anyone else celibate?

[strndedbyluv]

I am a recovering sex addict. I use to be on medications for it and went to therapy, but when me and my bf/bestfriend moved in together and decided to get married, I went off the meds...he helped me cope with the need i had for sex, and helped me maintain a good mind state on it. It was really an addiction to me, a vice that I used as one might use drugs, he helped me get thru that time in my life, and I stopped viewing sex as a drug, and it was real love with me and him. Well after we decided not to get married and he moved in and out, and eventually we split for the final and last time when he moved out in April, i have decided that i must try and keep this mind state. I have decided to live the life of celibacy. its really what is best for me at this time in my life. I still crave sex at times, and wish to use it to get my fix, but I resist the urge.

I feel now, that I am using it as an excuse just because I do not want anyone but him. I know it is not healthy, and it is not going to help me get over him, but I feel like I have to do it for other reasons as well, so that I can remain healthy.Im hoping to remain celibate for at least one year. that is my goal.

I was wondering if anyone else here has chosen the celibate lifestyle, or have in the past and is it by choice?

[yeawutever]

I have chosen to remain celibate till I get into a serious long term relation or engagement/marriage, thus I'm still a virgin.

[lanty3]

i`ve been celibate my whole life(not counting masturbation) and it`s not by choice. it`s mainly (or totally?) because of my upbringing and it`s effect on me.

physically ,the urges can be sublimated into work,sports etc.. or you can take care of it yourself. it`s the deep emotional longings that become the real pain.

i hope you feel i didn`t try to hijack this thread,i just wanted to answer your last question.

[Luke Skywalker]

I'm celibate, but want to be seduced by a woman in the back of my mind.

[easyguy]

I'm celibate by choice, mainly because sex just hasn't been a high priority for me; I haven't thought about it too much yet. But I don't want to waste a first time. When it matters, and with the right girl/woman. When it happens it happens. This doesn't hinder me from doing anything intimate, though. I'm not religious, but I don't like to think of sex as being a casual act that you share with every person you meet.

[strndedbyluv]

yea, well i feel that masturbation is self sex, and it counts too lol....so its a no-no for the celibate. But its kind of like vegitarians...its different to certain ppl...some ppl consider themselves still celibate even tho they have self sex. its just a mind thing. so im totally clean of it all. its just a high for me, a rush, and a fix if you will call it that. So i stay clear of it all. no pornography, or even nudity in movies...i try to avoid the sex scenes when possible.

 

and btw in no way has this thread been hijacked lol...i wouldnt mind if it was anyways.

thanks for the comments!

[quietgrl]

There are alot of celibate people out there and you're not alone.

[Jetta]

I've choosen celebatcy. It really just comes naturally for me. My body just shuts down during the greiving of the relationship, so then it's easy. It gets more difficult when I'm ready to be back in action and I'm not involved. I mainly do it because I fear STD's. I also don't want to have numerous partners. My ideal would have just been to have the one, but that hasn't happened.

[SexySadie7]

I don't think there's anything wrong with being celibrate if your lifestyle is such that to do otherwise would endanger your health. Let's face it, having sex nowadays, unless you were to have sex with a virgin (and how many virgins do you know?) involves definitely a risk to one's health.

I don't personally like the way people regard sex as so casual nowadays.

I'm sorry, but unless the guy is really unattractive or has been really mean to me, I'm going to develop feelings for the guy I'm sleeping with. That's just natural.

 

I don't know, with all the STD's out there, why in the name of Sam Hill people are so promiscuous nowadays??

 

There are plenty of STDs out there that aren't even protected by a condom either, HPV virus (which can cause cervical cancer in women) being one of them.

 

I cannot see the point of risking my health for some guy who doesn't even care about me, nor would think to call back if we were to have sex.

 

Why bother?

 

It's good if you can find someone to love you to have sex with. That's the way things should be... but everyone places the cart before the horse nowadays and has sex first.... then wants to develop feelings for that person.

That is wacked in my opinion. Suppose you were to get pregnant by the person you were just having casual sex with, then what?

 

I see all these internet dating sites where the guy just wants a "casual thing", i.e. he just wants to have sex, but doesn't even want to claim you as his girlfriend... oh, no.. that would be too restrictive on his part.

 

Who the heck wants to go for that type of arrangement?

 

I've spent long periods of time being celibate..but it's not really by choice..

 

But.. i sure don't want a guy just using me for sex, especially when sex involves so many risks nowadays.

 

Does that make sense to anyone? Besides.. half these guys who would just use you for sex probably wouldn't even give you the time of day the next time you saw them out in public. You have to ask yourself... is someone like this really worth me risking my life for?

 

I've had casual sex with a guy only to have him never contact me again! I can just imagine how screwed up my life would be if I were to get pregnant by this so-called player type!!

 

It's unbelievable how selfish guys are nowadays! They don't even want to take you out on a proper date but they expect you to have sex with them. I feel sorry for the girls growing up now.. guys have so little respect for women... it's pitiful.. they expect the girls to give them BJs when they aren't even in a relationship! It's too bad the girls growing up couldn't see how guys used to treat women... that they would take you out on numerous dates before they expect you to put out! In fact.. they wouldn't even expect you to put out, unless you had become their girlfriend.

If they knew what it was like to be treated with some respect and dignity, I don't think they would keep putting up with the nonsense that goes on nowadays, all this random "hooking up". I'm surprised there's not more STD's out there than there are, considering how few people seem to want to be in a monogamous relationship!

[Hubbys_glitter_is_gold]

Im celibate. Ive been celibate for almost a year now. i just decided that its not all about that. I was addicted to sex and I just felt wrong about it because i was married. My b/f agrees to it and because of his upbringing we are in it together and we suppport each other. WE've grown tens times closer to each other since then also. Its not about the sex, its about the time that we share with each other, is what he says about.... Youre not alone in this.

[quietgrl]

i think any sexually active person who takes a vow of celibacy is strong and brave.