We broke up tonight :(

[JuStAgIrL31806]

My boyfriend broke up with me tonight. Its all my fault, i was too protective. It sucks so bad, I can do anything but cry. Somebody please, I want him back so bad. I should have treated him better. He said he needed to think about things, and I have a bad headache and been crying for 2 hours straight. Please, what do I do??

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

What do you mean you were too protective? How did you treat him badly?

[JuStAgIrL31806]

i dont know, i have a really bad headache, i cant think at the moment, i will have to answer that later. We were together for 1 year and 4 months

[Blue Skittles]

Alright, first give yourself time to get over this, its obviously really upsetting right now, and its going to be, but a month from now you will feel much better. Tomorrow, get up, go to the salon, get your hair done, go get some exercise, do things to make you feel better about yourself.

 

Secondly, I need to emphasize no contact here. At least wise let HIM call YOU. I don't know if you will get back together with him or not, but you need to show him that you are strong and can live without him. He is needing space right now too, so its important that you give it to him. Who knows what can happen after some time apart. I know you can get through this, and we are all here for you and I'm sure you have some friends that are there for you too. The first week or so will be hard but after a while once you start getting out and meeting new people it will be easier. Hugz

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

I agree

 

If either of you have issues with one another, you need to work throught htem seperatley first and then together. It's hard to see now through the tears, but once they're gone the world will be clear (that thought of mine will be more clear in the morning)

[yelloemail]

let me tell you, i have been there before. i remember one time i called in sick to work because i couldn't stop crying. but, guess what, i got over it and so will you! i guarantee that you will feel better and forget all about what's his name! give it time...

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

P.S. does anyone mind advising me on my dilema? (still posted on the main page) Thanks, and once again, remember to breathe.

[JuStAgIrL31806]

thanks everybody...tonight is going to be horrible, i will definetly be on here all night, somebody needs to stay on and keep me company.

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

i'll do it for you if you do it for me

[JuStAgIrL31806]

sounds good, im gonna need someone, seeing as how i live out in the middle of god knows where, without a friend in sight.

[annie24]

Ok, take a nice long shower, pamper yourself, make yourself some tea. Tell us what happened.

[smilelikeyoumeanit]

aww, that really sucks

how long have you been going out?

[shangrala]

do NOT beat yourself up! i read your previous post (about his porn habits and lying) and this is the BEST thing that could have happened to you. believe me, i know. people who are addicted to porn are as sick as any other addicts--not because it's porn but because their behavior is secret, makes them feel ashamed, tell lies, cover things up, etc., etc. bottom line is they choose their escapism fix over their reality (i.e. people in their lives who love them and want to be with them). i had suspicions that my last boyfriend was a closet porn addict and tried to get him to talk about his "viewing" habits. he would never come clean, even tho i was perfectly ok with it at that point and even willing to look at it together. we only did it once and rather than being into it, he kind of cut the whole thing short, almost like it was ruining his fantasy time to have me there with him. long story short: i found out that his deception was present in other areas, too, and i broke up with him a few months ago. i do miss his company, but not the lies and weirdness and self-doubt that go along with being with someone who is ashamed, manipulative and deceitful.

 

you are MUCH better off without him. what you're feeling now is just the shock and fear of being "rejected." that will pass quickly. hang in there.