Any advice or comments PLEASE!!!!!!

[andy_boy]

Where do i start? This is a big one.

 

I met a girl at my aunties house (their friends), and i REALLY fancied her. Im REALLY shy though and didn't do anything about it, and i could hardly put a sentence together. My auntie asked her in front of me if she liked me, and twice she turned away smilling.

 

I got her number off my auntie and eventually and texted her, asking her out (my first time ever), after my auntie told me she had been dumped by her boyfriend. She texted back saying i was a lovely lad but she wasn't ready for going out or anything. I understand that, but i still dont know whether that was a brush off. I also found out that she got dumped because she wouldnt have sex with her boyfriend, and he called her etc. Shes 18 been hurt by lads 3 times. I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend. Her ex was younger than me, and she might think i want the same, but im not that type of lad. Shes a bit dizzy/naive etc, and the other lads treated her badly. I dont think shes used to lads like me, and may be confused, as ive known her for about 2yrs, and suddenly texted her out.

 

Also, we had a bbq at our house and i invited her because my auntie was coming too. She came, but i dont know whether it was for me or my auntie. We talked a bit, but its hard in front of my family.She didnt shut up all night, but its strange as she does seem a little shy of me??? i did notice that we kept looking at each other, but looking away as our eyes met.????????????

 

Theres more problems as well. shes a jehovas witness, and her mum is really strict with her, she doesnt have much freedom.she would get 'MURDURED' if her mum found out what she did, or if she was with a lad.

 

Another thing is that we are the complete opposites of each other, shes dizzy, wild, outgoing, loud etc, whereas im quite quiet and shy. we are also from different family backgrounds i.e. shes from a council estate, im from suburbs. she also thinks shes thick and is regularly told so, she finished school at 16 whereas i have a degree. Shes not thick, just a bit dizzy. but i think we have the sae morals, such as trust, only wanting one person etc. what would she see in someone as unconfident as me? She acts like she knows everything about lads etc etc, and may appear a bit tarty.Is this an act. Is she all talk.

 

I asked her to my cousins wedding reception, but she said she was going out with friends, and it had been organised for a while. I was then told be my auntie she'd been round her house and told her id asked her (looking a bit co cky). She also said she'd been out anyway.

 

Whenever I have texted her, she always texts back, and puts a TB (text back) on the end, but she never initiates it. Ive not contacted her since i asked her to the reception.

 

Myself, I find social situations hard, and find it difficult to meet knew people. She seems to be out all the time and have loads of mates. However, my auntie says she exagerates.She does seem to spend alot of time with her brother in pubs etc.

 

I dont know what shed see in me. I think my shyness might be a big turn off? Are we too different? Does she fancy me?

 

Any comments. PLEEEEEEEEEEEASE!!!!!!!!!!

[blonde]

hey andy,

 

maybe she needs more time. i think the best thing to do now is to offer her to be a friend. tell her how you feel. tell her what you like about her. tell her that you are not experienced in relationships. just don't push things. ask her to be honest with you. if you can talk about your feelings, you will trust each other and than maybe there can be more.

 

good luck

[andy_boy]

Thats wat i want to do. am i 'thinking' to much on this, as im not experienced. r most of the problems metioned insignificant. apart from ex issue and mum?

 

Shes 18 this month.

[blonde]

hi,

 

no, your worries are totally normal, I guess everybody felt a bit like you do know once or twice.

 

It will all work out.