kj14 Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 Girlfriend and I of 9 months broke up 3 weeks ago. It was the first relationship for the both of us. It was somewhat mutual, to her ending it, as I saw it coming. Things started going down hill around the 8 month mark but we talked about it and things improved. I'll admit though I was a bit clingy every time I felt like she was pulling away a bit. During the final month we had close to zero communication as it seemed like she was still upset and didn't want to talk and I didn't give up but just gave her space and waited to see when she was ready to talk. She generally gets stressed very easily, and right now she is studying for her medical school entrance exam which is in about 5 weeks, and I didn't want to add more stress into her life. Finally she agreed to talk and said she still loved and cared for me but didn't feel a sense of "security" anymore and didn't know if she could go back to that feeling. She said sorry, as the lack of communication was mostly her fault. She said she wished that at least one of has known how important communication and certain factors were in a relationship. I said now that we know these mistakes we made if she feels like we can learn and work on them.She felt like too much damage had been done over lack of communication. I didn't beg for her to stay, ended on good terms, none of the blocked/unfollowing business. At the end she said "why does it feel like there is still unfinished business between us." and added "if i feel differently I will contact you after my exam (which is in 5 weeks). When I asked her if she lost feelings she immediately denied it but later told a mutual friend that she had, and it was due to lack of communication. However I feel like she is unsure and didn't want to drag it on nor deal with the stress of this rough patch while already super stressed about her medical school exam. Reasons why I think she is unsure: -she wished my best friend whom she has never met before happy birthday days before the break up -she said she had my birthday gift sitting in her room and on the day of the break up, asked if we could meet up for that and I kind of gave of the vibe that I didn't want to (break up was a week before my birthday, she sent me a happy birthday text) -she still likes pictures of my friends and family on instagram -she said "I will msg you if i feel differently after my exam" (knowing the person she is I feel like if she had 100% lost feelings she wouldn't say something like that) I have begun the process of moving forward (currently no contact) but my gut feelings still wants her back. My question is, should I try contacting her after her exam even if she doesn't contact me (that would be just over 2 months after the break up)? Reason why I feel like I want her back. -her friends and family love me -same religious views -same values -rough patch/end of honeymoon phase, paired with lack of communication, and bad timing with her studying for her medical school entrance exam, let to distance between us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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