oh no, I made a BIG, BIGG mistake!!!

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

I made the biggest mistake of my life and I dont know how to get out of it. I think I just wreaked my life

 

I posted this last night I didnt get the last few posts until I made the mistake!

 

I told my x that I still loved him, now Im regretting it. I feel awful!! He asked if I wanted to get back with him and I said yes but first I want to talk to him!!!! WHAT HAVE I DONE!!!!!!??????

 

Can someone plllease help me!! please!

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

I feel so demented and very embrasssssed

[ComputerGuy]

Dont feel stupid - emotions do that people, make them blind to rational choices. Trust me on that one >.>

 

Just say to him "Look, I was emotional, and deep down I know I really dont want to get back with you...contrary to what I said, I don't want to be with you anymore". Something along those lines - there is no reason you HAVE to go back with him just cause you said you would in a fit of emotion.

 

You deserve better, and I promise you'll find someone who can give it to you *Hugs*

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Thank you computerGuy, I really appricate your help, your awesome!!

=)

[steff]

wow ouch im sorry. but i think computer guy is right, and u just have to set him straight and tell him it was a mistake to say that, and that ur not wanting to get back with him. its really the only thinkg that u can do.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Thank you Steff, I agree its the only thing I can do, but I wish it wasnt...

[ComputerGuy]

You need to concentrate on you, its not selfish to do that - you come first. And telling him you cant be with him and dont want to be with him is the first step to looking out for yourself. You CAN do it, and although it seems hard now, you'll feel much better later and you'll be thanking yourself down the track.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Your right!!!! I can do this and I will!!! Thank you for the courage (which I was lacking) Computer Guy.

[Hawk]

And please do it quickly for him - you have given him what everyone who has been dumped hopes for - a second chance. Sorry to seem harsh, but it needs to be done.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Hawkkk!! Now I feel like i cant do it, Im worried how he is going to react, I just remembered when I told him that I loved him, he got so happy, I dont know...I feel so bad for him, his got depression because i broke up with him, he failed exams because I broke up with him, im worried for him...

[waylon]

If you don't want to get back together with the guy its 100% your choice....

 

Don't mess with the poor guys emotions though, yes you come first but think before you act.

 

I can only imagine how bad this poor guy is going to feel now, that wasnt very nice.

[ravens_folly]

Broken Doll,

 

these things happen all the time. Its not your fault he got depression and failed his exams. It was his choice to behave that way.

And you made a mistake, everyone makes mistakes. Just tell him that you are sorry that things went this way, you acted out of an emotional state and althought you may "love" him, you are not "in love" with him and you don't feel that a relationship with him is working and it is the best for the both of you.

Don't worry, he will get over it in time, and if he doesn't, its NOT your fault.

[waylon]

Don't use that line "you love him but you are not in love with him" its such a cliché and it tends to confuse the hell out of people.

 

Just tell him you made a mistake and you're not interested. Also don't fuel his emotions anymore, you'll end up making it more difficult for the both of you.

[WildChild]

Broken, how do you know that he failed exams? How do you know he was diagnosed with depression? You mentioned yesterday that he told you he told his priest and his parents? Were you there when he told them? This guy has a history of controlling the situation with you. How do you know he isn't trying to control it again by telling you all of this just to get you back.

 

I know it is going to be difficult, but you have got to cut your ties with him. I know you don't want to hurt him, but maybe try looking at it like this: If you stay with him now just to save him from being hurt, think of how hurt he will be and how much harder it will be if you reach your end with him later.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

thanxs wildchild =) I aprricate all your thoughts and advice!

[pumkin_fairy]

computer guy is so right...

[antigravity]

Hmmm.. I know we've been talking a fair bit lately, and I've said a few things to you about this guy, but if he forced himself on you, please try and get out of this one.

 

I know your thinking of doing this anyway, and I think it's definitely the right choice. There a plenty of great guys out there that would NEVER do that to you.

 

At the end of the day make the decision that feels right to you, but don't make the decision out of sympathy towards him. Do what is good for you in the long term.

 

But if I were you, I would try and cut ties as soon as possible. They quicker you do this, the easier it will be on both of you.

 

Good luck!