Darkness3389 Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Hi I'm new and want to ask a question. I have this girl in my Life Drawing class that sometimes gazes in my eye or look over at me and she is sitting right next to me. I always get chocked up on talking to girls and asking them out, so I decided to write her a letter with my number and give it to her when the period ends and see if she will call me. Is this a good idea also I am 17 and had no relationship before. Don't laugh. Please help me ](*,) Link to comment
friscodj Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 I would talk to her. If she's gazing at you, I'm sure she'd love to have a conversation with you... Link to comment
Darkness3389 Posted March 10, 2006 Author Share Posted March 10, 2006 is the letter a good idea?? Link to comment
friscodj Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 I would talk to her...and when you do so...think of her as a classmate, a colleague, rather than this amazing woman who's staring at you all the time...that will make it easier on you to talk to her... Link to comment
xmrth Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 If I were her, receiving a letter from you would be like "whoa, this guy never talks to me and he's giving me a letter. . ..??!" If you talk to her (you have to try.) then maybe later on sometime a letter would be a better idea, but I'd suggest you try moving past giving her a letter unless you really absolutely cannot gather the courage to ask her. But at least establish something before a letter. Link to comment
Darkness3389 Posted March 10, 2006 Author Share Posted March 10, 2006 What would you think might happen do you think she will call me or not?? Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 I agree with Xmrth - as a girl, if I got a letter from a guy I'd never talked to, I'd be sort of weirded out. Although if its a guy I was into, I'd prolly be happy with any thing I got from him, but I agree with both posters so far, talk to her, no note, just talkie. It IS hard an no one would ever laugh at you for feeling that. My advice is... start small. Like Shysoul would say, start small. Just say Hi once. Then another day, say hi again. Then if/when you see her in the halls, say hi. Eventually you can have a longer conversation. If you know her name, use it once, say, "Hi xxxxx" That's how these things start. Looking, saying hi, longer conversations. Don't be afraid to let it take its course. Take the time that may be required. Ya never know, if you start saying hi, she might start talking to YOU. Link to comment
Mrocza Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Maybe if you're too shy to approach her you can start by sitting next to her.... And scribbling down "Hey" in your sketchbook...that way you can have a conversation as you're drawing without having to converse? A letter may come off a bit strong if you don't know the girl. Link to comment
friscodj Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Just ball up and talk to her man!!!!! Link to comment
Darkness3389 Posted March 10, 2006 Author Share Posted March 10, 2006 Would question such as what grade are you in or do you take the school bus be a good idea and what if iI were to say something and she totally ignored or missed what I said? Their are other people at the table and I don't want to seem like I am talking to myself. Link to comment
Darkness3389 Posted March 10, 2006 Author Share Posted March 10, 2006 Do these question work and will she forget about this conversation over the weekend?? Link to comment
friscodj Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Do these question work and will she forget about this conversation over the weekend?? Brother-man, you are worrying and thinking about this waaaaaay too much! Just talk to her, she's just a person like you and I... Link to comment
vesper Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 tell her a joke!! (after you talk to her a little bit...) here are two that the first guy I ever kissed (in high school) told me : what did the X chromosome say to the Y chromosome?? ....I like your jeans!! ha ha what room has no walls? ....a mushroom!! ha ha Link to comment
ShySoul Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Darkness, It's natural to be nervous and to worry about every little thing. That's ok. But the key is to relax and realize that this is just another person that you are trying to get to know. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. If you worry like this, you will probably make things harder on yourself and are more likely to panic and say or do something you don't want to say or do. Also keep in mind that she is probably just as nervous as you are. She hasn't gotten up the nerve to go up and talk to you either. For all you know, she is sitting at home right now having the same thoughts and concerns. Talking to someone like this can be scary for anyone, so take comfort in knowing you aren't alone in your nervousness. If she has been looking at you alot, that means she is curious about you. She probably wants to talk to you and won't forget a conversation over the weekend. You really do need to just try and stay calm, see that she has been looking at you and wants to talk, believe in yourself, and then just talk to her. Ta_ree_saw - To be fair, credit for the start small advice goes to Smallworld. But its good advice for anyone. Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted March 11, 2006 Share Posted March 11, 2006 Completely off topic, but what the hell is a Life Drawing class? Link to comment
Darkness3389 Posted March 11, 2006 Author Share Posted March 11, 2006 It is a class where we draw still life with colors and charcoal as well as learing how to do shading. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted March 11, 2006 Share Posted March 11, 2006 It is a class where we draw still life with colors and charcoal as well as learing how to do shading. Cool. Sign me up. Link to comment
Ians Mommy Posted March 11, 2006 Share Posted March 11, 2006 oh lol. I'm not the smartest person when it comes to school, I mainly just am smart with common sense lol. Link to comment
Esmeralda Posted March 19, 2006 Share Posted March 19, 2006 The easiest thing you can do? Ask her for help. We love to be needed LOL Link to comment
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