More stories about the "lesbian"...

[Mattie]

Hello everyone. Me again.

 

Five weeks or so ago, I cut all contact with a girl that was messing me about. Intentional or otherwise, she'd be all over me one minute and then back away the next. She blamed her sexuality. I cared about her, but I'd had enough. So, I walked away and took time to myself. In that time, I realised that I was better off without the head games. I missed her sure, but I didn't miss the situation I constantly found myself in.

 

So, after about three weeks, we spoke and cleared the air. Eventually we started talking on MSN and MySpace. The last time I saw her was on Jan 27th. It's quite a long time given that we'd seen each other every weekend for the previous three months.

 

So anyway, on Monday night, I came home from work and went on MSN. She was online. We spoke for a bit and then she invited me out that night. I was reluctant but she kept on and on. She was BEGGING me to go out. She offered to pay for me. She said she misses me, etc, etc. I didn't see the harm in going out so I agreed. We met up and had a long hug. It wasn't awkward or anything, it was the same as ever. When we're together like that it's cool and I tend to forget all the hassle that she brings to my world.

 

We went to this club. I met her and some of her friends. Over the course of the night, we eventually started holding hands (yet again) and getting really close. I went off on my own for a bit and later kissed another girl. No harm in it, I'm single and the "lesbian" has made it clear that she doesn't want me.

 

What really annoyed me was that at the end of the night, she was holding hands, kissing and hugging a GUY.

 

I ended up escorting her home. I didn't want to stay with her, but I did. Nothing happened obviously, but I really wanted to know what the hell she was playing at. Is she just using the lesbian thing as an excuse when it suits her? Why on earth does she keep coming back to me again and again when she doesn't have/want to?

 

I've been enjoying being single and have been out with a few girls in the past month or so, but in all honesty, the connection isn't there.

 

You know what one of the last things the "lesbian" said to me before I left? She sighed and said: "I wish you had a vagina..."

 

Hmmm. Maybe that new guy has one...

[Süsser Tod]

Or maybe you are her safety blanket?

[HaloDestroyer]

Well, that wasn't very nice of her, was it?!

 

Seriously though, it sounds like she's using you. Fair enough, you guys tried it on, and she screwed with your head. Now, she's suddenly your 'best friend' all over again, and is basically inviting you out places because she has no-one else to go with?

 

My theorum, anyway.

 

Hope this helps...

[DN]

Yeah, I think she wanted an escort for the evening. Best to let this one go.

[RandomAdvisor]

 

Seriously though, it sounds like she's using you. Fair enough, you guys tried it on, and she screwed with your head. Now, she's suddenly your 'best friend' all over again, and is basically inviting you out places because she has no-one else to go with?

 

 

I agree with this. You should have stuck to your guns with NC. Add her to block list on MSN...this girl is more trouble than she's worth.

[tom_bombodil]

hey mattie, you know ive been it the same situation as you,and partly thanks to your help i have avoided contact in my situation and i am finally o.k with that. I think u probably know now that you should have known better with this girl i'd say stay away you cant just be friends either it will never work whilst she pulls stunts like this. all the best

[Mattie]

And it goes on...

 

She's posted a photo of me and her together on her MySpace page.

[RandomAdvisor]

You should remove her from your friends list on Myspace, and try to resist the temptation in future to look at her page.

[Mattie]

Hello all.

 

Just to let you all now that it's been over a week without seeing her and I am far happier. Seeing her just makes me unhappy and I've told her that I'm not subjecting myself to that anymore.

 

Thanks for all the advice you've all given me.