daisysnc Posted August 9, 2017 Share Posted August 9, 2017 Me and my boyfriend met each other off tinder I went back to my hometown for four months. We clicked right away and started our three years long distance relationship and had a really great relationship with each other by visiting each other and going on vacation together so on. ( He has introduced me to his family and best friends but he hasn't met mine yet.) So things start getting complicated just a few months ago. Around May, I quitted my job and moved back to my hometown for around two months. We have been with each other every day and it was the best two months of my life. Throughout that two months, my bf had been studying and doing a lot of reading. I didn't really mind because I understand that he's currently in the process of career change and that must be really stressful for him. So I always went to cafe or stay at home to just read while he's studying. I cooked for him and kept our relationship intimated at all time. He said he loved me sometimes and always hugged me from the back asking me not to leave. However after two months, I had to leave again and just the day before my flight, out of the blue, he told me he wanted a break. He said he is not looking for another girl He is just going to be busy and he wants to emotionally distant himself from me, he just hates that constant emotion swing. I was really upset at first, but then agreeded to the break afterward and told him I would always be there when he needs me. And we had also agreeded on reconnecting again sometimes in September to reassess our status to see if we should break up or stay on this relationship. He has also promised me that during the break, he won't see any other girl. So after leaving my hometown, I went on a trip with my girlfriends with no internet connection, and thus didn't go on fb and as promised, not contacting him for four days straight. When I turned my phone back on, I saw his texts saying he's getting worried about me and told me to text him back to let him know if I'm okay. He even added my best friend on facebook. I did just that and throughout the past two months, I've stopped myself from texting him all the time. However, sometimes he would text me saying he missed me and I have started texting him once or twice a day now without expecting him to reply. I know that now he had completed all his certification courses and must be feeling less stressed now having more control over his life. Every time when he told me he's studying/reading, I would just leave him alone and let him concentrate. Now, he's still texting me back everytime I message him, it's just usually it takes awhile (maybe a few hours to half a day, which honestly I don't mind) or he just replied me with smile face/lol/cutie( he always called me cutie). He doesn't really initiate the conversation anymore. We used to message each other everyday as soon as we woke up. I'm just so confused what pages are we on right now, is he still interested in maintaining this relationship with me, are we still on the break or not? At this point, I'm just so confused and seriously wanted to trust that he's not seeing/sleeping with anyone else at the moment but all the other articles online said otherwise. And it really matters when I'm deciding whether I want to move back to my hometown or not. And also, I'm not sure if it matters, but my boyfriend is bipolar and he had been doing pretty well ever since we dated, he stopped taking the med about three years ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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