It's your life - you say you need a change

Don't all the dreams we've seen come true mean anything

You say it's different now and you keep staring at the door

How can you walk away don't I matter anymore

 

If being free's worth what you leave behind

And if it's too late for love to change your mind

Then it's goodbye time

 

If we had known our love would come to this

We could have saved our hearts the hurt of wasted years

Well it's been fun - what else can I say

If the feeling's gone words won't stop you anyway

 

If being free's worth what you leave behind

And if it's too late for love to change your mind

Then it's goodbye time

 

Goodbye Baby

[Juliana]

"I just wanted to see you smile again, see you smile, see your eyes again..."

 

- from Didn't Mean, by Tom Cochrane

 

Just since the summer.

[miss888s]

You Were Meant For Me by Jewel...i love that song..and cry everytime i hear it. i feel like i am going through every single word in that song

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

You Were Meant For Me by Jewel...i love that song..and cry everytime i hear it. i feel like i am going through every single word in that song

 

Yes I can relate that song is a bit of a tear jerker.

[gtd]

Time by Ne-yo

 

I can't even get to the chorus without crying

 

Torn by Letoya Luckett

 

Applies to my current situation

 

and when I really get mad... and frustrated and just wanna give up, i listen to

F*** It, by Eamon

[Survictor]

I hate break up songs! I don't think I have any either. Do they not make you feel sad and heighten your emotional state with sad lyrics etc.? I wouldn't want to do that to myself!

 

I have songs that invoke memories as everyone has..mmm thinking now.... nope... no break up songs.

 

Thank goodness.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Acceptence is the first step for you!

[xLDx]

Personally I listen to break-ups songs for the same reason I come to these forums: To let me know that I'm not alone.

 

It makes me feel better to know that other people in this world have been or are going through the same situations I am. Also, since music is such a beautiful thing is this world, it's also soothing. Listening to it might seem very emotional, but my mind on its own isn't much better. Often I think of the situations I'm in, and often I think of my ex. I find music to be much better therapy than the counsel of my own thoughts.