WESTY9797 Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 Hey ive been in my (gay) relationship now for 3 months and it is going really well. i just need some help with when im not with him im always constantly texting him and i feel like i am annoying him and sometimes he tells me if i am. which is fair enough because then this shows that he is honest with me. i just need help with how to stop being so clingy any replies will be a great help Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 Think of it as a tennis volley. He hits to you, you hit back, you wait until he returns the volley until you hit again. i just need some help with when im not with him im always constantly texting him and i feel like i am annoying him and sometimes he tells me if i am. Link to comment
WESTY9797 Posted December 5, 2017 Author Share Posted December 5, 2017 thank you for the reply but how do i stop being clingy. i want to constantly message him throughout the day also wanting phone calls all the time Link to comment
DanZee Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 You just have to use your rational mind to control your emotional mind. Basically, it's your mammalian frontal lobe versus your reptilian brain. It's intellect over impulse. Clingy-ness can break up your relationship so you need to just back off a bit. Maybe limit yourself to one text in the morning, one in the afternoon, and one in the evening. You have to ration yourself. Link to comment
Birdie Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 Well what do you do in your spare time? What hobbies do you do etc? You need to create a life outside of him. If you're busy while you're not with him, you won't be able to text him constantly. Link to comment
WESTY9797 Posted December 5, 2017 Author Share Posted December 5, 2017 thank you all for the replies. helps alot Link to comment
happyfrank Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 thank you for the reply but how do i stop being clingy. i want to constantly message him throughout the day also wanting phone calls all the time Ask him if that's okay. Some guys like Clingy guys.. Just means you care.. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted December 6, 2017 Share Posted December 6, 2017 Ask him if that's okay. Some guys like Clingy guys.. Just means you care.. He already said his boyfriend told him he is annoyed sometimes. And clingy does not always mean you care; it often means you're insecure and need a lot of attention and validation from your partner to soothe your anxiety. OP, you need to figure out what is motivating this first. Are you afraid he will drift away if you don't keep in constant contact? Link to comment
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