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  1. Hi. Met a girl off a dating app....I was quite keen from the start. Had a few dates over about 4 weeks. She told me she was falling in love with me and I really felt the same....been on loads of dates, some lasting a couple of months but I genuinely thought this was it. Then...about a week after she told me she was falling in love with me she said she was finding things difficult with "us"...her father has alzheimers and her sister is suffering from really bad depression (they only have each other) So now she says she wants to be friends, which is her prerogative. So my problem I would like some help with is...if shes my friend now what do I do? I fancy her like mad. Do I message her? Phone her? Ask her to meet for coffee? I've not had many female friends.
  2. Hi. My daughter is 21. Just finished uni with a good degree. Shes seeing this lad who is 26 and a complete waste of space. Works very little is absolutely bone idle. He was learning to drive. Why cant I even put up with him? I cant stand him.
  3. I agree with what you say goddess. Its baby steps. Some days I'm fine other days horrific. I'm no spring chicken either. If this takes 4 years to get over properly that will put me mid fifties. I dont think I would let anyone in again either. I knw I shouldn't but I feel like I've thrown away 12 years or at least 6/7 from when it turned bad. Thanks for all your comments guys.
  4. Hi. I was in a quite bad relationship for 12 years. We broke up 9 months ago. I still dream about her now, quite regularly. How long does it take to heal and is there any way I can speed up the process? Thanks.
  5. Yes I think you're right I probably do need counselling to figure out why I feel the way I do. Thank you all for your comments.
  6. I thought about a dating site but I work away from home. People just assume I'm living a double life. My hobbies are...gym, cycling and dog walking. I always have plenty to do to keep me busy.
  7. No. I only have a night out every other month. I'm still going to the gym etc. I also enjoy taking my daughters dogs out.
  8. I dunno if I feel guilty. It's right what you say about me looking back. As katrina1980 said some days are good and some days are bad. The problem I have is I'm thinking about the good times. As rossemosse says I should keep looking forward. Thank you.
  9. Thanks for your words. 12 years we were together for and we knew each other for about 8 years before that.
  10. Sorry I don't really have a question. I was just after assurances that things would get better. That I would stop dreaming about her and things like that. Yes she wasnt very nice to me but I am still hurting.
  11. I've posted on here before about the same relationship. We were going round in circles for years. She wouldn't get divorced, jealous of my kids, family and friends. The final straw was not going to my mothers funeral-that come about because she trounced off because my son in law was at my house when she arrived. I know I wasnt perfect and I'm not blaming her entirely. But I've had enough called it a day 6 months ago but I'm struggling a bit. Thanks.
  12. so he's not ready for a relationship? great, ask him to come back when he is and if you're available great, if not he's missed the boat - don't go along with him calling all the shots. I know this is about me but im not ready for a relationship so im staying clear of women in general. why doesn't he do the same? good luck.
  13. in many respects dogs are much better than people. first and foremost they wont break your heart. what's happening with your dog? are you getting it back? anyways, back to your ex.....ok she accepts no responsibility and wont apologise. I know someone exactly like that. good riddance to her man. make sure you get your dog back though. I would hunt anyone down who took a dog of mine. good luck.
  14. hi, what a great guy you've bagged this time. he's not only cheating on his wife but he's fooled you into thinking he's just staying for the child. he's staying because he wants to. the only way he'll leave her is if she finds out about his affair and boots him through that door. take a good look in the mirror, don't lower yourself to this. stop this affair now. you will never be able to find happiness while in this "relationship". get rid of him and spend some time on your own. good luck.
  15. I agree with Annia. you want different things. you want a serious relationship. it seems like he doesn't. delete, block and move on. you will find happiness elsewhere.
  16. Dean, Jess, Dean, Jess, Dean, Jess.......I think you'd be better off on your own for a while. you're young, you don't NEED a heavy relationship. concentrate on ME for a while until you've forgotten about both of them. good luck :)
  17. give her the space she wants. try to get over her. move on and you will find someone more suitable. good luck.
  18. what if you go to his house and he does behave himself? he did the last time. maybe he's the type who likes the woman to initiate any intimacy (like me) then he's not accused of being a pervert/only after one thing. go to his house if you like spending time with him. nothing will happen if you dont want it to. have fun.
  19. hi, very interesting post. ill comment as i see fit, if that's ok with you. i would say not to have kids if you're after company in your later years. there are all sorts of scenarios which would give you kids not keeping you company into your latter years. i have kids myself. although they have brought me much joy and it is nice to glow with pride with some of their achievements i couldnt categorically say those times outweigh all of the heartache. if you dont feel like having kids for your own sake dont have them. enjoy your life the way it is. by the way, as my kids are now grown up i would say 49 times out of 50 when i hear from them its a problem which they need some help with (normally financial) so it's not all good having kids. good luck, and enjoy your life.
  20. out of interest where was your child? i assume he must have either been with your husband or another relative. is this the type of mother you want to be? i doubt that very much or you wouldnt have posted on here. just dont let it happen again.
  21. hi. it's not that you weren/t good enough. you weren't suitable for him. there will be someone out there you will be suitable for. give up on your feelings for this man and wait until you are healed then move on. don't wait around for him or you might end up with a very lonely miserable life. good luck.
  22. hi. sounds to me she has a huuuuuuge ego. get rid of her. who wants a girl who thinks it's acceptable for her to role around a bed and god knows what else wearing next to nothing with some ervert who shares his sexual fantasies about her with her. are you a moron? that is how she is treating you. get shot. now.
  23. you are her friend and that's what she sees you as. back off and find someone you dont work with. at the minute you think there's no problem. however you are her supervisor and you have no idea yet of what she is capable. what if you do start to see each other and sleeping together then it goes wrong? one would have to leave. worse still HR could get involved. steer clear and cool things off.
  24. hi, sad post. i feel genuinely sorry for you that you had this upbringing. this boy you were involved with sounds a bit strange. you will get over this in time and you will once again feel better about yourself. keep moving forward. dont look back. good luck.
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