am i Bi, or even gay??

[lonelysoul]

woah, lot of stuff been happening while ive been away.errr...god this is stupid. anyway.

 

totally honest here!: being 17, surely i'm past 'phases' of growing up stuff, but recently i've started fantasising about my guy friends and sex and making out with them and stuff. ive always been kinda 'fruity' playful and flamoyant but never thought of myself as being gay before.

 

i dunno tho, i still fancy the high holy hell out of some girls like celebs and stuff, so im unsure.

 

oh and another thing, im sure most guys have some porn(like me), recently i downloaded some gay stuff out of interest.

 

let me know your thoughts, please

[CheckFast5]

I doubt you are gay, or even bi...

 

A lot of people go through fazes like that (I have been) But it doesn't last long and as soon as you start spending more time with girls you'll realise that it was stupid to ever think that.

 

Hope it helps

[kaboom]

Taking from the Bi side of things here, there's absolutely no point in beating urself about it, because u wont get anywhere out of thinking. If you look at guys and think "damn he's hot" and you feel DESIRE, not just being able to recognize male beauty, and if the same happens when you look at a woman, then you are bi.

if you only feel attracted to men, then you're gay

if you only feel attracted to women, then you are straight.

There really isnt much math to this. U got any gay friends? go out to a gay bar one night and see if you like being hit on, if you like making out with a man.

Being Bi isnt bad at all. In my opinion, it actually rocks! however be prepared to take hell from both the straight and gay communities.

[neve]

I think that it depends on how you are thinking about your friends. Are you thinking about pleasuring them or are you thinking about them pleasuring you? Sometimes, if it is more in the context of thinking of someone pleasuring you, it may not make a difference who or which sex the person is. Some straight men would probably love a blow job from a gay man, because the gay man would really know how to pleasure another man the way women could not--but if the tables were turned, and the gay man wanted the straight man to reciprocate, it may be a different story. Is your desire for a man a frequent recurring desire or something that just pops in your head every so often? Do you fantasize the same way about girls that you know or if you had the opportunity to sleep with the hottest celeb female you can think of, would that turn you on? Would the feel of her skin against your body arouse you? If she wanted you to go down on her would that make you hot? I am not saying that you are gay, but a lot of gay men think Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson are just fabulous but it is more on an admiration/adoration level, not on a sexual one. Are the feelings you have for men and women the same or are they different? Have you ever really had any girlfriends? Is that a desire of yours? Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with a woman or a man? sorry if i am asking so many questions but i hope that they help you.

[lonelysoul]

thanks for the great answrs.

 

kaboom said about desire. i have to admit i dont desire men in the same way as women, but i would like to experience something with a man, like me pleasuring him, or him me. sorry if that doesn't make sense or is contradictive.

 

a lot of questions neve!

 

as above i wouldnt mind pleasuring a man, or him to do the same to me. its not a constant gay feeling, but i find some guys as sexy as girls. though i have had some girlfriends, i wouldnt really want a boyfriend. and i would say i get aroused by Avril Lavigne, Jennifer Ellision, Britney etc. on a sexual level, not an admiration level. going down on any of the above celebs would be a dream come true! though i wouldnt hesitate to go down on a guy if he was allright.

[kaboom]

if you get sexually aroused just THINKING about those celebs, then gay is out of the question.

The way it goes for me, I go through "cycles". For a while i'll find more men than women hot and given the choice, i'd rather be in bed with one of the two (but its not like I ever stop being attracted to either genre). I dont have this "gay" feeling all day long, the same i dont have the "straight" feeling all day long.

Not wanting a relationship with a guy doesnt make you straight, it just makes you scared!

Go out to a gay bar, see if you enjoy the atmosphere, see if you enjoy being hit on (i can almost guarantee it will happen). Be careful because a lot of them take things VERY fast. Just be able to say NO where u want it to stop, if you want it to stop at all.

MOST importantly, don't do the above if you don't think you're ready or if u dont like 1-night-stands.

Just a little test 'ere. U give chick names that turn you on. Do the same with MALE celebs.

[neve]

i hope the questions helped you and did not confuse you further. yeah , i would say that given your answers, you don't sound gay to me. not wanting a relationship with a man could just be because you are scared or that you just see a man as appealing on a sexual level, not a romantic one. bisexual people often times can get different needs met or see ezch gender as arousing or appealing in different ways.

[Mix Maxster]

hey Kaboom,

 

man i read your replies in this post and must say that you answered a question for ME. See I have gay guy friends and my mom is even gay, so being around them is normal to me. I infact have no problem with either straight or gay people as I don't segregate people of any race, religion or sexual orientation.

 

but at times i look at some guys and think they're hot, but i'd never really sure if i'd be about kissing them and all that. so u helped answer that.

 

also i liked how you mentioned that even the straights and gay's can work together when it's against the bi's lol. Man, that just goes to show you that there's hope for everyone.

 

thanks again for answering my question before i even asked it lol.