looking for advice about LDR over the summer

[kipepeo]

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost three years. Things have been good however we usually fight alot when we are apart. this summer I have an oppurtunity to go work in west africa and won't see him for two months. I am very afraid of missing him and even more afraid of growing apart especially since i won't be able to talk to him every day. I love this person more than anything in the world and I am afraid that if i go away i may be jepordizing my relationship. Should i go away for the summer and hope everything works out when i get back or should I give up this great oppurtunity to ensure my relationship is ok.

[bebecole]

i dont think you should stop yourself from going away. if he loves you he will understand..

from my personal experience you should never put someone before your self..

i was in a LDR (he was in the military) i had a chance to go away to school and he told me if i went away it would be harder for us to see each other when he came home... so i stayed home and went to a community college.. i didnt see him for over 6months and things didnt end up working out.

i regret it so much and i dont want you regreting going on a one in a lifetime oppunity to africa.. in the end its your decision..

2 months is not that long at all.. hopefully it will bring you closer together..

[flower99]

well personally I think you should take this opportunity. africa wow!

It's only two months, if the relationship gets messed up because of it, it couldnt' have been that strong to begin with.

3 years you two have been together. This is a great opportunity,(he must see that right?) if your hearts are both in the right place, the two of you together can make it work & maybe even bring you two closer together.

[nottoogreen]

Hi kipepeo,

 

Welcome to eNotAlone.

 

Two months is not that long. However it is too long to make this decision unilateraly. Please do not just say "I go", sit down with him and work it out.