rb1 Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 So our marriage took a turn.... 7 months ago she wanted a seperation(I did not). I gave it to her anyway, as she said “she needed time to reflect without stress and figure what she wanted in life”. We both ended up agreeing under the condition we weren’t going to find or get with anyone else. Now that 7 months has passed we never really sat down and fully opened up and talked. Don’t get me wrong... I tried and ole Lordy Did I try to get shut down endlessly.... if I were to get her to open up it was half truths about anything and everything. Where’s she’s at with all this.... she’s said for a year now “I don’t know what I want, I need time to think”..... a year later and 7 months of me moving out leaving her be other than our child....”I don’t know what I want”. No matter what I would do, she just gave me that answer. I sense moved back in, as things between us improved but till this day she avoids any conversation that has to do with us, and what is going on or where is it going... she once again said she just needed time to think because she’s just really stressed out with work and school. She has acquired this new trait when she does finally talk. She loves to be omissive about everything now. Which she use to be open and honest. One of the very few people I could trust in my life. Example: I found out during the seperation she had been talking to another guy..... I confronted her about it. I asked her about them.... she replied that they were just friends and they never have went out to the bar together(she frequents)Shortly after, I found out they were more than just friends. Also, she had went over to his house after she got out of work(supposedly with coworkers). I asked her about that after finding that out. Her response “you never asked me if I’ve ever been to his house”. She continued to play this card as her secret slowly fell apart. Until, eventually she did start to get feelings for him. However, it was whatever she could leave out of it. She plays this against me about everything now.... but then work around it I start to ask more questions, so she says “I’m interrogating her”. If she runs out of things to keep things hidden. She resorts to making it my fault or the big one it’s none of my buisness and that she told me where she was. She is fine to be around in person when I do see her, but because this new and improved secret squirrel her is always hidding or lying I feel like it’s all a act to my face. Then because she never wants to talk to me. I’m left with everything from just a few months ago, no closure, no real explanation. As for the other guy, she says they are done and haven’t hung out.... but “omissive” found out they were snap chatting.... “I never said I stopped talking to him as friend, I said I haven’t hung out with him”. Link to comment
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