StephAndo Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 Hi, I’m new to this site (as In i joined today so please understand if I do something wrong) I’m 17 and I might be going to university next year (2018). I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months, so it’s still early days and its been amazing. We have a great relationship and it’s the first time I’ve actually been fully emotionally invested in a guy, with my other past relationships I’ve been mostly disinterested. However, the other night he suddenly messaged me in a blind panic about fears of me going to university. We had spoken briefly about his ex-girlfriend, who he was with for 2 years and broke up a year before he and I started to date, but that night he explained exactly how it broke him and how desperately sad he was when they broke up. He said that he doesn’t know what he wants from our relationship and he fears that he’s going to return back to that sad state when I leave for university. It was horrible and it lasted for 2 days. At one point I was practically begging for him to break up with me as I couldn’t handle the idea that I was causing him this much stress and that I didn’t know where I stood with him. After a long talk I managed to get through to him; I explained that I’m not even going far away for university and how I might not even be going this year. Most importantly, i made it clear that I am not his ex-girlfriend. (When I asked if he still had feelings for her he said a firm No). He seemed happy with what I said and he seemed positive about our future, looking at it more optimistically and saying about how much he likes me. But now, his replies are slow and mostly one worded. He’ll occasionally return back to his normal, funny self and then suddenly back to being standoff-ish. Is this normal? Has anyone else experienced this? I’m not seeing him now till New Years Eve, which we’re spending together at his. He told me he 100% wants me there and there is no one else he’d rather spend it with, but I always worry that he’s lying and that he’d much rather be with his friends but he just doesn’t want to upset me. I’m so nervous to see him again and I’m living in a constant worry that he’s just going to dump me out of the blue, which honestly would be so upsetting for me as I like him so much and could genuinely see a future with him. Any thoughts? Please be honest. I don’t know if I’m beinh irrationally I’m worrying that he’s going to dump me or if the way he’s acting is common. Link to comment
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