tom_bombodil
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hey, thanks so far, i asked for her number the friday night but i'm not sure i asked very well and i don't remember her saying no, but just not saying anything so, i didn't ask again on saturday night. Its weird because she seemed very keen and said she'll be back again, she asked if i had a girlfriend about my family etc....everything was great just no number. I suppose i just see how things are the next time she's here.
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Hello everyone,I’m trying to understand why a girl would seem to really like you but not want to give her number, this girl is the friend of a friend and we had met only once before quite a while ago and she was only here for the weekend but we talked and got on, we kissed on Friday night and on Saturday she approached me about the night before and wondered if I felt it was a mistake on my part, I told her not at all etc and kissed her again…that night we were in my friends house and we talked a lot and to the amusement of the others we sneaked to the “toilet” at the same times to kiss upstairs, it went no further than that,but now I’m thinking was it just a bit of fun and her telling me what I wanted to hear as she knew she was leaving the next day or does she want to keep the ball in her court and play hard to get until she visits again? which she insisted she would be doing. She lives about 3 hours away at the moment, thanks for any help.
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hey mattie, you know ive been it the same situation as you,and partly thanks to your help i have avoided contact in my situation and i am finally o.k with that. I think u probably know now that you should have known better with this girl i'd say stay away you cant just be friends either it will never work whilst she pulls stunts like this. all the best
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I agree with the other posts it sounds like he does like you especially if he was just hanging around in your vicinity and by doing this its highly likely he was hoping you would approach him but he wasn't prepared and he's probably not too confident.He was probably a little too embarrassed to talk to you again but you noticed him because he remarked to someone near you. I'd say try again and maybe he won't be as surprised as you will have approached him before.
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Thanks all for your replies, i decided to take your advice and not contact her anymore,also she has made no attempt to contact me so i guess its not as big a deal to her as she made out.Mattie I read your posts, i was pretty struck that our situations are almost the same,i guess those confused about their sexuality cant be straight with you.
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Hey everyone, this relates to my last post about this girl i had met,she told me after a while that she prefers women but that she still is attracted to men and that she likes me and is attracted to me and its purely just a sex thing,she said if she didn't feel this way it would be different and she would want more than friendship.I'm confused coz she must have known she would end it because of this yet she seemed really interested,i feel i've been messed around...anyway she said she wants to be friends for now,and there has been little contact since then (about 2 weeks), i thought i'd leave it for a while and let her figure out what she wants but i really miss talking to her and we have so much in common, but she doesn't live close and if we were to see each other again it would involve one of us making a particular effort to visit...she says our friendship is important to her and she apologised repeatedly, but I guess i just dont know what to do next, should i do anything or just try and move on? though i dont really want to.Any suggestions very much appreciated! thanks
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I called her the other night and we talked for hours, neither one of us wanted to put the phone down and now she initiates contact more and always texts me when she says she will,now I really want to know where I stand and where we go from here, also she is soon to be moving with a guy who i know she has been with before and i think i may have competition here...anyway, i want to ask her about this and whether or not it is possible they may get back together etc and how she feels about whatevers goin on with us. I need everyones advice on whether or not it would be an ok time to have this talk given the circumstances.
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Thanks copperhead, I took your advice and text her last night and told her to text me later and she did, now i don't mind so much making most of the contact.
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Thanks again newby but its been a week now since i called her and suggested she get back in touch, now i want to make it plain that the ball is in her court to contact me back or should i give her a little more time.If not what would be a good way to go about this?
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Also when there is too much distance to easily make plans to see each other and the relationship is new(only seen each other a few times) it seems very difficult to keep in contact and not get a bit serious too soon, and theres also still some confusion about whats going on and still getting to know each other. How often should we keep in contact?. All replies very much appreciated.
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Thanks everyone for the advice.Thing is because of the distance i cant call her to see if she wants to meet up etc,i dont want to make an awkward phone call. Maybe I should wait till she moves closer though she said this may be a couple of weeks or longer, I was thinking maybe i'll call her in a couple of weeks then atleast i can ask her how the move is going.
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Also do women ever contact guys even if they are interested, the one in question did ask for my number not the other way around though she doesn't use it and i feel like i am doing all the work and subsequently feel like my feelings are not recipricated.
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thanks for the reply,but i need to feel she wants to make contact u see. Although she says she likes me she doesn't contact me. how long should i wait till i contact her again
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So..I met this girl through a pal at uni and she's made it clear she is interested in me, she always initiates conversation and holding hands and we kissed the last time we met.The problem is we live about 2 and a half hours away though soon she will be moving to only an hour away. I called her a couple of days ago and told her to let me know how her move goes and she said i could come over when she finds a place. Now i'm wondering how long should i wait for her call, and by the way i always start the text messaging and calling, she replies immedietley but she never starts the contact. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.