1000papercrane Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 Hello everyone on this site, this is going to be a long one. My sister and I have just moved out of my mother's house (with my father co-signing for our place as I am 22 years old and my sister is 19). He has offered to help us pay rent until we can take over, which shouldn't be a problem. Now my mother has told me that there is enough in a University/College fund to pay for one year of school for me, but the rest she has spent on a roof for our cottage (or so she says). I have no proof of how much is in this fund and she has removed my dad's name altogether even though it was originally a joint fund. I don't press her as she gets nasty and has been physically violent with me in the past (let's not discuss the trouble I went through to just leave the house)! She says she only spent about $3,000 of it, but my dad says his financial advisor estimated that the account should've been at around $60,000, and this was years ago. I believe my father because my mother stops at nothing to finance her house and her cottage (that her parents left her) - she has taken my birthday money and my sister's birthday money throughout our childhoods, asked us to pay for our own groceries and living expenses and before we moved out, she stole over $80 from my sister a few days before - all her tips and the money in her bag. My mother also lives in a house with no working bathroom or fridge. She goes to the bathroom outside because she can't afford the bills alone on the two houses on one part-time job and she has cursed at us for cutting off the child support she received from my dad - saying we are heartless and starving her if we leave. My dad compares her attachment to the houses like a drug addiction. Anyway, my mother keeps saying that my dad is going to attack her in court and that he should pay for my schooling as he has more money than her (he is an engineer and his wife is a doctor). She also says that he held up money from their shared house in the divource and she had no choice but to tap into my University/College fund. My dad says that she must be held accountable and pay for the wrongs she has committed - stealing the money for my future, which she has to pay back for a cottage no one needs. I have held off on going to school for years because of this fight. I don't know what to do??? My mother has starved herself to finance these two houses and she is not in a position to defend herself financially... I don't want to see my dad go after her but he has a point... she hasn't been fair... Any suggestions on how I handle this situation??? Oh, and she has threatened to kill my dad but he says she is a dreamer (as she also keeps telling everyone she is going to fix up her current house and get two full-times eventually) and that it is just talk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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