baseballer7 Posted March 27, 2017 Share Posted March 27, 2017 Me and my girlfriend of 2.5 years had an abortion about 7 months ago. I was not fully involved in the decision and to an extent I resent her for the simple fact that I couldn't be there for her, but at the end of the day am OKAY with what happened and have come to terms with it. Our sex live after the ordeal really suffered but I was not too pushy on my needs as I understood what she just went through. Over the past 2 months it has come up how we rushed into sex afterwards and she wasn't really ready to have sex this happened about 4 months after the abortion. It was clear that she didnt fully enjoy the sex like she use to and kept positions and intimacy to a minimal throughout sex. Towards the end of this all she started to trade me things for sex. For example if I gave her a back massage she would f*** me. This should have been a huge red flag to me but I, like an idiot kept up with it. At the end of the day I was getting laid by the girl I love. I thought this simply could be because she was afraid of what happened. 7 months later and I know she isn't sexually attracted to me anymore. There is still a huge amount of love for each other there, and I personally know she's the only girl I want to be with. I simply just don't know what to do. I do not what to date someone who doesn't want to be intimate with me, and Im starting to think she feels the same way. How do her and I fix the problem at hand? When there is still a huge amount of love left what do I do? We still do everything for each other we simply just aren't having sex at this point. I don't want to hurt us anymore and just want to work on fixing us. Do you think if I hit the gym harder she'll in return be attracted to me again? If I improve myself and don't make it seem as she is my everything anymore will that put her on her toes? I am willing to do whatever I need to get that true feeling that I'm dying for again, I simply am just at a lost of words on what to do. We are very open with each other and have a wide open line of communication she simply just does not like going to a therapist (has suffered from issues with docs before and think seeing one together could turn her off even more) What do y'all suggest I do? I really don't want to lose the girl of my dreams but refuse to continue to be in an unhealthy relationship Link to comment
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