Need Advice On Giving GF Oral (looking for replys from women mostly..)

[shy_guy_3]

Okay, So Me And My girlfriend Have Been Talking Alot About Sex And Stuff Lately, And I've Been thinking About It, And I Want To ummm...Go Down On Her (I think is what ppl say ) Well She Knows I'm Going To Do Something But Has No Clue What It Is Im gonna Do, Its Sorta A Suprize Thing but My Question Is, What Can I Do While I'm Down There To Make Sure She You Know cums? (gah im not even sure if that the right word so lame) I mean like im nerveous as heck and could really use all of the help i can get with this one, so Please Help...And yes I Know This Has Probably Been Brought Up Ten Billion Times, But I find I learn More If ppl Are Replying to My Post..

 

So Is There Any Suggestions? Any And All Are Very Appriciated

 

Shy,

[tylercdurden2004]

Eventually use your finger as well. Put some pressure towards the roof of her vagina (stomach side about 2-3 inches in) also some firm but gentle pressure downwards from just below her belly button seems to do wonders. This is the area (fatty bump above her vagina) called the mons pubis. Massaging it seems to help send them over the top. Experiment and you will find the gold. Good luck and have fun.

[shy_guy_3]

Eventually use your finger as well. Put some pressure towards the roof of her vagina (stomach side about 2-3 inches in) also some firm but gentle pressure downwards from just below her belly button seems to do wonders. This is the area (fatty bump above her vagina) called the mons pubis. Massaging it seems to help send them over the top. Experiment and you will find the gold. Good luck and have fun.

 

thanks man

[shy_guy_3]

i could really use so womens input though, since only women truly know what they want/like

[NJRon]

I don't know... women know what "they" want... guys know what more than one likes

 

Alphabet is always nice

I used to spell words

[Derek]

My advice is to touch, alot, everywhere else, tenderly and perhaps firmly too.

 

Regarding the actual act, perhaps try things like:

 

- draw the entire alphabet with your tongue on her outsides.

- no teeth

- don't just toungue flic (don't do like you see in porn, porn angles and lights are made to "see", but don't always feel that great), instead of flic'ing, eat the whole thing, drool all over, be messy.

- mix it up, use variety, it can get painfully sensitive if you do the same thing over and over (like your manhood can too)

- it's all about the clitoris in the end.

- the finger advice from above is good,

- it's easier to find the g-spot if she's warmed up

- lubrication is good.

- listen to her advice,

- ask her for feedback, but not on every little thing, surprise her a little

 

 

You said you wanted advice from women, have you asked yourself why would most straight women know how to give women oral?

[shy_guy_3]

You said you wanted advice from women, have you asked yourself why would most straight women know how to give women oral?

 

 

Well Most Straight Women Wont I Guess, But They will Still Know What they Like to Havve Done To Them

[leyla_h]

I know what I like

 

I don't mind teeth actually. Just no biting.

 

Get her in a comfortable position, make sure her legs are supported. Me and my bf find that having me on the edge of the bed and him on the floor works best.

 

Lots of long slow licks and kisses from her clit to her opening. Faster is good too, but start out slow. Try gently sucking on her clit and massaging it with your tongue. If you want, try swirling your tongue inside her. You can't get far in at all, but just the swirling feels really good.

 

If your licking her clit, try sliding a finger or two inside her, if you do it palm upwards and then curl your fingers upwards, you'll touch her g-spot, which feels amazing.

 

I love it when my bf looks up at me and afterwards he always whispers how nice I taste. Thats pretty nice because girls are usually very nervous about that sort of thing.

 

Also, be aware that it might be uncomfortable for her if it's her first time, just keep going if she's happy to and keep reassuring her.

[miserableme]

Make sure she knows you actually want to do it.

Make sure you don't have stubble on your face.

If she doesn't cum, don't feel bad, try again next time (she'll still love you for it).

 

leyla covered the rest pretty well.

[shy_guy_3]

Also, be aware that it might be uncomfortable for her if it's her first time, just keep going if she's happy to and keep reassuring her.

Thank you very much for the info =), also what all can i say to reassure her?

[shy_guy_3]

If she doesn't cum, don't feel bad, try again next time (she'll still love you for it).QUOTE]

but i really really want her too, this is the first time ive did it, and the first time she'll have it done to her, i want it to be great for her

[Cardinal]

I like the old adage, each person is responsible for their own orgasm. I am sure you will do fine on your end. But don't ruin a pleasurable session by trying to force an orgasm. Relax. If you are trying to force it she will know. Plan on staying down there quite awhile. It can take some women much longer than men.

 

I have seen lots of great advice. For someone who has never done it, I like to following approach.

 

After appropriate foreplay, just gently take a mouthful of p**** and start to suck methodically. Do this a minute or two maybe. Then starting at her slit using a flat tongue lick slowly from bottom to top brushing her clitoris lightly with your tongue. Take longer than you think you should at each step.

 

Then proceed to some of the other techniques that have already been gone over.

 

It feels so incredibly wonderful to have a woman's hot, wet moist private parts in your mouth. You will be hooked. Just remember to be gentle. Hopefully she will be able to take over and guide you in how to reach orgasm or heigthen her pleasure after the first bit. Communication is what will matter. As long as you show your enthusiasm I think she will be very pleased. If anything, even if she doesn't come, she will have that much more to look forward too next time.

 

One thing I love to do is lightly penetrate her and gently have intercourse for a few minutes, then go back down there. It loosens her muscles wonderfully. There is more room for your tongue to enter and swirl around and you get so much more of that wonderfully delectable juice.

 

I do that with my girl just to get a bit more out of her. I'd drink of gallon of that sweet heaven if she could give it to me.

[miserableme]

I think cardinal is a bit turned on ;-)

 

As for wanting her to cum...If she knows you're pressuring her to, then it will make it so much harder.

 

I get so annoyed when guys ask me "are you close?". It makes me feel like I have to hurry up and then it spoils the mood.

 

Just take your time and enjoy yourself. If it doesn't happen the first time, don't stress. If it does then that's great.

[shy_guy_3]

I think cardinal is a bit turned on ;-)

 

As for wanting her to cum...If she knows you're pressuring her to, then it will make it so much harder.

 

I get so annoyed when guys ask me "are you close?". It makes me feel like I have to hurry up and then it spoils the mood.

 

Just take your time and enjoy yourself. If it doesn't happen the first time, don't stress. If it does then that's great.

 

Oh I Wont Pressure Her, or Keep asking stuff like "are you close" lol, i can imagine that would be annoying to her, lol..i just really want it to be great for her

[Hannahleh]

Hmm... maybe you should start by fingering her, and then move on to oral? You've got a whole handful of fingers and only one tongue, I can come so fast when I'm being fingered...

 

Not that there's anything wrong with it... I think it's sexy when the guy starts at my lips, kisses down between my boobs, over my stomach, a little lower, and then back up again... the second time just keep going down. I agree with whoever said it's all about the clitoris... if she's a virgin, it might hurt to put your fingers inside her (I know it hurt me) but the clitoris is always safe..

[shy_guy_3]

Hmm... maybe you should start by fingering her, and then move on to oral? You've got a whole handful of fingers and only one tongue, I can come so fast when I'm being fingered...

 

Not that there's anything wrong with it... I think it's sexy when the guy starts at my lips, kisses down between my boobs, over my stomach, a little lower, and then back up again... the second time just keep going down. I agree with whoever said it's all about the clitoris... if she's a virgin, it might hurt to put your fingers inside her (I know it hurt me) but the clitoris is always safe..

 

Thanks For The Advice ^_^, and we're both virgins so yeah..

[leyla_h]

Thank you very much for the info =), also what all can i say to reassure her?

 

You're welcome. Just lots of compliments. My boyfriend always looks up and smiles afterwards or says how much he enjoyed it.

 

Oh and btw, I've only ever come once during oral. I wouldn't say that it's important that she comes because it feels really really good, even if there is no climax. Now I don't even think about orgasm during oral because I'm busy enjoying it.

 

I get so annoyed when guys ask me "are you close?". It makes me feel like I have to hurry up and then it spoils the mood.

 

Apparently it's hard to tell when a girl comes. My boyfriend (sorry to keep using him as an example) always says "tell me when" which is so much better because then he knows and I don't feel pressured to climax.

[shy_guy_3]

Thanks for your advice everyone, but dont give anymore..she's going to break up with me, she actually told me...so yeah..more then likely you wont hear from me again..bye and once again thanks

[lilac_indi]

awww im so sorry

[shy_guy_3]

awww im so sorry

 

thanks..but yeah all i can think about is how much i want to be with her and how much she means to me, ive never felt this way about anyways and she's gonna leave me for another guy, and not just any guy, someone i hate more then anything, ive always hated him..so at the moment i find myslef trying to think of things to do or say to get her to stay with me, but nothing i do will help so yeah life is pretty much pointless as of now

[lilac_indi]

i am very sorry to hear that shy guy - especially after all the effort you are going to to make her happy. it just shows that she doesnt appreciate you. be brave mate and it may seem like 'life is pretty much pointless as of now' but things can only get better. take care of yourself bud

[shy_guy_3]

i am very sorry to hear that shy guy - especially after all the effort you are going to to make her happy. it just shows that she doesnt appreciate you. be brave mate and it may seem like 'life is pretty much pointless as of now' but things can only get better. take care of yourself bud

 

the only way its going to get better is if she stays with me...

[lilac_indi]

well if she doesnt want to stay with you then there aint much you can do about that. do you really want to degrade yourself by trying to win back someone who doesnt want to be with you?

 

if you try to tell her that you want her back and stuff you are only gonna end up driving her further away. just stay away and go to nc - i know its hard but for now just focus on you now. the fact that she has left you for someone else shows she doesnt care.

[shy_guy_3]

well if she doesnt want to stay with you then there aint much you can do about that. do you really want to degrade yourself by trying to win back someone who doesnt want to be with you?

 

if you try to tell her that you want her back and stuff you are only gonna end up driving her further away. just stay away and go to nc - i know its hard but for now just focus on you now. the fact that she has left you for someone else shows she doesnt care.

 

why not degrade myself, at this point i have nothing left to loose

[lilac_indi]

except your self respect. i hate to be harsh mate but you are gonna potray yourself as needy and desperate.