Jisho12 Posted April 17, 2017 Share Posted April 17, 2017 Ok, to make a long story short, I was in this relationship for about 2 months more or less with this girl  (it was long distance but I did meet her in person once before about a year before we actually started dating and we did have small little conversations prior to that) but within that time, she cheated on me and basically treated me like crap and by "crap" I mean she went from basically seeing me as the greatest guy ever, (Her own words plus basically outright proposed to me while we were still friends the few months prior to being in an actual relationship), to becoming very distant, argumentative and manipulative with me. They was even one time after she broke up with me (and I stupidly agreed to be "friends" immediately after) where I asked her if I could vent to her because I was just going thru so much emotionally one day and she said tore me down right after saying "you need to get a gameplan together and work on your low self esteem", even though she agreed to listen to me. But anyway, I found out she ran off with another guy and he broke her heart, (I know because she didn't unfriend from Facebook (strangely enough) until we got into a big argument about my suspicions that she was seeing someone else. She naturally denied it and started blaming me for everything. But she came running back after about a month asking to be "just friends" (after the guy broke up with her of course), I stupidly accepted her offer for "friendship" again. Plusshe told me about it and how it didn't work because the guy pressured her to have sex and was thuggish and just a whole lot of other negative things). The "friendship" went good for a couple of weeks but it started going sour again especially when we had the chance to meet up in person again but she decided to stand me up go to see a friend that she said she hadn't even seen in years even though we made plans at least 2 weeks prior (and apparently there was another time we could've met too but she blamed that on me saying that she thought that I was mad at her so she didn't let me know). We argued about it, I told her how disrespectful that was, she apologized profusely but as even then, as tge days went by, she started getting distant, manipulative and argumentative again which caused another argument. It got to a point in the argument where I started crying because of something she said and I couldn't hold them back. She must of heard me through the phone and felt bad because she reluctantly told me that she was seeing the same guy again and that it was for a couple of weeks now. The phone just got silent. I don't know if she hung up or what but I was just so extremely, hurt all around that I just texted her to lose my number and everything associated with me and then she sent me a text apologizing and saying how good I was and blah, blah, blah. I didn't respond. It took me a while after that to stop spying on her page and to build myself back up emotionally... About a year later, she sends me text with just my name. I didn't respond. About a month after that, she unblocks (because she blocked me after our first little argument) from Facebook to send me an apology about she was sorry for everything and that's she's sorry for causing me any unnecessary pain b and hopes that I'm doing good and all that. It sounded sincere so I thanked her and told her I appreciate it. She then proceeds to try to ask how I'm doing and to have a conversation with me, but I just responded with "I'm good" and she got the hint because she said that "lol sorry, I see you don't want to converse". I responded that I was busy and she said she understood and blocked me again about 3 days later. I also found out she married the dude she cheated on me with when she texted me too.... I haven't talked to her since and don't plan to, was that even a legitimate apology or was should I even have responded to that because when she tried to start to have a conversation with me is when I started having a suspicion that she was just trying to get me back as a fallback.... But my question with all of this is, even though I'm much better than I was even a few months ago, when she texted me again this last time, it just brought so many old wounds. Lots of anger, sadness, betrayal, regret, etc. It reminded me of how weak I was. It's just hard sometimes. I've haven't put my life on hold because of this, in fact I just went on a date, but it has deeply affected me emotionally and I'd be lying if I say that I haven't been struggling with depression a little since all of this has happened. I don't know... Link to comment
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