Samsmallv Posted March 23, 2017 Share Posted March 23, 2017 My boyfriend of about a year broke up with me. we were unofficial 6 months prior so to me it's more like a year and a half. We were on and off again friends because of my feelings for him and his mixed feelings for me years prior. He told me he loved me very clearly and was supportive. We had a healthy relationship overall. We supported each other's goals and we booked a trip to japan this October. There was something lacking but we didn't talk about it. We appeared to be good. An he came over a lot. To a point where I noticed. He had to go up north b/c his sis was in the hospital. through it all he kept in contact n i supported him. He never left her side. sadly after weeks of fighting, she passed away. He texted me early morning when she passed. We texted a few days after she passed. I didnt hear from him for over a week. I had to contact his aunt. I helped take care of his room and cleaned after his cats while still taking care of my own cats and my own life. When he got back he broke up with me. While my feelings grew in his abstance cuz i wasn't sure how I felt prior. I knew it wudnt be the same for me cuz all he cud think about was his sister. That's how he is. He can only foucs on the matter at hand and nothing else. I was suprised when he wished me a happy valentine's day while in the hospital. It also happened to be his mother's birthday. I even took his sister's passing harder than I expected. He wanted to break up in person but he ended up texting me saying he wanted to be friends and that's all he could offer me. He said he wouldnt be fair for me to continue the relationship. He said he wanted to find happyniess. he didn't feel like much has changed since we've been friends. and he's in a diff place right now. When I read his text, I felt nothing. Doen't matter how many times I read it. I expected him to break up with me but not for those reasons. I haven't responded since. I don't know what to say to him. I knew he wouldn't come back the same and I expected the breakup because of his sister's loss. He also said it had nothing to do with him needing time to grieve. He shut me out. and opened up to a mutual friend he doesn't keep up with often. He told our mutural friend he is taking his sister's death hard. His aunt told me the same. He used to tell me everything and now he stopped. It hurts. It's been a month since his sister passed and a week since he broke up with me. I haven't texted him back and I feel like I've abandoned him. I don't know what to do. and I still cry about everything. About his sister and the beautiful life she had she was only 22 recenlty engaged and about to move in with him. I cry because the bf I knew is gone and he is a different state and I have not seen him since probably the end of January. Link to comment
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