Dont know what to do - Literally!

[minnie]

Just need some input from whoever can give me please.

 

I would say i have average confidence levels, but when i comes to sex i am so shy its unbeleivable.

 

Personally i think i am boring..... yes when i really think about it i dont do a whole lot.

 

I want to know what can i do to change this. I havent done anything but missionary in 4 years i have been sexually active. I dont initiate sex - nothing.

 

Although i want to take control and straddle my man so badly, but there is something stopping me.

 

Maybe i wont do it right, i dont know, but i need some help as i feel now i have acknowledged this it is affecting my self esteem even more.

 

can anyone suggest anything?

[Liam Weic]

well...some might frown on what i'm going to suggest, but why don't you try drinking a little to kind of shed the shyness for a night...after that it should start being a little easier to do things...since its not so foreign anymore.

[minnie]

Good point - It had crossed my mind

[Liam Weic]

I was quite timid in bed too, but i got my foot in the door with alil bit of drinking...and my gf loved the results.

 

it is a bit ackward still, because i feel out of character, but hey...you only live once. enjoy things

[WTHUWY]

Do you enjoy having sex? As a woman, I think you will find that you enjoy it even more if you're on top. As far as doing it right, it will come to you.

[xprincessbugx]

I think drinking does make a difference. It's helped in my sex life as well, and made things better and not so awkward.

[minnie]

yes i enjoy it, although i do think i would enjoy it alot more, if i experimented. you know. And i do feel like its out of charcter for me when i consider it, but then i just say no. Its really bugging me. My mother didn't bring me up to believe that sex was horrible or anything like that but we are not really affectionate.

 

I dont know - may have to get the alcohol out and see wat happens.

[eriko]

Good for you! =)

 

Gotta love sex.

[KweenofDenyl]

 

can anyone suggest anything?

 

Here's my suggestion: Grab your man and straddle him.

 

There isn't a "wrong" way to do it. If you do what feels good for YOU he'll get off too. Guaranteed.

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

if you make sure he knows that you are having problems with it feelings-wise, thatll be kind of..a weight off your mind and it might make you feel better, and more confident, and from there..

[spunkmaster]

I have that problem too...I'm afraid to just 'jump on it' so to speak. I'm very shy with my body,and being on top just puts everything...out there! My bf says he's very attracted to me, but I just can't work up the nerve to be on top, not to mention the fact I probably wouldn't know what to do...LOL!