Why did this happen? Bad experience.

[You_Dont_Know_Me]

Hello guys - yet again.

 

yet - new drama. taha.

 

Here it is, in a nut shell.

 

My boyfriend and I were attempting anal sex - again. We've done it before, but not for very long - and this time it lasted longer and I actually started to enjoy it.

 

But, all of a sudden it seemed like too much or something. And I got real shakey, and like scared - and I got real cold and all I wanted to do was go to sleep. I felt so weak he stopped and I just curled into a ball on my bed. I felt depressed/sad and I couldn't get myself to talk and I kept breathing quickly. My boyfriend kept wiping back my hair and asking me to say something and I couldn't even get myself ot kiss him - I just wanted to go to sleep - I wanted to cry.

 

Then we got dressed and I layed there for awhile with him. And it seemed to pass - and I was what was earlier. And I kind of have some cramping in my lower stomach - could be because I'm hungry; I'm eating as I type.

 

But - why did that happen?

 

Thanks!

[HoldMeTightly]

wow like sixty views and no one has posted? i've never heard of anything like that? it could be guilt though.

[lonelyandblue]

maybe he hit a nerve?? You aren't alone, but I don't have a great explanation, sorry.

[kimichuck]

Maybe its some kind of built in instinctive reaction

[Gilgamesh]

may be vertigo or something because of having your head forward/down etc, could also have been because low blood sugar, really hard to say.

 

it almost sounds like a psychological trigger. I have heard of "flooding" emotions being released before, not with anal sex though.

 

let some time go by, and try it again some other time, have a meal about an hour before, and try another position.

[Finzsoftie]

Ummm try using KY or some lubricant! It's a lot easier that way. It's a psychological and nervous reaction... anyway, try to lubricate it's easier!

[skyteph]

Ummm try using KY or some lubricant! It's a lot easier that way. It's a psychological and nervous reaction... anyway, try to lubricate it's easier!

 

No offence...but if it's a psychological reaction, how will KY help?

[DarknHandsome]

they prolly were if they tired onced before. Ya i dunno, perhaps a panic attack?

[darkblue]

How unexpected.

 

It could have been a number of things.

 

Are you comfortable with anal?

What are your views on it?

Whose idea was it to try anal?

 

If you feel comfortable enough to try it again and hopefully it was only a one off.

 

I think the explination of 'hitting a nerve' could be possible.

[You_Dont_Know_Me]

yah.

 

I really didn't understand.

 

But, maybe I was just worked up.

 

But, I thing we're going to try it again.

[Pressfit]

Being a old pro at this sort of thing I can tell you it's more than likely a Physical reaction. The cold (and maybe even a clammy feeling) along with cramping? "Ya got to make sure everything is cleaned out down there before to do it right.

[You_Dont_Know_Me]

So, we did it again - and it went well.

 

Really no pain. bla bla bla.

 

 

 

But, after a couple minutes he said he couldn't really feel anything anymore - and it was slippery ... eww.

 

Why is that?