really need some advice thanks in advance

[Dako]

I think you owe it to each other to resolve this before getting more involved.

[Scout]

Do you think its wrong to post an ultimatum; lets get professional help or split?

 

Only if when you give it, you don't follow through!

 

In other words, I think this is your last resort, and what's more, time to turn to it.

[texami]

no, i don't think it's wrong to give the ultimatum. an outside viewpoint might really help. plus, it will indicate that this isn't an issue that you are just going to give up on because she refuses to really discuss it.

[bms85]

Thanks everyone for your help with this. I really needed some help sorting through all of this. It's really tough for me I never even thought I wanted to get married now here I am scared to loose the girl I want to be with. I'm sad now because she didn't call me at lunch today, this is unusual since I have a web design & hosting company I work from home. She usually calls me every day; if I'm this attached I don't even want to think of what it will feel like if I loose her.