andy_boy

Does anyone else feel really good with close relatives etc. And as soon as you step outside of that, your the most boring and dull person on the planet. Has anyone here tried counselling?

Where do i start? This is a big one, but please read it, i need advice desperately. Summer 2001 Went down to my aunties caravan with family, as she asked us down for weekend. she had her young friend with her (16-17). i was 18. As i approached this girl for the first time, i think i got a 'look'. Then my auntie said 'do u like our andy'. the girl turned away smiling. she was very loud, outgoing etc. About 3 months l8er I visited my aunties,. i walked in, and she was sat there. i thawt wow, is that the same girl. she looked really different. She commented on my hair being alot shorter. I am very shy tho, and said sumthing very short in return. my thawts were, shes way out of my league. The next time i saw her, i was using my aunties computer, she came upstairs to me and asked was i doing my homework. i said i was, and she said ill leave u alone then, and went. i really wanted to talk 2 her, but i didnt know what to say etc. Oct 2002 I was there again, and she was. she asked me if i was growing a goatie, as i hadnt shaved?We were sat in the same room, my auntie again cum in and said, do you like ..., she turned away again. My other auntie. conversation then turned to me and her - together - between 2 of my aunties. One sed shes to wild for me (im quite shy, shes chatty etc - opposites really). the other sed id calm her down. i was going redder and redder. my other auntie sed how she wasnt allowed a bf till she was 18, as she was a jehovas witness. shes got a really strict mum, doesnt like her doing much.an advert came on the tely for a film, she commented that she wud like to go and watch it???did i miss my chance? she then asked me wat i did @ uni, she was then told by my auntie how clever i was (im not that clever). she went upstairs, a bit embarressed. i left. the next day my auntie sed she left after i did. Jan 2003 I walked in her house and she was there. i didnt talk to her, but my auntie kept saying things like. tell ur mum ur with ur boyfriend (me) although she did have one anyway - i learned. she sed she wud dump him, as he tuk another girl home. after she left i learned she had had 2 boyfriends and both had hurt her in sum way. I saw her twice again after that, not really talking much at all, and learned she was still with her bf. I got her number off my auntie and eventually and texted her, asking her out (my first time ever), after my auntie told me she had been dumped by her boyfriend. She texted back saying i was a lovely lad but she wasn't ready for going out or anything and wanted 2 b mates. I understand that, but i still dont know whether that was a brush off. I also found out that she got dumped because she wouldnt have sex with her boyfriend, and he called her etc. Shes 18 been hurt by lads 3 times. I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend. Her ex was younger than me, and she might think i want the same, but im not that type of lad. Shes a bit dizzy/naive etc, and the other lads treated her badly. I dont think shes used to lads like me, and may be confused, as ive known her for about 2yrs, and suddenly texted her out. Also, we had a bbq at our house and i invited her because my auntie was coming too. She came, but i dont know whether it was for me or my auntie. We talked a bit, but its hard in front of my family.She didnt shut up all night, but its strange as she does seem a little shy of me??? i did notice that we kept looking at each other, but looking away as our eyes met.???????????? Another thing is that we are the complete opposites of each other, shes dizzy, wild, outgoing, loud etc, whereas im quite quiet and shy. we are also from different family backgrounds i.e. shes from a council estate, im from suburbs. she also thinks shes thick and is regularly told so, she finished school at 16 whereas i have a degree. Shes not thick, just a bit dizzy. but i think we have the sae morals, such as trust, only wanting one person etc. what would she see in someone as unconfident as me? I asked her to my cousins wedding reception, but she said she was going out with friends, and it had been organised for a while. I was then told be my auntie she'd been round her house and told her id asked her (looking a bit co cky). She also said she'd been out anyway. I dont know what shed see in me. I think my shyness might be a big turn off? Are we too different? Does she fancy me? Any comments. PLEEEEEEEEEEEASE!!!!!!!!!!

Thats wat i want to do. am i 'thinking' to much on this, as im not experienced. r most of the problems metioned insignificant. apart from ex issue and mum? Shes 18 this month.

Where do i start? This is a big one. I met a girl at my aunties house (their friends), and i REALLY fancied her. Im REALLY shy though and didn't do anything about it, and i could hardly put a sentence together. My auntie asked her in front of me if she liked me, and twice she turned away smilling. I got her number off my auntie and eventually and texted her, asking her out (my first time ever), after my auntie told me she had been dumped by her boyfriend. She texted back saying i was a lovely lad but she wasn't ready for going out or anything. I understand that, but i still dont know whether that was a brush off. I also found out that she got dumped because she wouldnt have sex with her boyfriend, and he called her etc. Shes 18 been hurt by lads 3 times. I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend. Her ex was younger than me, and she might think i want the same, but im not that type of lad. Shes a bit dizzy/naive etc, and the other lads treated her badly. I dont think shes used to lads like me, and may be confused, as ive known her for about 2yrs, and suddenly texted her out. Also, we had a bbq at our house and i invited her because my auntie was coming too. She came, but i dont know whether it was for me or my auntie. We talked a bit, but its hard in front of my family.She didnt shut up all night, but its strange as she does seem a little shy of me??? i did notice that we kept looking at each other, but looking away as our eyes met.???????????? Theres more problems as well. shes a jehovas witness, and her mum is really strict with her, she doesnt have much freedom.she would get 'MURDURED' if her mum found out what she did, or if she was with a lad. Another thing is that we are the complete opposites of each other, shes dizzy, wild, outgoing, loud etc, whereas im quite quiet and shy. we are also from different family backgrounds i.e. shes from a council estate, im from suburbs. she also thinks shes thick and is regularly told so, she finished school at 16 whereas i have a degree. Shes not thick, just a bit dizzy. but i think we have the sae morals, such as trust, only wanting one person etc. what would she see in someone as unconfident as me? She acts like she knows everything about lads etc etc, and may appear a bit tarty.Is this an act. Is she all talk. I asked her to my cousins wedding reception, but she said she was going out with friends, and it had been organised for a while. I was then told be my auntie she'd been round her house and told her id asked her (looking a bit co cky). She also said she'd been out anyway. Whenever I have texted her, she always texts back, and puts a TB (text back) on the end, but she never initiates it. Ive not contacted her since i asked her to the reception. Myself, I find social situations hard, and find it difficult to meet knew people. She seems to be out all the time and have loads of mates. However, my auntie says she exagerates.She does seem to spend alot of time with her brother in pubs etc. I dont know what shed see in me. I think my shyness might be a big turn off? Are we too different? Does she fancy me? Any comments. PLEEEEEEEEEEEASE!!!!!!!!!!