Htmlguy Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 What do girls want from a man? I am really trying hard and some girls just don't find me attractive or interesting. So, ladies, give me your comments on what a girl want from a man. Thanks, HTMLGUY Link to comment
Celadon Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Hi HTMLguy. Sorry to hear you're not having much luck. It's hard to answer your question, though, because it depends on the type of girl you want. Some like fancy dinners and entertainment, while others want someone to talk to. What kind of girl are you interested in dating? In general, women like a guy who is confident in who he is, someone who shows his sense of humor, someone who has interesting things to say about things they can relate to, a person who cares about other people, and someone who doesn't have scary unresolved emotional issues. That's off the top of my head - hope it helps. Link to comment
Htmlguy Posted April 9, 2005 Author Share Posted April 9, 2005 Thanks... I am confident, smart, and funny but sometimes girls like guys with money. Hmm.. I don't know what else. Link to comment
kskm Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Every girl wants different things; these are qualities that I look for: 1. Some one that I am attracted to physically ( I like the tall, dark features, muscular, nice lips, shaved body) 2. Some one that makes me laugh 3. Some one that brings my best qualities out 4. Some one that makes me want to be a better person 5. Some one that when we go to a party doesn't have to be hanging on me every minute- they can hang out with the guys and eye me accross the room- but someone that also knows when I want them near me 6. Some one that isn't afraid to hang out with the guys 7. Some one that loves cuddling me 8. Some one that misses me when I am gone 9. Some one that wants the best for me 10. Some one that is sucessful in life- no matter what they do 11. Some one that isn't afraid to tell the me the total truth- no matter how bad 12. Some one that respects me 13.Some one that if I am getting into a fight with a girl - never happens- knows to stand back, but knows when a guy is bothering me when to come up and interviene, but do it maturely- unless things get out of control, then someone to protect me 14. Sone one that is thoughtful in everything they do 15. Some one that wants some of the things I want in life 16. Some one that takes care of themselves 17. Some one that isn't afraid to get dirty with me 18. Some one that knows when to throw me around and when to lay me gently down 19. Some one that can sense my moods 20. Some one that knows where to kiss me and how 21. Some one that values what I value 22. Some one that spoils me- doesn't have to be materialistic- and doesn't mind being spolied 23. Some one that will kiss me in the rain 24. Some one that will play with my little sisters 25. Some one that will be a good father 26. Some one that is committed in everything they do 27. Some one that has their priorities straight 28. Some one that knows when to back down in a argument, and when to keep arguing- lol so complicated I am 29. Some one that doesn't mind getting into the car on Sunday and just driving wherever the road takes us 30. Some one that can spend every day with me and never run out of conversation 31. Some one that knows how to cheer me up 32. Some one that loves every thing about me- even the things that drive them crazy The list goes on and on and on and on....... but that's just me Link to comment
Celadon Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 HTML guy - Are you really talking in generalities, or is there a specific woman whose attention you're trying to attract? Just curious. Yes. Some women like guys with money. If you're not one of them, then you have two options - get some more money, or look at other women. I doubt a woman who values money is going to change her tastes. Link to comment
Htmlguy Posted April 9, 2005 Author Share Posted April 9, 2005 well there is something that i have that might scare girls away. Link to comment
I_love_rain_hugs_and_you Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Just for fun I have copied KSKM's list and discussed how well I fit in.... Every girl wants different things; these are qualities that I look for: 1. Some one that I am attracted to physically ( I like the tall, dark features, muscular, nice lips, shaved body) ---I am very tall....a plus ----Dark features.....not on me.... ----Muscular....I am strong, but no muscles tend to show..... --Girls, what qualifies as nice lips? --I shave regularly.......do i need to wax the hair off my chest?/...haha 2. Some one that makes me laugh ----I am really bad at humour....probably the worst...is it really that important...? I am romantic atleast 3. Some one that brings my best qualities out ---I always notice someone's good qualities and compliment them. If I get married, everyday I will compliment my wife on something!!!! 4. Some one that makes me want to be a better person ---Of course, I want to see us BOTH grow, and to grow with each other, and to grow together, and not be frustrated at each others lack of growth...but yes growing together, and learning from mistakes together is most important to me... 5. Some one that when we go to a party doesn't have to be hanging on me every minute- they can hang out with the guys and eye me accross the room- but someone that also knows when I want them near me ---Hmm.....i don't really go to parties. I would trust my girlfriend or wife and not be cliny. But how would I tell when she wants me bacK? 6. Some one that isn't afraid to hang out with the guys ---My wife's guy friends?????? 7. Some one that loves cuddling me ----That is where I score high......I would love cuddling....cuddling atleast for 15 minutes every day....preferably more 8. Some one that misses me when I am gone ---Of course i will miss her, and think about her, and tell her that I miss her...... 9. Some one that wants the best for me ---of course....as long as we can agree what is "best" 10. Some one that is sucessful in life- no matter what they do ---does being romantic count? 11. Some one that isn't afraid to tell the me the total truth- no matter how bad ---I am a truth teller........that is another high point for me.... 12. Some one that respects me --of course 13.Some one that if I am getting into a fight with a girl - never happens- knows to stand back, but knows when a guy is bothering me when to come up and interviene, but do it maturely- unless things get out of control, then someone to protect me ---I would want to protect my future wife from other girls, as well as from guys....girls can be just as bad at guys at inflicting hurt 14. Sone one that is thoughtful in everything they do --- I hope to be 15. Some one that wants some of the things I want in life --Of course 16. Some one that takes care of themselves . ---A big point for me....i have extremely high sense of personal responsibility 17. Some one that isn't afraid to get dirty with me --um.....depends what you mean by that. I don't tell sex jokes....ever....i don't watch porn....and i don't want to get involved in any sadism or "unnatural" sex acts...... 18. Some one that knows when to throw me around and when to lay me gently down --I don't throw girls around 19. Some one that can sense my moods + --I am very good at that 20. Some one that knows where to kiss me and how --I have never kissed a girl. I need to learn more about how to kiss a girl. 21. Some one that values what I value --Of course 22. Some one that spoils me- doesn't have to be materialistic- and doesn't mind being spolied ---I fit in here 23. Some one that will kiss me in the rain ----I definitely want to do that...again and again and again..... 24. Some one that will play with my little sisters --I will try....i'm not good with kids, but I wiill try... 25. Some one that will be a good father -=--i hope to be the best 26. Some one that is committed in everything they do ---sometimes....but I am always committed to people, and i never break promises i make to peopel 27. Some one that has their priorities straight ---this is where i score high 28. Some one that knows when to back down in a argument, and when to keep arguing- lol so complicated I am ---I walk away from arguments that don't go anywhere 29. Some one that doesn't mind getting into the car on Sunday and just driving wherever the road takes us ----sure!!!!!! But walking is better (and cheaper) 30. Some one that can spend every day with me and never run out of conversation ----i can never run out of conversation 31. Some one that knows how to cheer me up ---i am good at that!!!!! 32. Some one that loves every thing about me- even the things that drive them crazy ---i love people, not everything about them. I love the person..... Link to comment
kskm Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Hm. Well you took some of the things out of context.. getting dirty I mean rolling around in the dirt- I am not afraid to "get dirty". Throw me around is sexual, I will be the first to say that I love it when a guy can take charge in the bedroom and be agresssive. Hang out with the guys- their friends, without thinking that I am going to be mad. You'll know when your girl wants you- eye contact. There are such things as healthy arguments- I don't mean knock down drag out fights. Every girl has their own list- mine would go on and on. Link to comment
I_love_rain_hugs_and_you Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 I like to see myself as a leader, but not as a dominator. I could never throw my girl around. I lead by example. I lead, she follows. But never would i be aggressive or forceful. Link to comment
Nap-Man Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Just thought I would throw in my opinion here. I am a graduate student right now and don't have any money what-so-ever. I sympathize with you, it was so easy to pick up women in college and when I was working. It does get a lot harder when you can't show off your money or impress them with your spending……… There is a huge upside to this. If you do meet a woman when you are broke then you can pretty much be sure that she loves you for you. I have no idea if you are talking about meeting women to get laid or to have a relationship with. I am going to speak as if you are seeking love and a relationship. Women that are only impressed with money are the easiest to pick up when you have it and in my opinion the kind of women you want to avoid anyway. What would happen if you seduce a woman with your money and then lost your job? You think a woman that loved you for money will stick with you through that? There are always men out there who make more money than you do. Where is the security in that? What is to stop her from upgrading to a more expensive lifestyle down the road? Do you really think you can respect a woman who needs you only for money? I know it sucks and it seems like all women out there are only after the cash. That is why when you meet one who isn't and that you are attracted to you need to do everything in your power to stay with her! Trust me; I have met some amazingly wonderful women who are beautiful on the outside as well as inside. They can take care of themselves and are only looking for love out of a man. They do exist. They are hard to find because they are usually taken but they are out there. I know it doesn't help in the short term but if you meet a woman who is only interested in cash then she is shallow and won't make a good partner in your life anyway. Uhhh, if you are just trying to pick up women, then cash helps a lot! That I can't argue with. If you are not strikingly handsome or a smooth talker and you are broke it will be a tough sell! I don't know your age but the bar/club scene can be brutal on your ego if you can't hang with the rich guys! -Nap Link to comment
DoesSheExist Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Well, let me give you a little advice man. There is an age old adage that simply speaks "walk the walk." When you're out trying to date/hook up/have sex with/*insert desire here* with women a lot of guys make the mistake of trying to hard and they end up acting needy or looking like complete approval seekers. And from the way you described your problem, it sounded to me like this could be you. You shouldnt be asking the question, "what do women want", you should be asking "what do I want in a woman?" When you ask the question "what do women want", you imply that there is inherently something wrong with YOU and that YOU should change, not the woman. Ironically, THIS is the problem. The fact that you are insecure about this comes accross in social interactions with women you are attracted to and ends up making YOU unattactive. Get it? Now this only scratches the surface, and there are many more things that could be going wrong (maybe youre boring, or you dont have a lot of thing going on inyour life), but this, above all else, is what will make you the MOST unattractive to women. I hope this helps, oh and any women who read this please reply with your thoughts, id appreciate some feedback. Link to comment
kskm Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 I wanted to add something in here to Nap-Man; If a girl is with a guy that has money- automatically she's after it. Did you ever think that there are girls out there that are sucessful themselves and meet sucessful people and couldn't care less if they had money or not? Even if a girl isn't that sucessful ( I once heard a saying that I try to live by- you are who you hang around- so I hung around sucessful people that lead me somewhere ) and if she hangs out with someone that has money- that doesn't mean she'll all for it either. There are plenty of "REAL" people out there that just because their guy has moeny doesn't mean that that's all they are about. I could say the same thing about me. If a guy was trying to get with me I could say "oh he just wants me for my money" but I know that there are people out there- plenty of peope that want me for me, and aren't looking just for the $$$$ Link to comment
Nap-Man Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 kskm, I know there are sucessful women out there who could care less. I didn't mean that all women who are with rich guys are only with them for the money. I hope that my rant didn't come accross that way. HTML was worried that most women only want guys with money. I was trying to say that there are women out there who don't and that the ones that do you need to stay away from anyway. I know many girls with wealthy men who love them deeply for who they are. I pictured HTML hanging around in bars/clubs trying to meet women and getting judged or shot down because he wasn't rich. I was trying to say that unless you are just looking for a one night stand, any woman who won't talk to you becasue you are not rich isn't worth dealing with anyway. I know there are women out there like you who don't care. I know there are guys like me who could care less what a woman does for a living......sucess is not measured by money alone. Like you said there are people out there who want you for who you are, no matter what your financial situation is like. Oh, and don't get me wrong, there are just as many guys who only care about looks or even money as there are women who do the same. I was just talking to HTML so I focsed on women......... Link to comment
kskm Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Nap-Man, Understood. And thanyou for califying. HTML, Maybe you aren't "hanging" out in the right places. I've never thought that it was a good idea to pick up girls at bars because when the two parties involved are intoxicated it seems to take a lot longer time to ever even know the person. I know someone that got married recently and when they started to have a normal life- paying bills together, having nights in together, they noticed that they really didn't like each other. They were so use to going out with each other and being drunk around each other, that that is all that they knew about one another. Just fair warning. Trying meeting girls while doing something that you love, and do not dip below your means either. Link to comment
Htmlguy Posted April 9, 2005 Author Share Posted April 9, 2005 i don't hang out at the bars. I hang out with friends and they are very nice to me. It seems that I always strike out. I can't understand it though. I am nice, honest, smart and I have a well paid job. It seems the jerks always win their hearts but after awhile the ladies reliazed that they made a mistake. I am not needy at all toward girls. So, I only wanted to know how to make a girl respect and love me for what I am (The nice guy). That is all. Link to comment
Celadon Posted April 10, 2005 Share Posted April 10, 2005 So, I only wanted to know how to make a girl respect and love me for what I am (The nice guy). That is all. Sounds like you are on the right track, then. But understand that you can't make anyone respect and love you. You can only attract the right kind of woman (a nice one) by being who you are (nice) and demonstrating that in a visible way. Talk about what's important to you. Let it slip about the nice things that you do - communicate who you are. For example, that you were helping your mom with something last weekend, or you volunteer at a homeless shelter, or that you think it's a shame that teachers don't get paid more. That's all part of the "nice guy" package that you need to sell. The jerks are selling something else, but who cares? There's no need to be who you aren't. Link to comment
sdguy118 Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 ok, SERIOUSLY NOW, i read all these things, and i've gotta tell you....all these things...that is SOOOOOO me!!!!! omg! I mean totally!!! every single one of those all the way up to number 32!! dang, seriously every one of those things, just says my name all over it. Why can't i meet someone like you? i am all about every one of those......just wanted to let you know that...its just tough finding someone like that... Link to comment
Mjane Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 I don't know how old you are. Or what kind of women you go for. I think if you have the same "repeat" experiences ie: the chicks go for the wild guy and leave you in the dust -- then the problem isn't so much the women it's the kind of women you are attracted to. Broaden your horizons. Ask women out you wouldn't normally go after. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Htmlguy, Just be yourself, if a girl doesn't like you for you then she isn't the girl for you. Money, looks, etc. shouldn't be an issue. What really matters is that you and her share a special connection with each other. Once that happens, everything else will fall into place. kskm, Most of those things can pretty much apply to what anyone wants. Basically it comes down to wanting someone who will love us, who shares similar values, interests, and beliefs, and someone who understands us completely. Link to comment
sweet_bebcho Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 If a guy can make me laugh, histerically, the we'll take it from there. Lol Maybe its just me! I love to laugh Link to comment
marolua Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 As all of us know, most of us tend to attract to similar girls and boys, usually we tend to pick up a person which we find attractive for one or another reason. But there arises a problem when we can not break the patterns that we are unhappy in. As an example, I always get attracted to the 'detached, unavailable' type of men. I find them great, and I can attract them back, fine, but sooner or later they begin to be 'unavailable' for my measures. So I go crazy, start to think that 'he doesn not love me anymore' and the relationship ends. So I get over my ex, start a new life. But I am still attracted to the same type of men. I realize that the end of the realtionship would be the same, and I draw myself back. So I am left alone. Thats not so bad, but this cant last forever? I need to find a way to break with my relationship patterns, but dont know how. Can I ever get attracted to another type of guy? Is there a way to be sure that I am over my patterns? How do we break with the past and start a new future? Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted May 5, 2005 Share Posted May 5, 2005 Umm, one important one I think women look for is that you don't care what other people think of you. I guess that goes under confidence though. So yeah, confidence is pretty much a big portion of what makes a woman attracted to you, like it's 50%...or more I'm not sure I'm not a girl. Link to comment
kskm Posted May 5, 2005 Share Posted May 5, 2005 What do girls want from a man? I am really trying hard and some girls just don't find me attractive or interesting. So, ladies, give me your comments on what a girl want from a man. Thanks, HTMLGUY Shy Soul, Just answering his question with what I like. General, yes, but sometimes the "obvious" isn't so obvious. Link to comment
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