I like her, what do i do

[deputydog]

Alrighty, I've known this girl for a loong time we go (went) to a small school together but this past year (seniors) i started really falling for her. She had been going out with a guy for 2.5 years and he treated her like shit so she broke up with him in January. He and I are also kinda friends and we talk i know he still loves her but i dont know how she feels about him. Anyway, I started talking to her more and more and i know that for at least a couple months afterwards she hated him and said she never wanted to get back together with him. In late March, early April, I asked her to prom and she went with me and we started going to see movies and stuff and we had a lot of fun...she said she'd never had so much fun in that town, but we werent "going out". About two weeks before prom she told me she wasnt ready for a relationship yet, which i understood cuz i takes time i guess. Then the week after i was talking to her (ex) best friend about the whole ordeal and she said that she thought of me more as a girlfriend to go to movies and stuff with, and that she was thinking about going out with him again after we graduated (three weeks ago), so i was prettydown, but prom was great and we had a lotta fun. A week or two later i brought up the relationship thing again and she said she was thinkin about starting one again, and that she would think about going out with me. But then last weekend i think it was, her ex boyfriend called her up and asked if he could take her to lunch and then to work so he could talk to her...wanting to talk to her about them again. I know he didnt ask her out, but then earlier this week they went to the movies together. I've asked her a couple times before he saw him last weekend if she was gonna get back together with him again, and she said she didnt know. I guess im just worried shes gonna get back together with him again, is there anything i can do to show her that im better than him or to make her like me more? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

[Justaguy21]

Just keep being her friend. Be careful though because she is defintely confused and dosnt know who she wants. She still loves her boyfriend I think and so that could be trouble for you. I've seen many cases where a girl would start dating someone new and then the old boyfriend would come back "Changed" and the girl would take him back. It's usually the reason that she has had such a long history with him and been through so much. She probably dosnt want to go through all that work again with someone new right now. I suggest you just be nice to her still and don't try to interfer with stuff because it could diminish future plans with her. Give it time so that she can get things straight in her head and finally make rational decisions. Good luck,

-justaguy

[deputydog]

OK...i appreciate the advice, if anybody else has anything else keep it comin please

[Ac143]

Yeah I agree with Justaguy 100 percent... the best thing you can do right now is just be her friend. She might get back with her ex just because they have a long history together and supposely he changed or whatever but, eventually she will realize why they broke up in the first place and with you still there as a friend, will help her a lot. She knows you want a relationship with her because you let her know a few times right? If she was ready for a new relationship she wouldn't have hesitated and took your offer already. I honesty don't think she is ready for a new relationship, she probably still has a lot of mixed emotions about her old relationship and you wouldn't want those emotions going into your new relationship. Rebound is never a good thing. Just be her friend right now, she knows you want to be with her and if and when she is ready I'm sure she will let you know. Good Luck

[NNIgelb1]

you never ever ever ever ever ever ever want to be "friends" with a girl,

there is nothing in it for you EVER, (well as far as turning her into a girlfriend, once your in the friend category it's extremely difficult to get into the boyfriend category. never pay attention to what women say only what they do (extremely important) and the best way to get her back with you is never call her , well for about a month and tell her your seeing someone else, if you don't believe me you'll find out the hard way when you try to talk to her about it, don' t say i didn't warn you before hand