JRUN Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 10 years, 6 weeks ago today. It started with an argument about going out with an old friend, when I really thought the time could be used more productively building a relationship with my son that had been struggling. I don't fault her for that because I didn't tell her outright my thoughts after she made the plans. We then didn't speak for 2 days. The next thing I know, it is the anniversary of my brother's death and I don't hear from her at all. At the end of the day, I called and broke up with her because I felt devastated that she would forget such a painful day to me. Apparently, she tried to call and said she left a message. She sent a screen shot of the 56sec attempt she made, but nothing more after that. She even admitted that it was odd she didn't hear from me and spoke to her sister about it - again instead of trying me again. So, since, I have been out of the picture. At week 3 I sent an email because I wanted her to understand why, which fell on deaf ears because, now she's the one that's hurt the most because I broke up with her and called her a liar. I did not call her any names or say anything disrespectful, I only said how much it hurt me. That was my last attempt and I haven't tried again in the past 3 weeks. Actually, that's not true, yesterday, I did send a brief I'm happy for your family text because her father received some very good news and she responded back very positively to me, but that was it. Some history though, last year at this time we had a similar break up. I chased her like crazy. I drove myself to be an anxious mess with calls, texts, and showing up at her home. I was out of my mind.We did end up back together and worked through several things, but still had areas that she just wouldn't change. I talked about these areas several times and I think she thought that because I chased her so hard, there was no need to follow through with the things we had discussed when we agreed to try again. This time, except for the email, I have had no contact. I love my girlfriend and I can want to make our lives together, but I don't have it in me this time to chase her. Do you think I am doing the right thing? Do you think she will realize what we had and fight for us or am I fighting a losing battle? Please an advice would be appreciated. Link to comment
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