New Boyfriend Is Mad At Me! Help!

[capricorn85]

Hello everyone! My boyfriend and I just got together about a week 1/2 ago, but today was not a good experience. First let me say that this is a long distance relationship. Anyway, today I was on the phone with my bf and mr roomate screams out "who are you on the phone with?" so I said "who do you think." because obviously I wouldnt be talking to anyone else but my bf. So she screams out "John?" So I said "no my boyfriend!!!" John is clearly not my bf's name. He got so upset and didnt want to speak to me. I called him a few times and explained to him that I am not cheating and this guy is just friend (which is the honest truth), but he told me he wanted to be left alone. Sigh. So I called him about an hr ago and I can tell he is still upset with me. What can I do to make this better? I feel like he should believe me, but he is the type of guy that will analyze this situation. Helllppp.

[Shadows Light]

Let him stew and let him call you. If you start now... constantly having to sooth his insecurities about other men... then its going to keep going. Either he trusts you or he doesn't. Don't make his problems yours.

[nikkers04]

I agree if he doesn't trust you its his deal. Leave him alone and let him get over it...its hard being in long distance relationships because you just don't know whats going on...its really easy to lie so its hard...but it makes you stronger as a couple

[Spectre22]

did you atleast slap your friend? thats a dumb thing to say

[ShySoul]

How long have you known the person before getting together? Does he have insecurities or get jealous easily? Or have you not known him long and this is the first time he's done something like this?

 

I agree with Shadows Light, give him space and let him get over it. He shouldn't have gotten that upset, but there may be other issues involved and it triggered this reaction in him. Sometimes the best thing to do is to give something time, and then come together and work it out if you are still feeling bad.

[Ben10]

I'd be chewing the roommate out for pulling that stunt and making your bf think you have another bf named John.

[Scorpion Fury]

That was dumb of your room mate, but he shouldn't be freaking out if it's a new relationship. If you had been togther a long time and she said that, then yeah he would have more of a reason to be suspicious. A week and a half? Hell you could have recently even dated a guy named John and she thought you still were.

 

Don't coddle him. Let him come around.

[metrogirl]

The original post was like 2 years old........

[Scorpion Fury]

The original post was like 2 years old........

 

LOL. Guess I should pay attention. I just assumed it was new, I should start looking at the date.