Esmeralda

Whoa!!!! LOLOLOL Scout - thanks for coming to my defense TiredMan - I am straight-forward and honest...but I'm also shy when it comes to the opposite sex, specially when I've just met them...and (I know this is not gonna fly well for some of you) I like men to make the first move. I'll tell you why. Most men are hunters by nature. They don't like things to come too easy to them. This is not a supposition I have, it's something that I've heard from my single male friends time and time again. I also like men to be very assertive. I don't like shy men. I'm already shy enough for the both of us

Hey, look at it on the bright side...you won't be separated for ever. Also, other women don't find it undesirable.

Yes, sorry lol I've had bad experiences with separated men. I like for the ink to dry on those divorce papers.

I guess I'm shy. I wouldn't feel comfortable approaching a guy.

LOLOLOL It is to a certain degree. Ive done the bar/lounge/club scene and have had my share of Cosmos (maybe more than my share lol). It's not difficult to meet people here. But I think it's difficult to "connect". Too much going on.

I wouldn't find that attactive either. That was a hyperbole. I'm 100% honest but will do it in a way as to not hurt someone's feeling. Example: if someone likes me, I'll tell them that I really like them but not in a romantic way. I don't like leading people on. I've actually made a couple of really good friends this way. We have great "friendship" chemistry. And before you say it...no, they don't want to get in my pants lol

The easiest thing you can do? Ask her for help. We love to be needed LOL

Good point lol Well, if your idea of a Quality Woman" is one that is brutally honest, straight-forward, does not cheat (under ANY circumstances), down to earth and loves to dance, then I have no problems. Hopefully that quality man will overlook my less than stellar attributes (hey, I'm not perfect!)

It's ironic, because everyone who is single comes here in the hopes of meeting someone.

That is very true. I've heard of volunteering to build homes for the poor. I think I'll do that this summer...it should be a lot of fun!

Well, I wish you much luck. I'm glad you're thinking about meeting other people. That is the first step. It's not going to be easy but one thought should stay in your head. You're worth having someone all to yourself.

Hmmmm, I must be dense...I never thought about joining a book club...and I'm an avid reader! This website rocks!

You know, I never thought of that lol Thanks! I'll ck it out.

I got ya. I understand you see it as an ongoing love affair. I've been where you are...sometimes you gotta see the bottom line. This is not going to a happy place. Let's look at it objectively. There are a few choices and outcomes: 1) She cheats on him with you for a while. She stays with him, you waste time and emotion. 2) She cheats on him with you. She leaves him for you. What makes you think she won't cheat on you, as well? 3) She cheats on him with you. She stays with him. You fall in love with someone else and marry her...does the word Karma ring any bells? I feel for you. It's tough but you gotta take your emotions out of the mix and consider only the facts.

Thanks, that is a great suggestion. Unfortunately, I'm agnostic.