She texted me at 3:00 AM after 11 months

[positiveone]

She sent me this... (click link)

 

Do I respond?

 

(23M) - (21F)

[Jillstrand23]

I think you should ignore her. She is just probably missing you and wondering what you are up to but there is no reason to respond if you are posting in healing section

[lostandhurt]

Which ex is this? The birth control ex or the other one?

 

 

Lost

[positiveone]

@lostandhurt - The birth control girl isn't my ex, she was just the first girl I had a thing with since the break up with my ex .. which is the one that texted me this morning.

[reinventmyself]

Hard to take anything serious from anyone who thinks it's ok to text at 3am.

Especially someone you are not in constant contact with.

Can't read the link, bytheway

[Wiseman2]

Sorry, sounds very backhanded. ("you upset me, you didn't treat me as a I wanted", etc) Don't answer. Is she a bit neurotic?

[lostandhurt]

Do you want to try again with her? Has anything changed since the break up? If the answer is no to either of these questions then don't reply. No need to debate it any longer right?

 

Now if you do want to try and work things out or at the very least talk and see if things have changed then don't reply with a text, call her when you know she is sure to be able to answer and talk. She will probably freak a little when she sees your name and IF she answers say hi and ask how she has been and then ask why she sent the text. Hear her out, maybe she needs some more closure. If it gets weird or goes sideways politely end the conversation and wish her a happy holidays.

 

Lost

[j.man]

**** that. I have a hard enough time getting back to people when they text me at 3pm with something I'm actually interested in, much less 3am with some drunken dramatic nonsense.

[Wong78]

Hard to take anything serious from anyone who thinks it's ok to text at 3am.

Especially someone you are not in constant contact with.

Can't read the link, bytheway

 

Hahaha exactly

[positiveone]

I ended up responding and saying ....

 

“ No, you are not blocked.

 

In regards to our relationship, towards the end it was unhealthy and stressful and we didn’t have the tools or maturity to know how to make it work.

 

Feeling grounded was certainly comfortable but my time apart, while uncomfortable, has been more substantial in terms of growth than I could have imagined.

 

You need to know yourself before you can be with someone else, you must be grounded yourself without depending on another.

 

You are part of who I am today and I’m grateful for the time we shared together.

 

I hope you are doing well. Happy Thanksgiving. “

 

 

Then she responded by saying

 

“I don’t even remember sending that, have a good thanksgiving!!”

 

 

 

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