Logan4 Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 I'm 22 years old now and my girlfriend is 21, we have been together for just over 5 years now. I love her a lot, and would do anything for her. We have have a great relationship, almost no fighting except for one thing, sex. It all started about 4 years ago, just about the time we moved into together for college. (We met in high school and ended up going to the same University together so we decided to move in together for my sophomore year and her freshman year.) The first year was fine, we had sex maybe once or twice a week and it was great. Then the second year rolled around and it moved down to maybe 2-3 times per month, which wasn't the best situation but was managable. Then 3 years in came around and we had sex maybe once a month maybe a little longer. Then it comes to now, where we've maybe has sex 5 times max for the whole year, this has stopped being okay with me. I've talked to her on several instances about the situation. We've talked about why there might be this problem and all she can come up with is stress. I've asked her if shes not attracted to me, she tells me if she wasn't attracted to me she wouldn't be with me. I've asked if the sex we have isn't all that good, she says its great. (For reference I always put her needs of orgasm far above my own when having sex and can usually accomplish it several times before were done, as far as I know) I've asked her if theres anything I could do to try and get her in the mood and she couldn't give me anything, because I've seriously exhausted all my tricks years ago to no avial. About 7 months ago I conviced her to talk to her doctor about the issue when she went for her yearly check up, hoping maybe the doctor could change her birth control, thinking that maybe that was the problem. She got an IUD put in and her drive hasn't changed in the slightest. I've become so sexually frustrated I don't know what to do. I've looked at numerous couples sex websites and they all say 2-3 times per week is the average. Theres people complaining about only having sex once a month, and at this point would kill to be in that situation. I've never written in one of these forums before, but I can't find anyone with a similar situation and I just want to see what other people have to say. Sorry for the long rant. Link to comment
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