Broke123 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 So you will know me from my previous threads Basically my ldr ex gf of two years left me just after I came out my operation and I had a long period of recovery ahead physically Anyway she then a month after that moved to my town and country! Anyway tonight I don't know why I stupidly looked at her profile pic and she looks like she's lost so much weight and looks completely different - she looks amazing in fact - it's made me completely messed up because it's like I don't even recognise her anymore!!! 😭😭 I was doing so well and I shouldn't have looked !! Link to comment
Makeit Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 Youre def right. You shouldnt have looked. Block everything and stick to it. I even blocked friends of my ex just so I couldnt see anything accidentally. Link to comment
musicman777 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 So you will know me from my previous threads Basically my ldr ex gf of two years left me just after I came out my operation and I had a long period of recovery ahead physically Anyway she then a month after that moved to my town and country! Anyway tonight I don't know why I stupidly looked at her profile pic and she looks like she's lost so much weight and looks completely different - she looks amazing in fact - it's made me completely messed up because it's like I don't even recognise her anymore!!! 😭😭 I was doing so well and I shouldn't have looked !! You gotta block that crap; I know it's tempting, but don't do it. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 Do not do that again! She wasn't there for you when you needed her the most! Resist that temptation by calling or texting a friend when you get that urge to go looking. It will only set you back. I'm currently telling myself my ex moved out of the country lol , because I am fuming that I can't connect with anyone like I did with him. That connection was intense. If I go unblock him, and seek him out, I'm gonna set myself up for a disaster. Don't keep hurting yourself! Link to comment
sputnik123 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 hey Broke, Sorry to hear that happened. As the angelic Sweetgirl says.. DO.NOT.DO.IT.TO.YOURSELF Am exactly in the same boat buddy and avoid it like the plague. Delete and block whoever you need to and never look. If tempted, do anything else to take your mind off it. Anything. Best of luck :) Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 Think of it like picking a scab, it may itch whatever but then it will bleed and have to heal all over maybe this time leaving a scar. Yep this x 1000: DO.NOT.DO.IT.TO.YOURSELF Link to comment
Broke123 Posted January 22, 2018 Author Share Posted January 22, 2018 Thanks guys - yeh it was a silly thing to do - as they say curiousity killed the cat.. yep won't be doing it again anytime soon!! I thought I was ready and could handle it but the wound runs deep Thanks for the support you guys Link to comment
Makeit Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 I broke social media NC yesterday. I woke up with this feeling that my ex left me for someone else even tho she said she didnt. I was certain all the clues added up to her doing so while contemplating in the morning. I had to look and confirm. Judging by her twitter posts and favs tho i was actually wrong. The mind and instincts can be a great tool but also lead you to conjure things that arent true as well. Link to comment
Broke123 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Share Posted January 23, 2018 Hi makeit you're right! Sometimes you can get tunnel vision - but in the end the real reason doesn't matter - she left you and that's all you need to know. Link to comment
Broke123 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Share Posted January 23, 2018 I broke social media NC yesterday. I woke up with this feeling that my ex left me for someone else even tho she said she didnt. I was certain all the clues added up to her doing so while contemplating in the morning. I had to look and confirm. Judging by her twitter posts and favs tho i was actually wrong. The mind and instincts can be a great tool but also lead you to conjure things that arent true as well. In addition I want to add that yep sometimes our mind can actually be our own worst enemy. We can let thoughts over take us. All I would say is try to remind yourself that no matter what the reason , she decided to end the relationship. You may never find out why , she may not know why herself - sometimes there's no answer and that's okay. Don't go hard on yourself like I did, we all break the NC sometimes. You've got this ! Link to comment
James1982 Posted February 3, 2018 Share Posted February 3, 2018 I broke social media NC yesterday. I woke up with this feeling that my ex left me for someone else even tho she said she didnt. I was certain all the clues added up to her doing so while contemplating in the morning. I had to look and confirm. Judging by her twitter posts and favs tho i was actually wrong. The mind and instincts can be a great tool but also lead you to conjure things that arent true as well. i thought it was just me that did this! my mind goes into over drive, making up stories in my head about what shes doing, who with etc etc... then you believe them.. the next thing i know im in my car driving around looking... its a bad situation!! not healthy at all. Cant wait to get back to normal! hope it happens soon good luck Link to comment
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