hopelessheart Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 My ex and I have dated for 1.5 years and we recently got in a stupid fight over facetime that blew up into him breaking up with me. This was almost 2.5 weeks ago. The next morning he said he was sure of his decision and came over to talk about it, saying he had been unhappy and I was too demanding, etc. We haven't really had major problems except getting in fights when we are both drinking. We've talked about moving in together and spending forever with each other and are still very affectionate everyday. I have had a bit of anxiety lately so I have been dependent on him, and I realized that during our time apart. We left the break up saying we could talk in a few days but he probably wasn't going to change his mind. I texted him to talk and he said he was thinking of texting me too because he felt bad about the note we left things on - he was very cold during the breakup. We decided to meet at the end of the weekend but when that time came he blew me off saying he was busy. The next day he texted me saying hes really sorry for blowing me off & for all of this & has been a mess the past few days, even getting talked to at work about it. So he came over, told me i looked nice, hugged me and wouldn't let go for a few minutes then asked what was on my mind. and I told him that I realized I had been too dependent so I was working on doing things for myself and talking to a therapist about my anxiety. There are communication issues due to the drinking but I believe we can work on them. He said he came over thinking he was just going to apologize for how things ended but now he is confused and the past days apart were weird and he realized how dependent he is on me too. He doesn't know what he wants and said he wasn't necessarily unhappy but was just worried we wouldn't last forever. He doesn't want to lose me but isn't sure if I'm the one. We talked for a couple hours back and forth and even kissed a few times, held each other, and said we love each other multiple times. but he left saying he needs time to think about everything. That was now 8 days ago and I haven't heard anything since. Can I contact him if I don't hear from him soon? How much time is normal to think about things and is there any hope of him coming back? Link to comment
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